(Closed) Would you be irritated about a 4 day Las Vegas bachelor party?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Seriously…what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas!!!  Hopefully you love and trust your man enough so you don’t worry yourself while he’s away!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well they’re making the most of their time together and having some fun in the process. It’s doubtful that they’ll be 100% partiers while they’re there most people run out of steam quickly. My FI had a 3 day/2 night bachelor party while skiing in Tahoe- So I understand the frustration of it being a long party.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I personally don’t have a problem with bach parties in Vegas. I would have been fine if my FI wanted to do that, but instead he’s going to Miami for a few days with his friends (which is probably pretty comparable to Vegas, in terms of partying and debauchery ๐Ÿ™‚ ). I’m a little jealous, in fact! But I think it’s okay to not be thrilled about it; as long as you’re comfortable with it, then you don’t have to jumping for joy with him.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My FI just got back from 4 days, 3 nights in New Orleans, so I can’t really complain. He had a huge blast, but he did say it made him feel old (he’s 34) and that next time he would like to go with me. So that was worth it.

I would just make him promise 1000 times over not to spend more than X amount gambling. That is the easiest way to get into trouble.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My FI’s groomsmen wanted to do that too, but he couldn’t take the extra time off work. 

While I’d be super jealous that’d he’d get to go (I’ve never been to Vegas), I didn’t have a problem with him going when he mentioned it.  I travel a couple times a year to visit my BFF in FL, and he never objects.

There are clubs and *a* casino here… the way I see it, my FI could get into the same amount of trouble in good old Pittsburgh if he wanted… right? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d be ok with it… as long as I was going somewhere too.  If I was staying local for my bachelorette party I’d be so jealous it would be hard for me to feign excitement.  But I wouldn’t worry about it.  I’ve been to Vegas and while I’m not a dude, I think there’s a lot a man can do there without getting himself into trouble.  Chances are they’ll spend most of their time cruising the strip, gambling and eating/drinking way too much.  So if anything, don’t look at his credit card or debit card statements because you might not like that.  But all the yucky stuff shouldn’t even be on your mind ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wish I was going to Vegas. That’s AWESOME.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Four days.  Wow.  That would multiply my greatest fears about bachelor parties and then times it by four, then times it by a million for being in Vegas.  I don’t know many men who would spend four days in Vegas and not do something their fiancés would object to, if not spend all four days doing so.  I don’t think it has anything to do with trust.  Men are often weak when presented with titties on a platter and succumb to peer pressure/rationalize bad actions, no matter how much they love their women.  That’s all I’ll say. 

Oh and I’ll post this old essay that I just read today.  It pretty much encapsulates my fears.  http://www.indiebride.com/essays/cole/index.html 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I don’t agree with the trip = party issue.  I honestly feel like trips are more likely to get both too expensive and too out of control.  When we were discussing my FI ideas, when the words Vegas came out of his mouth my response was “the time to go to Vegas with your buddies passed about four years ago when we got serious”

If you are at the point where the trip is already planned/paid for and you are okay with it from a moral/relationship/trust viewpoint – I would ask your girlfriends to try and plan something equally as outrageous for you that weekend and paint the town!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i’d be fine with it…because im going to vegas for my bachelorette party! have you ever been to vegas before? i’ve been twice and we’re mostly going for the novelty of it and to have fun with the girls. we can’t really get into too much trouble as long as we don’t steal a cop car, steal mike tyson’s tiger, and stay away from the wedding chapels.

i also do NOT want my fiance to look at my credit card bill when i return.. ๐Ÿ™‚ that’s the biggest thing i would be concerned about while he’s there. a lot of people make it out to be a sleazy place, but unless your purposely seeking that out, its a fun place to party.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I just read the site listed above – I gotta say honestly?  Everyone has heard about awful stories like that – and I believe they are few and far between. 

I think posting that was out of line for this particular thread and doesn’t do any service to @VirginiaMarie

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Maybe not, but I don’t think such things are few and far between.  I think most men, when presented with strippers, do things their soon-to-be-wives wouldn’t like, to varying degrees of grossness of course.  I think to think otherwise is naive.  It’s standard, it’s “tradition” whether we like it or not.

These threads always get heated and I’ve had my say so I’m not coming back.  Hopefully VirginiaMarie’s FI won’t do anything she wouldn’t approve of (and how will I know if he will?  I have no idea what he’s like, so I can’t comment on him personally, this is just a general remark), and hopefully no other bee’s fiancé will either, but most of us will never know what our men did at their bachelor parties and will convince ourselves that our men are different and special and we trust them not to touch a stripper’s breasts or vajay or whatever we’d be uncomfortable with.

Talking about bachelor parties gets me riled up because I think the expectation that men have “one last night of freedom” and are expected to participate in some bacchanal behind their woman’s back is disgusting and antiquated but still continues to go on despite the fact that it makes millions of women upset, sick to their stomachs, distrustful of their future husbands, just generally puts a giant chasm into a relationship that was previously healthy.  It’s not always the result of a less-than-stellar relationship to begin with.  I just think that peer pressure combined with the call of “tradition” is really, really potent to even the most honest, faithful man.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Since you have edited your response, I’ll edit mine as well.

Frankly I think they get heated when people post stories about things like that.  I do not believe they are the norm and if that makes me naive, so be it.  I stand firm in my opinion that your posting that link was unnecessary.

For the record, I’m actually anti-stripper and anti-bachelor party – we probably hold similar views on THOSE topics – but I wasn’t asked to comment by the OP on those things in this post, so I stuck to the topic.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d be OK with it, especially if we didn’t have to pay for it!  I know if my fiance was taken to Las Vegas, he & his friends would mainly gamble.  I think if you trust him and his friends, then there should be no worries!  The only thing I wouldn’t care for is how much I would miss him!

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