Would you attend this wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you go?
    yes : (50 votes)
    24 %
    no : (155 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 3
    1624 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, I don’t think I’d attend.  Very odd.

    Post # 5
    2575 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @tiff-tiff-tiff:  I’m leaning on “No,” b/c I find it odd that you were “invited” but “the invitations ran out.” They couldn’t get some extra invites that would give you information about the wedding/reception? It strikes me as odd. Even if you were “B” or “C” listed, I would expect better treatment by the bride/groom than being orally invited and then having to wonder on WBee whether you should go or not. I’d pass.

    Post # 6
    590 posts
    Busy bee

    Yes I would go.  I love weddings, even if I am invited at the last minute. Also I was guilty of doing a similar last minute verbal invite.  Very rude I know 🙁 But I really did want that person to come. 

    Post # 7
    12262 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I probably would!

    But I really, really like weddings!

    That method of being asked is super, super bizarre!

    Post # 8
    3672 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @tiff-tiff-tiff:  this happened with my DHs coworker and I am really glad we went 🙂 

    We know her and her husband but aren’t super close to either of them. We were verbally invited and were only given like a weeks notice. It was so much fun to go and to be honest, their wedding was empty. Lots of people bailed and we are glad that we filled a least two extra chairs. Plus we got to dance like nobodies business because we didn’t know anyone! 

    Post # 9
    2296 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It’s so weird that it sounds uncomfortable. I would only go if I had absolutely no other plans and I wanted in on some free food!

    Post # 10
    8044 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I probably wouldn’t… but then I don’t really like attening most social gatherings (including weddings) lol.

    Post # 11
    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I really enjoy going to weddings so I might go. However, it is really odd that they invited you a week before the wedding. If you’re close with them, and see them all the time then I say go. If you don’t consider them to be a close friend, and you don’t hang out much then I say no. 

    Post # 12
    8476 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @tiff-tiff-tiff:  Depends, if it sounds like it’d be fun I’d go, if not then I wouldn’t go.

    Post # 13
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would! I love weddings! And really couldn’t care less about being B or C listed. I understand the guest list often doesn’t include some people due to budget restrictions and when some rsvps come back as no, some room opens up. I am not sure i’ll be bold enough to send out B list invites, but I wouldn’t be upset if I ever got one. 

    Post # 14
    1231 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would!

    Post # 15
    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Honestly, I’d only go if it was someplace I wanted to go and they had open bar. I don’t make RSVP decisions based on those things in normal circumstances, but if I was blatantly on the C list, I totally would. 

    Post # 16
    511 posts
    Busy bee

    I would. Just because someone didn’t invite me using a specific method doesn’t mean it’s an automatic no. Being invited is enough for me, no extras are required to get a yes for friends.

    ETA: What do you feel like you are owed in this situation to make it ‘not odd’?

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