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This is branching off the egg donation topic- I was just curious to see how people responded
Yes, I would. Definitely for a close friend and even for a stranger. For a stranger, I'd want to be compensated. I looked into being a gestational surrogate a few years ago. I was really excited about the idea.
I absolutely would for a sibling, probably for a very close friend, but not with my eggs. With my own eggs I'd feel too attached, and watching them grow up it would be hard to separate, for me. Also, only after I am done having kids.
Oohhh...tough question! I think I would (at least I would consider it) for a family member or a very close friend. My preference would be to not use my own genetic material, but I would consider doing so. I think it would be horribly difficult to carry a baby and fall in love with that unborn LO and know that you have to give them up. But, I've also seen friends struggle for years with infertility and being able to give them the gift of a child would also be amazing.
I would definitely do it for a family member/close friend with their own eggs/sperm. Like the PP, if it were my egg, I would feel attached as the child grew up. But, for a family member or friend, I could do something great for them, and get to be involved with the child as an auntie, which I would love.
I'd like to say I could, but I'm really not sure I'd be able to carry a child to term and then give him/her up. If someday I thought I could handle it, it would have to be someone I was very close to, and not using my eggs.
I'd have to say definitely not.
Being pregnant when it's your own is hard enough. If it didn't effect every part of your life then maybe, but already being a mom & having to keep up with the kiddo & keep my marriage strong (including the intimacy dept) it would be a whole family issue and not just my own body issue.
I would not. I don't have a sister and neither does DH. I can't see myself doing it for my brother's (theoretical) wife or my best friend. I would feel bad if someone close to me could not conceive but I know it would never cross my mind to offer to carry their child. I can barely get my head around carrying my own child let alone someone else's.
god no - me pregnant, if im going to that to my body i might as well keep it
now women who are surrogates - wow, im in AWE of those ladies!
I would definitely surrogate for my sister, barring any complications in my current pregnancy, but that's probably it. But I wouldn't be inseminated or an egg donor in that same scenario. And I honestly would request only a single embryo transfer if IVF, or no ovarian stimluation if IUI. I love my twins, but there are way more risks to the mom with multiples, that I wouldn't be able to justify, especially having a family of my own to look after.
Nope. I have some health issues, and any time I get pregnant, it will automatically be a high-risk pregnancy. I am worried right now about being able to have a baby at all. I wouldn't want to give someone else hope, only to have my body explode, causing me even more issues and killing their poor unborn baby. :(
I would be willing to do it but would definately want financial compensation...I think it's an incredibly selfless thing to do and would be happy to help someone achieve their goal of being parents, family or stranger.
I would not do this. My health is important to me for so many reasons, and I feel that there are lots of other options available to couples these days. Sorry if that sounds oversimplified.
I would only do it for a very close friend or one of DH's siblings. And only if DH and I were already done having our children and not using my genetic material. There are risks with every pregnancy and if we hadn't had children and there were complications... I couldn't handle that.
I would be a surrogate for my sister, and maybe my best friend if she needed it. I'd let my sister use my eggs if she needed to, because genetically that would be the option closest to her.
I considered being a surrogate for my dad's cousin's wife who I am pretty close to, they have been trying for 15 years and had 16 IVF cycles, 4 1st tri miscarriages and 2 2nd tri miscarriages. But I would like to have at least one of my own children first, and the surrogacy laws here are impossible.
No. I simply don't think it's something I would be able to do. Not my battle to fight. :(
i totally would be willing, but i don't actually see myself ever doing it. I have been enthralled with the idea of being pregnant since i was 14 and can't wait to be pregnant one day. And i think I would totally do it for a close friend/family member if they had no other options. I would also do it for a stranger for money. However, i have talked about it with DH and he doesn't like the idea of me doing it, which is probably why i won't ever even bother looking into it.
i didn't read this other egg donation thread, but that is also something i would love to do, but have never seriously looked into. I only heard you have to take hormone injections and it sounds complicated, so again, probably something i will never actually do. But if someone showed up on my doorstep outlining exactly what i do and offering good money, i would be game!
I could never be a "good" surrogate due to having type 1 diabetes.
I have had 1 miscarriage already & the next pregnancy I plan to be the best diabetic I can be & it will have to be worth it for me, so it will have to be MY baby.
Selfish I know. 
I just want to add on that if i was doing for someone i know OR a stranger, i would prefer not to use my genetic material (even though i voted i would do it in either circumstance). I just think that would make it harder to give up the baby knowing that biologically it was my child (though i would still go thru with it). I just mean if i had the choice, i would prefer to do in vitro with someone else's eggs and sperm, carry the baby for them, and then hand it over and say nice doing business!
I think I would, but only after having my own kids, and not using my own eggs. I've always thought it would be something I would be open to doing!
ETA - This is something DH and I talked about once and he'd be totally fine with me doing it too.
