(Closed) Would you be bothered seeing your S/O dancing with the opposite sex?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would not be ok with him dancing with a stranger at a club. I wouldn’t really care if he was dancing with a friend or family member. We don’t go out dancing or clubbing though. The only dancing he does is sometimes at weddings.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Are we taking ballroom, two step or swing style? No issues. If we’re talking basically clothed (well sometimes half clothed with the size of some women’s club attire) public pelvic thrusts and using men like stripper poles club dancing heck no. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

A stranger at a club? I wouldn’t be thrilled, assuming it’s the close, sexy dancing I associate with clubs.

Now if he was dancing in an appropriate manner (slow dancing without being pressed up against her, or fast dancing with no contact) with a friend, no problem.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, wouldn’t bother me at all. I’d probably be super proud that he was actually out dancing!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My FI is very jealous so he will not dance with anyone because he wouldnt want anyone dancing with me. I am totally okay with him being this way…I understand why he is…  

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

In a club it would not be ok with a stranger (totally fine if a mutual friend)

On the other hand, there is social dancing- swing & salsa. I go regulary, he goes barely ever. Although if he WERE to go, I would expect he dance with strangers, lots of them, and all night long. 

The two situations described above are completely different.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

No problem for me unless its going beyond social dancing or just having fun… Ya know?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

depends on the situation like PP mentioned….. totally platonic/ non sexy dancing with a friend (or even a stranger) would be fine

but grinding, dirty, sweaty only two thin layers of cloth away from sex on the dance floor…. thats an issue

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would be jealous but that’s because I don’t find it appropriate unless its a family member! we are both that way and the same thing would apply vice versa!!! But that’s  just me 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MsJ2theZ:  +1

When I was thinking about this question, I feel like I have a double standard for this. I feel like it’s fun and ok for me to dance with people if I’m out at the bar/club with my friends (not the rubbing/thrusting dancing, but fun non-sexual dancing), but I feel like I would be super jealous if I saw FI dancing with someone else. I think part of the reason for that though is that he doesn’t really dance at all. So if he was dancing, I would want it to be with me, not with someone else.

I haven’t actually been out dancing in ages though, and usually just dance with my girlfriends..

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yah, I’d be mad.  I also wouldn’t dance with anyone other than my girlfriends if I was out at a bar with them.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

A stranger? No. Someone we know? Sure.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My SO doesn’t really dance, but hypothetically – the same as PP – with a stranger out at a club – no way, but with a friend or family member – sure.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

A stranger would be okay ask long as there was some distance, like I would never allow grinding, etc. But ballroom or something like that would be fine. He is very respectful of boundaries and doesn’t even want to overstep them.

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