Post # 1
…you found out a close friend was engaged via Facebook? As opposed to a text or a call?
Don’t get me wrong — I am SO SUPER BEYOND EXCITED for her and can’t wait to chat about wedding stuff together (I have no other engaged friends… I don’t want to annoy my single friends with wedding talk, and I figure my married friends have probably moved on from wedding planning).
When I got engaged, I made sure to text or call my nearest and dearest before putting it on Facebook. I consider her a close friend and I’m just a little miffed that I had to find out with the masses, lol. I’m also PMSing and easily butthurt right now, so there’s that part of my brain that’s all like, “THIS OBVIOUSLY MEANS YOU LOVE HER MORE THAN SHE LOVES YOU.” *SOB*
It’s also 2 a.m. and I’m watching George Lopez, so all cognitive function has clearly gone out the window.
Post # 3
Um, if we were VERY close then yeah, maybe a little. But I would not stew on it.
Post # 4
Only if we were very close. FI and I only called immediate family and our best friends. Other family we told in person or through word of mouth, other friends found out on Facebook.
Post # 5
A close friend – yes, I think I would be bummed. :/
Post # 6
I’d be totally upset! I’ve even told my friends I’d better not find out about their major life events as part of a status update haha. Even if they just shoot me a private FB message right before they update that’s fine! We live in very different time zones, they don’t need to wait for an answer or anything. I just don’t want to be lumped in with randoms they barely know.
Post # 7
Not really…most of my friends announced their engagements on facebook. Some people just get so excited to tell everyone that they want to update their status right away.
Personally, I was so overwhelmed in the moment that I didn’t get a chance to call everyone (if I had tried, it would have taken all night and we wouldn’t have been able to enjoy that special evening). I called family…and my very best friend…but everyone else found out through facebook.
Post # 8
@Bebealways: Yes, exactly! A Facebook message would have been totally fine, because she would have been taking the time to let me know personally/before the rest of the world.
I found out via a cryptic status update alluding to her ring and then checking Instagram to see a picture of it. :-/
Post # 9
Depends how close. I know from my own engagement that you can get completely caught up in the excitement and forget to text/call some people. I think nearly everyone I know found out on Facebook. Etiquette faux pas? Probably, but I can’t take it back now!
Post # 11
If it was a super close friend then maybe, but mostly no. It wouldn’t bother me.
Post # 12
We waited a few days to announce our enagagement on FB because we had close friends and family we wanted to hear about it from us first. So yep, I’d be a little sad to hear on FB, but I also know that a lot of people are too excited to wait to announce it there. 🙂
Post # 13
@Regina Phalange: Nope, I probably wouldn’t care.
Post # 14
@Regina Phalange: I’d be butthurt too. Especially if it was my “time”
Post # 15
@Regina Phalange: I wouldn’t care. I don’t have Facebook, so I wouldn’t have found out at all, lol.
Post # 16
I’d be fine with it. When FI and I got engaged, we announced it to our friends who could make it to dinner, and told immediate family and some friends (text and call), but majority found out on FB.
I couldn’t call everybody