would you be bothered?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
Member
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes I would be bothered on both counts… but I wouldn^’t give too much thought or energy to either.

 

With the inlaw problem… you are making the effort, if she chooses to ignore, just don’t bother next time.

With your friend, it does suond like she’s pushing you away, but maybe next time you hear of her saying something like she did to your other friend about you not wanting to go out because you’re married, you could say to her “Thank you for your concern but I make my own decisions about when I go out, being married has nothing to do with me spending time with my friends and it is certainly not your place to be making those assumptions for me”

Sorry its a bit of a sucky situation

Post # 4
Member
6866 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Either your stepmother is ignoring you because she’s angry you didn’t travel there for the holiday or she took your text as a heartwarming rhetorical comment, similar to  a holiday greeting card.  Yes, she should have replied, but she may not realize you expected that. Did you tell you father that money was an issue this year? 

The friend sounds annoying but more insecure than anything else. I would have an open  conversation and try to reassure her. 

Post # 5
Member
8705 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If I wanted acknowledgement over the phone, I would have called instead of texts. Another person is right; text messages are “greeting cards.” I don’t thank everyone for giving me a greeting card, and if so it’d be an endless loop of thank-yous. Next time, call.

 

Your friend sounds annoying. I’d just tell her to knock it off.

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