Heck no I wouldn't! I didn't like being pregnant with my own, I wouldn't go through that for anyone else.
last comment! i also want to say that what i wrote above is what i would be willing to do...under ideal circumstances. If i were told that there could be severe medical complications and i would be putting myself at risk or putting at risk the possibility of future pregnancies with my own children, then i wouldn't do it. I would basically be willing to do it assuming no major complications......and because i have high blood pressure since my mid-20s, i have a feeling i would never qualify :(
I have an amazing friend who has been trying to get pregnant for 12 years and still has undiagnosed infertility. My husband and I are currently pregnant and plan to only have this one child. We have recently discussed offering myself up as a surrogate after I give birth. This is the only person I would do this for.
I voted no. Not out of pure selfishness.. but I don't think that I would personally be able to deal with it emotionally. The stress I would go through during the pregnancy and after the birth wouldn't be good for me or the baby.
Last night I was watching "One Born Every Minute" and a woman gave birth to twins and adopted them out. She had her first child at 15 and adopted it out, her second child at 18 and kept it, now she is 22 and just adopted out her tiwns. She said that looking after more than one child would be too difficult for her.
I guess there are all types of people out there and anything is possible. I guess there are many reasons why people choose surrogacy.. but I don't think it's for me.
I wouldn't do it. I'm not even sure if I want to have kids of my own, but either way I'm not looking forward to being pregnant or giving birth, so I don't think I'd go through it for someone else.
No I wouldn't and I wouldn't choose a surrogate for us as well. I put that in bc people ask me all the freaking time why don't you choose surrogacy? Ugh.
No way. There are enough children in America available for adoption, (let alone other countries), that if we cannot conceive or I cannot carry a baby, we will adopt. I just don't get surrogacy. It seems like an ethical line to me to use another person's body for your own gain.
Only for my sister, or possibly SIL. But only their eggs! I know my sister would do it for me too
I would, for a family member. I also would use my genetic material if necessary. I'm not weird about that, I don't feel strongly that its's "mine" or anything. Granted, I probably wouldn't be able to as I'll be a high risk pregnancy if I can even get pregnant for myself. But I would for family.
As I have mentioned in other threads pregnancy terrifies me so I voted no. I just don't think I could happily and willingly be a surrogate at this point in my life.
Nope, absolutely not. I wouldn't put my body through that to produce a child that wouldn't be mine. Even if the child wasn't genetically related to me, incubating it for nine months and going through all the drastic physical and mental changes involved would make me emotionally invested in the child, and I would worry constantly about the kid's welfare.
I was adopted as a newborn, and when I was 25 years old, my biological mother tracked me down because she had spent two and a half decades worrying about whether she had done the right thing for me, whether I had a good life, a good upbringing. I can't even imagine how that must have been for her.
No I wouldn't. Pregnancy and childbirth are hard enough on the body as is and I would only go through that for my own children, not someone else's.
Maybe to a sibling, under extreme circumstances. And I would not use my own eggs and only after I had my own children.
I don't know. I wouldn't for my sibling, nor probably for the Boy's sister as I'm not very close to either of them.
I think the only case where I would consider it would be possibly for my best friend, if she couldn't have children. But she currently doesn't want any, ever, so I think my services would never be called on!
For a close relative ( my sis, SIL, and my first cousins who I grew up extremely close to) maybe. But it would have to be "their" baby, using their genetics, not mine. And as others have said, after DH and I are done having children. Of course I can't imagine anyone I would consider doing this for actually wanting it because they want to adopt anyway, even if they can have biological children, so if they couldn't they would just adopt.
No way. I'm currently pregnant with my own and am not a huge fan of pregnancy. But, I think women who are able to do this for others are amazing!
I wouldn't use one to have a baby myself, I just don't think I could ever ask that of someone. I have thought I probably would do it for someone else out of a very specific group of people - if one of my sisters needed it, or if my gay best friend asked very nicely. I don't think I could do it for anyone else. I don't think I'd want to use my own eggs though, and I'd want to have had my own children first. I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant and it's already feeling like hard work (!!) so I understand a bit more now what a massive undertaking it would be to do this for a baby that's not yours. Not just for me but also DH who is having to listen to all my complaints and will be the main support person throughout the whole thing. Hopefully I'll never have to make this decision though.
If you would have asked me a year ago, I might have said I would for my own sister, but now that I am in my third trimester, I would have to say no. I vomited non-stop for the first 22 weeks of my pregnancy, and now I am facing gestational diabetes and pregnancy induced hypertension. I just don't think that putting my body through any more pregnancies than necessary to fill my own family is a good idea.
Kudos to those of you who say you would do it - I just don't think I could. I've had a pretty easy pregnancy so far but now that I'm feeling the baby move, I couldn't imagine not having this be a baby we would keep. The level of attachment grows quite early on and I just don't see myself being able to give it up, even for my sister, whom I am very close with. I wouldn't mind donating my eggs after I'm done having children I don't think, but it would have to be an anonymous donation where I never know if those eggs were ever used.
Really though, those of you who could do it are amazing because I never could.
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