Would you attend this party?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would you attend this party?
    Yes, though I eye-rolled invite : (36 votes)
    19 %
    Yes, and I don't see what the big deal is : (50 votes)
    27 %
    No, I'll be "busy" that day : (53 votes)
    28 %
    No, I think that's ridiculous : (42 votes)
    23 %
    Other (specify in comments) : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    716 posts
    Busy bee

    So, you’re essentially hosting yourselves and your friend is only providing the pool as a venue?  What a strange invite.  If she had presented it as a potluck gathering, that would be fine.  But this way just comes of cheap.  Like, if you’re not going to provide any food or refreshments, why are you even hosting this party?

    Post # 4
    9019 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Wow.  Nope, doubt I’d attend that one.  I guess she’s providing THE POOL.  Hehe.

    Post # 5
    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Huh, that’s weird.  I’ve been to parties where you bring a side dish to pass and the host provides the main dish as well as most of the drinks (though people usually bring some alcohol to share anyway) or you bring the meat you want grilled and the host will grill it and also provide the side dishes and some beverages.  But never have I heard of bringing your own meat AND a dish to pass.  I find that rude – basically the hostess is asking her guests to finance the party.

    Now whether I attend or not would depend on who’s going.  If I like the hosts and the other people attending, then I’d still go.  Otherwise, I’d pass.  It is a lot of effort for one party that you aren’t hosting.


    Post # 7
    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Skittles131:  WE HAVE FRIENDS THAT DO THIS!!! I thought it was just us!


    EVERY invite they send out looks JUST like that:


    “Dinner party/BBQ/Party at our place. BYOB and bring a dish to share.” Then there always is a last minute, follow up mass email asking for everyone to bring their own cups, meat, etc.




    *But* I must admit we always attend because the WTF factor has me like a moth to a flame.


    Post # 8
    1195 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    You might as well just stay at your house! I have heard of potluck, but that is bringing it a little far! I have heard of people bringing a side dish or maybe some alcohol to contribute, but not everything!

    Post # 9
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Depends on how bored I am that day. Seems like a lot of work for a party just as a guest. 

    Post # 10
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    That’s odd.  I’ve been to parties where you bring one thing to share (like pot luck), or the host ask you to bring a side and they provide the entree and alcohol.  Asking each guest to bring the meat for just themselves is weird on its own, added to BYOB and side is extra weird.

    I there were other people going that I really wanted to spend time with I would attend, but that’s the only reason.

    Post # 11
    432 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I am actually going to something like this tomorrow. I mean we are a very close group of friends and the women of the group usually pick a date and just tell the guys. We have to bring a meat, a side, and any alochol. The host is provided house, grill, non alcoholic drinks, basic condiments, and utensils. 


    It does cost a lot of money to throw BBQ’s for our friends so we all don’t mind doing this. It is a way to get our circle of friends together.

    Post # 12
    8483 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’d go if I really liked the person or people there.  Otherwise I’d skip it.  I usually see the BYOB plus bring a side dish.  But usually the person hosting provides the meat/main dish and cups/dishes/condiments.  Very strange to be asked to bring your own meat IMO.  I think you could assign someone (who was willing) to bring extra meat instead of a side dish though.

    Post # 13
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Hell no!! I have to bring my own meat, sides AND drinks?! WTH?! If that’s the case, I’ll just enjoy MY groceries at my own darn house!!! LMAO



    Post # 14
    844 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I don’t see a problem with BYOB, and I’ve never been to a BBQ and not brought meat with me as a help, but to put it like that is a little brash and rudes

    Post # 15
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I don’t see what’s wrong with this – both my group of friends and my fiance’s friends do this often. It’s just getting together with friends. 

    Post # 16
    716 posts
    Busy bee

    @ecrowe1218:  I understand the costs involved but if you can’t afford to throw the party, don’t.  If you can’t afford to buy some burgers, hot dogs, buns, etc – don’t have a party.  No one is forcing this person to.  Byob and a side dish make sense, as PP said.

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