(Closed) would you be offended?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

I wouldnt be offended…I would have said yup I did and I love it….everyone will have an opinion good or bad just ignore them

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ignore her.  Seriously, who cares what this coworker thinks?  You’re fine with it, and your husband is fine with it.  Miss Jealousy over there can deal. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Don’t care what she thinks! It is the set that you will wear everyday and that you have to love, not her. 

I had a friend remark that it was awfully materialistic of me to want two wedding bands because they are all so thin. She said  I should have to wait for our ten year anniversary to get the second one. I just don’t get why if you don’t do it their way then you are wrong lol

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just a difference of opinion I’m thinking… I’d let it go.

Ya gotta remember that some gals are all sentimental like (I’m most certainly in that group) so the thought of even changing THE RING that one’s Fiance gave them would be way out there… BEYOND their capacity

For other gals, it is just a ring… another piece of jewellery (witness how many Bees on the RING BOARD tell us they are changing either their E-Rings, Wedding Bands, or getting new ones, multiple ones etc)

It is what it is… she’s just not into the same stuff you are.  Doesn’t make either of you right or wrong just different (although she could certainly park the attitude)

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@vanilla44:   Ignore her.  It’s your ring and your right to do anything you want.  It sounds to me like she’s jealous.  What a B!  She’s absolutely wrong to be gossiping about your ring.  But it only makes her look petty and jealous, so no worries.  Everyone else can see right through her, I’m sure.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would be offended honestly, mostly because I would think that others might suspect I had hurt my husbands feelings by demanding a new ring… but that’s not the case for you, the two of you had planned this out together, with his blessing.

It’s unfortunate that she feels the need to stick her nose into your business, I totally identify with how you feel, but you can’t avoid her forever.  Before too long, the newness of your wedding and your rings will have worn off and it will be business as usual.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

The same exact thing happened to me and I just laughed at those people behind their backs. They’re clearly placing way too much emphasis on material things when what is really important is the love DH and I have for each other. It’s really none of their business what we choose to do with our money and there’s no appropriate response other than “That’s so beautiful, congrats!” when someone shows you their ring.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s jealousy. I’m one of those women who don’t quite understand the need to constantly change your wedding ring.  To me, it’s a very sentimental piece, so seeing certain posters get new rings every other week or just constantly messing with their rings tends to make me roll my eyes a bit, as it crosses me as quite materialistic.  I gurantee you, it’s not coming from a place of jealousy.  My husband has offered to “upgrade” my ring and I’ve declined.  This is the ring he gave me and I treasure it.  I’d never actually say anything to anyone about it though, certainly not rudely.  

I’d just blow it off. 

Post # 12
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16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Meh. Her opinion, while annoying, really doesn’t matter. As long as you and your DH are both happy, there’s no need to worry. 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What a B. Ignore her. It’s your ring, not hers. You can do whatever you want to it.

Post # 14
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169 posts
Blushing bee

@vanilla44:  Ignore it. Maybe there’s something she wishes she could change about her ring (if she’s engaged/married) or her relationship/life in general, and she doesn’t feel empowered to make the change? That might make her a little bitter/jealous of you for being able to get what you want out of life / your ring /whatever. Just be happy with your own choices – you did what was right for you!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow, her life must be really perfect for her to have to get into other people’s business. Undecided

 

I see why it would bother you, nobody likes undeserved snark.  People that do things like this are unkind and usually pretty unhappy with life.  Or at the very least rude and immature.  Regardless, at least she let you know she’s not worth spending time with.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

tell her it’s not any of her business.  I think it’s pretty common that guys propose with a solitaire to be “safe” and are open to re-setting it later on. 

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