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...the bride was very gracious, but i think i would be taken aback. the guest kept saying it was vera wang!
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I'd rip her hair out - not really, but I'd definitely make sure she wasn't in any photos. I don't care if the Queen of England designed it, she was an idiot to wear that to someone else's wedding.
That's not really appropriate... was it a mistake? Or was the guest trying to be the center of attention?
That is not appropriate. I would be peeved. I hope that I would be gracious to my guest too, but I would never forget it!
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I wouldn't be mad. I would just think the guest is friggin clueless. Obviously that guest isn't married because they would understand that is something you DON'T do.
I am glad the bride took the high road. That is so not something a bride should sweat over on her day- something the guests should/could handle themselves. 
I hope the guest is clueless and not doing it on purpose.
It's not appropriate!!! I won't not waste energy to be mad on my wedding day, but I would probably find out what the deal is later on and let the girl know that's wrong.
it could be worse i suppose...... she could have also been carrying a bunch of flowers with a posse of flowergirls trailing behind her
Definitely not appropriate. But what can you really do? Ask her to leave. Every bride hopes that her guests have enough knowledge and etiquette to know what to wear to a wedding!
I don't see too much wrong with that dress, it's just a dress...unless your dress is designed very similar to that one, it's just a dress. Some people wear non-white dresses as the bride. The guest obvioulsly want to dress up, and that's what she had in her closet.
Even as clueless as I am with etiquette sometimes, its obvious you shouldn't wear what is basically a wedding gown to someone else's wedding. Very inappropriate!
I probably wouldn't even notice at my own wedding but its definitely a reason to be annoyed.
Um yeah, I just might have accidentally spilled something on her (maybe red wine?) on her if she was at my wedding.
Wow! Another thread was started not long ago. I didn't find that dress to be out of line (even though most people did.) However this one is very inappropriate. It looks like an ivory wedding dress. Hopefully the bride's dress looked very different.
The fact that the guest kept saying it's Vera Wang, doesn't sit well with me. It comes across like she was trying to be the center of attention. How upscale was this wedding? Were others wearing Vera Wang and she was trying to fit in? ("I hope my boyfriend's snooty family will like me now.") Did the bride even have an expensive designer gown?
Even if this wedding was ultra formal and this was the only floor length gown this girl owned, I would say she should buy something inexpensive, or borrow something.
Yeah that dress is out of line....I'd be pretty pissed. I wonder like other posters said if she wanted to be the centre of attention and try to "out do" the bride in some way, esp if she kept telling people it was Vera Wang. I give the bride props for taking the high road on this one because I know I coulnd't have.
I would be furious. I'm curious to know the circumstances surrounding her decision to wear that. Personally, I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut if a guest showed up to my wedding wearing that. Especially if the wine was flowing. The good thing is, I know my close friends and I know they would probably handle it before I had the chance. Wearing white to a wedding is never OK. Period.
Whoa. That's pretty crazy. How formal was the wedding? If it was black tie, and she's not someone who gets dressed up a lot, maybe she was so proud of herself for finding a Vera Wang that she didn't consider how much it looked like a wedding gown. Some people are just clueless that way.
Wow. Depending on who the guest was (ok maybe not) i probably would have said something TO HER FACE about it.....hmmmmm. People are SO dumb! I swear! Anything with white is out, c'mon people. Do not do it unless you want to look like an idiot.
ejs4y8, I completely agree! I don't get why anyone would wear white to a wedding -- at best, you look clueless, at worst you look selfish, attention-grubbing, and/or bitter. Even if you think the rule is stupid and you shouldn't have to follow it, why risk upsetting the bride and making a fool out of yourself? Doesn't seem worth it to me.
horrible....
I think a basic rule of thumb is dont wear something white, or what resembles a wedding dress.
I just bought this $300 white dress a couple weeks ago and have been dying to wear it. This Saturday I had a wedding to go to and dispite how much I wanted to wear it, I knew I couldnt! - RESPECT!
What????? That's ridiculous!
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Holy Moley!! Whenever I see a post titled like yours, I already start laughing in anticipation. I am constantly baffled by the level of some people's cluelessness. If I were the bride, I think I might do the opposite of people's suggestions--- I'd slap one of the bridemaid's bouquet in her hand and take a picture of just the two of us. I wonder if she'd get the message then? lol! :D
I would definitely think that was appropriate, and as the calculating bitch that I can be when cornered, I would probably make sure that every guest had an opportunity to make fun of this person for being so clueless. On a rare occasion, I pull out my specialized skill of mass scorn. I might even make a quip about it in the toasts...lol
Wow.
