Post # 1
Okay, so… I got on my FI’s Facebook a few days ago because he told me to look up someone for him and message them (a family member; we rarely do this). The first name that showed up happened to be his serious ex-girlfriend. They aren’t friends, yet her name showed up before two or three other people’s names that he IS friends with. I’m pretty sure this means he’s looking at her profile fairly often. This worries me because honestly I’ve always been a little self-conscious since she’s gorgeous and skinny (etc.) and I’m… well, not. There are other, more personal reasons, but I don’t want to get into it.
Anyway, yeah. Would this bother you? I wish I wasn’t upset but I kind of am, though I probably won’t talk to him about it. I just can’t help but think, why should he even be interested in her, ya know?
Post # 3
@anonymouspioneer: I don’t think you should worry. You’re over analyzing.
Post # 4
I would be upset too, although I am a worrier, and can get jealous easily. But I don’t think you have anything to worry about, still I think you should ask him about it.
Post # 5
id be pretty upset and worried. theres no reason to be looking at an exes page unless you are THAT interested in their life OR are looking to make contact. id ask outright about it and see what kind of response you get. i naturally worry about these sort of things, and would have pointed it out the second i found it.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t care. DH doesn’t have any social media accounts but even if he did, I wouldn’t care. I’ve certainly been curious and looked up ex-boyfriends before. He knows I’ve done this and doesn’t care either
She’s an ex for a reason and he’s obviously chosen to marry you. Besides, looks aren’t everything. To most people, being thin and pretty doesn’t make up for a bitchy personality or not having a personality. Try not to let it get to you.
Post # 7
See, I naturally tend to think this way. I wish I didn’t, but I have no real interest in my ex-boyfriends, so I can’t see any unsuspicious reason why he’d care and want to see what’s up in her life.
I really hope that I can start to see it your way. It’s just, he chose me, but she also broke up with him so I kind of worry about that even though it’s been years. He’s told me she didn’t really have a personality and stuff, but I mean, when he’s looking her up frequently enough for her to show up like that, I worry he’s made it all up to make me feel better. I’m trying to not let it get me down, though.
Thank you all for the replies so far. 🙂
Post # 8
@anonymouspioneer: wouldn’t worry or bother me in th least. We both look at out exes pages occasionally both together and separately. It’s prrtty natural to be curious about what exes or even old frenemies are up to.
Post # 9
You should definitely try not to worry. I look at exes’ pages all the time, lol. I also always look at the page of this girl that I absolutely DETEST. I am curious what they’re up to and I also (secretly, guiltily, lol) like feeling like my life has gone way better than theirs, haha. It has noooooothing to do with any actual interest in those exes.
Post # 10
Okay, both of these posts made me feel WAY better, lol. I think I was just thinking about it in every possible negative way, rather than just assuming he could’ve been wondering how much dumber she’d gotten or maybe reminding himself his life was better now. Thank you both for making my near breakdown last only 30 minutes, lol. I surely would’ve kept spiraling.