Post # 1
A friend of my SO and I is going to get married in 3 days. We were invited 2 weeks ago without an invitation. The groom told my SO that the invitations ran out. I understand that we were probably B-listed or C-listed but the actual invites were given out a week before we were orally invited.
Would you attend? I’m not gonna lie, I feel a lil odd with the situation. The groom (nor the bride – we know her as well) never told me anything about the wedding and I’ve been around him a few times since.
Would you go?
Post # 3
No, I don’t think I’d attend. Very odd.
Post # 5
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I’m leaning on “No,” b/c I find it odd that you were “invited” but “the invitations ran out.” They couldn’t get some extra invites that would give you information about the wedding/reception? It strikes me as odd. Even if you were “B” or “C” listed, I would expect better treatment by the bride/groom than being orally invited and then having to wonder on WBee whether you should go or not. I’d pass.
Post # 6
Yes I would go. I love weddings, even if I am invited at the last minute. Also I was guilty of doing a similar last minute verbal invite. Very rude I know 🙁 But I really did want that person to come.
Post # 7
I probably would!
But I really, really like weddings!
That method of being asked is super, super bizarre!
Post # 8
@tiff-tiff-tiff: this happened with my DHs coworker and I am really glad we went 🙂
We know her and her husband but aren’t super close to either of them. We were verbally invited and were only given like a weeks notice. It was so much fun to go and to be honest, their wedding was empty. Lots of people bailed and we are glad that we filled a least two extra chairs. Plus we got to dance like nobodies business because we didn’t know anyone!
Post # 9
It’s so weird that it sounds uncomfortable. I would only go if I had absolutely no other plans and I wanted in on some free food!
Post # 10
I probably wouldn’t… but then I don’t really like attening most social gatherings (including weddings) lol.
Post # 11
I really enjoy going to weddings so I might go. However, it is really odd that they invited you a week before the wedding. If you’re close with them, and see them all the time then I say go. If you don’t consider them to be a close friend, and you don’t hang out much then I say no.
Post # 12
@tiff-tiff-tiff: Depends, if it sounds like it’d be fun I’d go, if not then I wouldn’t go.
Post # 13
I would! I love weddings! And really couldn’t care less about being B or C listed. I understand the guest list often doesn’t include some people due to budget restrictions and when some rsvps come back as no, some room opens up. I am not sure i’ll be bold enough to send out B list invites, but I wouldn’t be upset if I ever got one.
Post # 15
Honestly, I’d only go if it was someplace I wanted to go and they had open bar. I don’t make RSVP decisions based on those things in normal circumstances, but if I was blatantly on the C list, I totally would.
Post # 16
I would. Just because someone didn’t invite me using a specific method doesn’t mean it’s an automatic no. Being invited is enough for me, no extras are required to get a yes for friends.
ETA: What do you feel like you are owed in this situation to make it ‘not odd’?