(Closed) Would you attend this wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would attend any wedding of a close friend or family member, since I am going to help them celebrate – not for the free food.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I think it’d be worth it to send the invites to all 50. If they want to be there, they’ll (most likely) come! An hour and a half is annoying, but it’s not that bad, especially for the wedding of someone you’re close to. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I would send to the original 50 and let them decide if its too far for them since you already invited them before. You might be surprised how many people out of the 30 still want to attend and those that dont can simply just decline

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would totally go because I would want to help celebrate with ANY close family member or friend. Also, even though everything is over by 3, that’d make a great day trip and I would probably hang around the rest of the evening so yes, I would go. Invite all 50 and keave it up to them whether they wish to attend or not.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d be there with bells on!! That’s similar to what I was originally considering for my wedding, but it got shouted down by fiance’s family. So now we’re doing it anyway, as a suprise wedding Wink

As for the STDs and so on…given that there’s only a relatively small number that would be attending, I think just contact them and explain the situation either “We’ve had to make a change to the wedding plans, so now it’s going to be in a bit of an out of the way place, but we don’t want people to feel pressured to come, would you still be able to make it? We completely understand if not.” OR “The stress of planning a big wedding was really getting to me and fiance, so we’re just doing a small (immediate family) daytime ceremony and lunch now. I’m really sorry that we won’t be able to have you and all the other people there, but maybe after the wedding, we can still get together and have dinner/few drinks/round of golf.”

In my experience, most people are pretty understanding of the stress of weddings – pretty much all of my friends and family have told me to just elope, or only invite immediate family because they can see I’m stressed, so hopefully your friends and family will be understanding!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would absolutely still go. Honestly, having an earlier end to the evening is a plus when you’ve got a long drive at the end of it!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you want to invite them, I would go for it.  Niagara on the Lake is pretty, so people should be able to find things to do with the rest of the day if they drive out there 🙂  If you can afford the cost and would like to invite people, the worst thing that could happen is they decline.  You are already aware of potential reasons that people would decline, so as long as you are prepared for some “no” responses, invite away.

I would go 🙂 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think an hour and a half is that far for close family and very close friends to drive. I would do it for family and very close friends, although Lord knows it’d be torture sitting next to my husband while he complained about it for an hour and a half. I think since you already sent the STDs you should just go ahead and invite all 50 people, and if someone doesn’t want to come and make the drive, they can just decline the invite. Just because you do invite them doesn’t mean they have to say yes. At least this way they can make their own decision. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

niagara on the lake is SOOO pretty. sometimes, i wish i was getting married out here. there are some super pretty places out in niagara.

anyway. i would go to the wedding, especially if i were a close friend or family member. like pigzfly said, there’s plenty to do and see, so even after the wedding, they could make time to be a tourist.  

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would go, of course!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

In ontario, 90 minutes is a typical commute to work for some! I’d go!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would attend if it was dinner & dancing & would stay overnight.. A lunch? Probably not, unless it was a close friend or immediate family.

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