No you are not over reacting, Trade rings? when they are both family rings that is crazy! my Diamond is my FI's Grandmothers diamond in a new setting. and i freak out that i would lose the diamond and not be able to really "replace it" that is so crazy!! sounds like she loves the idea of a ring/wedding/husband but doesn't really know what shes getting herself into with a marriage... time to grow up a bit!
EDIT i would also be worried that she would some how steal my rings... keep them close to you!
That is a very weird request. I would most definitely tell her sorry bu no, these rings mean a lot to you and you can't imagine giving them up.
How weird is this girl? That's so bizarre. The answer is most definitely no.
Wow what? I would say no and tell her she's crazy for even suggesting that.
Hahaha... um, no. Tradesies ends at puberty. 
That is definitely a strange thing for her to say...
That is one of the stupidest requests I have ever heard.
I think the stupidest was on another board I frequent where someone's sister in law thought they should trade houses because she had more kids, and the poster had a bigger house. And, no, it wasn't a situation where they had a family compound with a bunch of homes that the whole family owned. The poster and her husband had bought their own house, and were paying the mortgage on it.
Sorry I posted this twice! My phone closed window so I assumed it didn't post!
Wow! I would tell her no, these rings have a lot more sentimental value than that and no amount of money would change that. Also remind her that her grandmother probably wouldn't appreciate her selling/trading family heirlooms just because she prefers another set. If she doesn't want them she should give them back to her grandmother and she should NOT be trying to get another married woman's rings.
What's that? You want to trade rings with me? The symbol of my love and commitment to my husband reduced to the treatment of baseball cards and pogs?? Yeah sure, that's a capital idea! I'll tell you what. You can TAKE IT OFF MY ROTTING CORPSE.
crazy people...what the hell?
I would tell her no. Honestly, it would really make me think less of her. That is probably bad to say, but the fact that she would treat her heirloom (and mine) with such disregard would make me think way less of her character and maturity.
i would be a bit taken back by the offer but you answered no. just move on.
@Nona99: +1 Hahahahaha! This.
Being young is no excuse. That's just plain immature, spoiled and ignorant. I can only hope she wasn't serious! Like a really poor joke...
Why the EFF would someone try to trade for/buy her friend's wedding ring when her friend has made no suggestion of wanting to part with it? I would be really weirded out that she would even think that's okay.
@MrsSelttab18: I think it's flattering that she likes the rings, but I'd just tell her you'll pass because they were your grandmother's and it's important to keep in the family.
But freaked out? No. Just flattered (although it is a bit of an odd request).
Are you in the middle of using hair dye in class...maybe she sniffed too much? That was a very very weird thing for her to say.
u really need to post these pics of the diff sets tho...I would love to see them
That is just crazy. And yea I would feel pretty weird around now. lol
Strange request! I'd just take it as a compliment since she obviously loves your ring and just never bring it up again.
Oh ok! Lets trade rings! & trade houses cause yours is in a better neighborhood. & my sister is mean, can we trade sisters too? Ok deal! ;)
I think you're freaking out about nothing. 18-year-olds get stupid ideas all the time. It's part of the awesomeness of being 18. In a few years, this will be a really funny story.
Uhm... no, you can't have my rings. Wtf? Is there a full moon this month, because people on the Bee are having crazy experiences!
I think it is an odd request, sure. But maybe she thought you really liked her ring better, and she likes yours better, so maybe to her it just made sense. Some people aren't sentimental. IMO if it wierded you out bad enough that you thought the whole friendship would be awkward from now on, maybe it wasn't a very strong friendship in the first place?
I would never let something like that ruin a close friendship. I think THATS the odd part here.
I had posted pictures but another person said she might see them. And I don't want to add to the awkwardness. This is mine. :) hers is very similar just daintier (I that word?) and all white gold.
@MrsSelttab18: awwww your set is lovely...she must have been sniffing something to make the offer in the first place
She probably just isn't socially adept enough to know this isn't something you do. She probably knows you were upset about losing the original rings, and maybe she thinks you haven't seemed sentimental about them (even if you are.) So maybe she is thinking that she can get your ring, which she obviously thinks is beautiful, and you can get $500.
If she grew up rich, she might have an "everything has a price" sort of mentality, and might have been raised very sheltered. I don't thinnk she's crazy or a threat, but probably just awkward and sheltered.
I still wouldn't do it though. Last thing you need is for her to change your mind after you've already learned to love/resized the ring she gave you.
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@GelaMac:
I am very young. But we have been married for almost 3 years in June. I have a friend who is 18 and just got engaged, she will also be married in June. I am her MOH and I am very happy for her. Her fiancé set a budget for her on rings and it was around $500 we looked and looked but we couldn't find anything she liked in that price range. Her grandmother then offered my friend her great grandmothers gorgeous ring! I was also secretly jealous brcause hers is all whote gold while my prongs and the part the ring sets In Is white gold but my bands are yellow. She sent me a picture and it really is beautiful! I told her so. I also said yay for vintage rings and grandmas! (When I lost my original set my grandmother sold me an old set for $150. She asked to see my set and I sent her a picture. She said 'I'm so jealous, yours has more diamonds. Uh, okay? She grew up rich and just moved out of her fathers huge house a month ago and is now on a budget with her guy because he is the only one working (she is still in cosmetology school, that's how we met) so I just chalked it up to being one of the things she's naive about. I brushed it off and moved on.
The next day she texted me and says hey, how would you feel about trading rings? WHAT? I know they aren't my original rings that had the most sentimental value but I lost those and had to deal with that. These are MY rings. I said no, and then she offers to pay me $500 for them. It freaked me out and made me really sad because I couldn't not imagine giving away my great grandmothers rings..and I'm sure her family and fiancé would be upset of they knew she was doing that. It freaked me out I finally got her to stop asking but now I feel like the friendship is awkward. An I overreacting?