Post # 1
My friend’s getting married next weekend and I haven’t decided if I want to go to the ceremony or not. Her family speaks primarily Spanish and his family is bilingual, so the wedding will be entirely in Spanish. I understand very little of the language, but she’s been my friend since 5th grade, even though we’ve lost touch over the years. What would you do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’d go as long as other people who know (who speak English!) are also going. It’d be fine to attend a ceremony I didn’t attend… I wouldn’t be into attending a whole ceremony + reception with only people I couldn’t understand…
Post # 4
I would go, if I knew the reception would have people who also spoke English! Honestly, I think ceremonies are beautiful, and seeing one in a different language would just make me tune more into the symbolic aspects of the ceremony.
Post # 5
i wouldn’t think twice about it- i’d totally go!
Post # 6
@HonoraryNerd: Yes. In my country (and I suspect in yours) Greek Orthodox churches perform the wedding ceremony in Greek. I sat/stood through a ceremony where I didn’t understand a word (maybe there was a tiny bit of English, I’m not sure). I have no regrets about going (it was less than an hour of my life) and would do it again.
If you’re think of skipping the ceremony and going to the reception…. don’t. That’s generally regarded as rude; like skipping the important part but coming for the free food.
Post # 7
Yes! I have been to weddings in languages I didn’t speak from religions that I am not a part of– it is always interesting and you learn more about your friend and her culture. You should totally go!!
Post # 8
Of course I’d go! It’s only a language – nothing scary there. Supporting a friend trumps language barrier everyday.
Post # 9
Yes, the sentiment behind the wedding is still the same, a celebration of love and the joining of two people as one! I would just as readily attend a Bar or Bat Mitsvah conducted in hebrew as I would a Quinceañera or a cotillion/debutante ball. Its all about celebrating love and the milestones in life, and that transcends race, religion, language and creed!
Post # 10
Unless it’s a full mass or something, the ceremony will only be 20 mins or whatever so go. It’s your friend. Vows are vows whatever language they’re in. I’m sure there will be people to talk to at the reception.
Post # 11
@HonoraryNerd: i think you should go. it’s always nice to experience events from different cultures.
Post # 12
yes. I went to a 3 hour long Indian ceremony and I didn’t understand a word they said. It was one of the best weddings I have ever witnessed!
Post # 13
Why not? I can always understand the language of love! The love will be evident and thats all that matters!
Post # 14
Similar to PPs, here’s my two cents: go to the ceremony! A wedding ceremony is a celebration of love and commitment and is something to be cherished.
Now, if you’re considering not attending the entire event, re: you’ve lost touch, that may be a different story.
In the end, it would be the ultimate insult to skip her ceremony and only attend the reception.
Post # 15
I’d definitely go. That’s one of your oldest friends! Personally, I wouldn’t miss it for the world. Yea, you won’t understand the words, but you can still witness their vows and see their happiness as they are married. Plus, it sounds like plenty of people will be speaking English at the reception.
Post # 16
Absolutely I would attend. It’s pretty easy to figure out what’s going on. It’s more about being there for my friend than anything else.