Post # 1
A good friend of mine is throwing a party. On the invite, she puts this (direct quote):
Please bring your own meat and alcoholic beverages, a side dish to share, a swimming suit/trunks and towel. Please bring any floaty devices for your kids, if needed.
I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not, but basically we are expected to feed and refresh ourselves as well as others (i.e., “a side dish to share”). And how do we bring meat for one or two? Buy a pack of hot dogs and put two in a ziploc bag then transport to her house on a cooler (with drinks and a big side dish to share?). Ugh. Sounds like a lot of work to me. What do you think?
Post # 3
So, you’re essentially hosting yourselves and your friend is only providing the pool as a venue? What a strange invite. If she had presented it as a potluck gathering, that would be fine. But this way just comes of cheap. Like, if you’re not going to provide any food or refreshments, why are you even hosting this party?
Post # 4
Wow. Nope, doubt I’d attend that one. I guess she’s providing THE POOL. Hehe.
Post # 5
Huh, that’s weird. I’ve been to parties where you bring a side dish to pass and the host provides the main dish as well as most of the drinks (though people usually bring some alcohol to share anyway) or you bring the meat you want grilled and the host will grill it and also provide the side dishes and some beverages. But never have I heard of bringing your own meat AND a dish to pass. I find that rude – basically the hostess is asking her guests to finance the party.
Now whether I attend or not would depend on who’s going. If I like the hosts and the other people attending, then I’d still go. Otherwise, I’d pass. It is a lot of effort for one party that you aren’t hosting.
Post # 7
@Skittles131: WE HAVE FRIENDS THAT DO THIS!!! I thought it was just us!
EVERY invite they send out looks JUST like that:
“Dinner party/BBQ/Party at our place. BYOB and bring a dish to share.” Then there always is a last minute, follow up mass email asking for everyone to bring their own cups, meat, etc.
*But* I must admit we always attend because the WTF factor has me like a moth to a flame.
Post # 8
You might as well just stay at your house! I have heard of potluck, but that is bringing it a little far! I have heard of people bringing a side dish or maybe some alcohol to contribute, but not everything!
Post # 9
Depends on how bored I am that day. Seems like a lot of work for a party just as a guest.
Post # 10
That’s odd. I’ve been to parties where you bring one thing to share (like pot luck), or the host ask you to bring a side and they provide the entree and alcohol. Asking each guest to bring the meat for just themselves is weird on its own, added to BYOB and side is extra weird.
I there were other people going that I really wanted to spend time with I would attend, but that’s the only reason.
Post # 11
I am actually going to something like this tomorrow. I mean we are a very close group of friends and the women of the group usually pick a date and just tell the guys. We have to bring a meat, a side, and any alochol. The host is provided house, grill, non alcoholic drinks, basic condiments, and utensils.
It does cost a lot of money to throw BBQ’s for our friends so we all don’t mind doing this. It is a way to get our circle of friends together.
Post # 12
I’d go if I really liked the person or people there. Otherwise I’d skip it. I usually see the BYOB plus bring a side dish. But usually the person hosting provides the meat/main dish and cups/dishes/condiments. Very strange to be asked to bring your own meat IMO. I think you could assign someone (who was willing) to bring extra meat instead of a side dish though.
Post # 13
Hell no!! I have to bring my own meat, sides AND drinks?! WTH?! If that’s the case, I’ll just enjoy MY groceries at my own darn house!!! LMAO
Post # 14
I don’t see a problem with BYOB, and I’ve never been to a BBQ and not brought meat with me as a help, but to put it like that is a little brash and rudes
Post # 15
I don’t see what’s wrong with this – both my group of friends and my fiance’s friends do this often. It’s just getting together with friends.
Post # 16
@ecrowe1218: I understand the costs involved but if you can’t afford to throw the party, don’t. If you can’t afford to buy some burgers, hot dogs, buns, etc – don’t have a party. No one is forcing this person to. Byob and a side dish make sense, as PP said.