Would you be annoyed if someome wore a white dress to your wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be angry/annoyed if someone wore a plain white dress to your wedding?
    Yes : (130 votes)
    43 %
    No : (77 votes)
    26 %
    It would depend on what the style is like : (84 votes)
    28 %
    Other (specify in comments) : (9 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Nicky16:  I’d not be angry (just because it would be my wedding day and I wouldn’t want to be angry) but I voted yes because I would be annoyed.

    Like >___> what is she thinking? and then move on.

    But I wouldn’t do it.

    I don’t have any white dresses lol.

    Post # 4
    1745 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it’s rude as it’s a pretty well-known rule. That’s moreso why it would bother me.

    Post # 5
    8677 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would not be angry, offended, annoyed, irritated, slighted, upset, bothered, cranky, or any other variance of the word.

    It’s a color. No one in the history of weddings will not know who the bride is. Chances are, you won’t even notice on your wedding day.

    I 10,000% do not give a crap.

    Post # 6
    6449 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had someone wear a white dress to our wedding and I didn’t even notice until looking at pictures. I wasn’t angry about it but at the same time I kind of wondered why she did it and if she just didn’t know.

    I would never wear white to someone else’s wedding.

    Post # 7
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I wouldn’t be angry, but I’m sure I would roll my eyes and think, ‘she wants attention’. 

    Post # 8
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Nicky16:  not really…  I actually have seen those pics of white bridesmaids dresses on pinterest and love it! 

    BUT I understand why others would be bothered by this.

    FWIW, I would never do it because I do see how it’s innapropriate and not well received.


    Post # 9
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    If it was just a white cocktail dress, no I wouldn’t care. I’d probably wonder why she did that because it’s a pretty well known thing not to wear white, but it wouldn’t bother me. If it was long and fancy and white… that would bug me. 

    Post # 10
    7030 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Only if it resembled a wedding dress. There was a post a few months ago of a MOG (Mother of the groom) who wore a long white (mermaid style I think) dress and everyone was horrified.

    But a white cocktail dress or anything else which bears no resemblance to a wedding dress – no problem.

    Post # 11
    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Nicky16:  It would annoy me unless it was someone I knew was a bit clueless about wedding etiquette. It’s just a bit disrespectful I think. 

    Post # 12
    4402 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Hyperventilate:  haha, exactly. I totally agree–wouldn’t bother me at all. 

    Post # 13
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Only if it were a wedding dress 🙂

    Post # 14
    2222 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @iheartcake:  +1

    I would be annoyed unless they didn’t know better (like if the person was from outside the US where wearing white to a wedding is not a faux pas)

    Post # 15
    3731 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I always said I would be pissed if someone wore white to my wedding. In reality, I have no freaking idea if anyone wore white. It’s absolutely true that you will be so wrapped up in your day with your new husband that you won’t even notice. 

    Post # 16
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would definitely be annoyed IF it looked like a wedding dress.. There will be some people there from FI’s parent’s list who don’t know what I look like, so I wouldn’t want somebody wearing a wedding gown-like white dress because I wouldn’t want her mistaken to be me. If it were clearly not a wedding dress, I would probably just laugh it off because honestly, who the hell doesn’t know that rule?

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