HAHAHAHA I think it's funny
Vera Wang shwang we all know Vera Wang designs wedding gowns
wow! it actually looks like a wedding dress I tried on when I initially wanted a low key wedding (and before family got involved 
). I would have been pissed, especially since I am wearing ivory!
I think the ONLY time that this could possibly be appropriate is if she were having a "black & white" wedding like my MOH's bratty sister-in-law had. She expected all of her guests to wear black, white, or a combination of the two. Basically, she expected people to go out and buy something to wear if they didn't have a monochromatic closet. She was very bossy about clothing choices with the entire extended family - basically their ensemble required her approval. In my opinion, SHE would have deserved to have someone wear this dress to her wedding.
I'd approach her differently..I'd walk up IN FRONT OF LARGE AMOUNT OF PEOPLE and say.."Wow it looks like there's two brides here..are you getting married too today Wanna split the cost of MY reception? You can use the flowers on the table for a bouquet".
Um wow. I'm pretty sure that's a wedding dress.
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I would be incredulous. I'm pretty sure I'd walk over and say something like "wow, that's such a beautiful dress! It looks a lot like the wedding dresses I tried on" or something along those lines, just to see how red she turned when actually called out for wearing a wedding dress.
I might also be tempted to say something about how we weren't planning on doing a bouquet toss, but it seems clear that she wants to catch it. Good for the bride for being so gracious!
Looks like I'm in the minority here, but I wouldn't care if a guest wore that to my wedding, as long as she felt comfortable and beautiful in the dress. I mean, I would definitely NEVER wear white to another person's wedding, since I know it's a big deal to a lot of brides, but I honestly wouldn't care if someone else wore a white dress to mine.
jhphi, I'd kind of agree (I don't like the idea of at a wedding PERIOD) if it were a sundress or separates or something, but that's clearly a wedding dress, and that's just entirely inappropriate.
Yes!!!!!!!!!!! I would for sure have security escort her out! <-- just kidding, haha.
For sure I woud be very very upset. Would I let it ruin my wedding? No. Would I confront her? Probably not, I don't like confrontations ... unless she was being obnoxious and begging for it.
I would most likely have my fiance handle the situation, like with all the sticky situations... he smoothes things over so much better than I do. It's like an artform.
I already let my Future-mil and most of fiances side of the family know that I don't approve of them wearing ivory or white. It's weird. My family knows this!
No, I wouldn't say anything. Anyone who shows up at someone else's wedding wearing a wedding dress probably wouldn't have gotten the hint anyway. The thing is, any guest who showed up in an outfit like this is only intentionally calling attention to themselves, except its the wrong kind.
That is a wedding dress. There is nothing else it could be. I have been to countless formal events in my life and seen women wearing every type of formal outfit you could imagine (spanning multiple cultures), and the ONLY time I have EVER seen ANYONE wearing a dress specifically like that - ivory/white, long, elaborate, no color whatsoever, possessing a train - was when she was a) getting married or b) making her debut (or something similar). And this wasn't a debut event. That isn't a short white eyelet sundress with a big colored sash that we're talking about; I don't think any sensible bride would care if someone else turned up in that outfit. That is a wedding dress.
Of course, all you really need is a few minutes in Photoshop to change the color of the dress in any photos that were taken. :) And I think that the guests would have *no* trouble telling the real bride apart from the fake one. But c'mon, Vera Wang is known by everyone with two X chromosomes to be a maker of couture wedding dresses (unlike, say, Betsey Johnston).
I wonder if anyone considered slipping one of the vendors a few $20s in return for going up to the fake bride and asking, in an increasingly obnoxious manner, where the rest of his payment was, saying, "Oh, you can't tell me you're not the bride! Who would be wearing a wedding dress to a wedding if she weren't a bride?"
Would *I* be upset? Nah. Happy brides stand out of the crowd, and I will be a happy bride. But that person would go on my list of "apparent friends who do not have my best interests at heart." It's not a white suit. It's not a little white dress with colored beading. It's not a white sundress with a poufy circle skirt. It's a wedding dress.
I would think it was odd, but I wouldn't let it get to me. It's just a dress and it would be our day to have a great time.
Maybe she wanted to wear her wedding dress again... err to another person's wedding 
It is certainly not in good taste to wear a dress like that to a wedding! If it isn't a wedding gown, it is still looks like one- and therefore definitely should be avoided by any non-bride. However, I don't think I'd be mad, per se, if someone wore it to my wedding (unless it happened to be someone who I thought was purposefully doing it to be rude). But I don't think I could avoid being a little annoyed at that person, even if they weren't doing it to be malicious!
I would be incredibly perturbed. If that guest would have told me it was Vera Wang, I would have said, "Well Vera Wang would have enough class not to wear that dress to a wedding." I might have even considered having the DJ call her out.
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