Post # 1
I have a really, really good friend who is a gay male. He is travelling from across the country to attend my wedding and I am thrilled that he’ll be there to share the day with us!
He sent me an email today asking if it will be “okay” for him to bring a guy as his date. He requested to bring his old friend from college, whom I have met several times over the years, since he is not currently in a relationship. My friend will only know maybe 3 or 4 other people at the wedding, so I can see him having a +1, especially since he is travelling so far.
What I am wondering is this:
- would you be offended by 2 guys attending the wedding together?
- would you be annoyed, bothered or offended if they danced together at the reception?
They won’t be kissing or anything as they are not romantically involved. but FI’s dad is somewhat homophobic and most of his family lives down south so I don’t know them & I know that I & my family are somewhat liberal so I’m trying to get an idea of how people might react.
I told him it is fine to bring his friend, but I just wanted an idea about how other people might feel.
Post # 3
Of course not. Everyone has a right to have a relationship with anyone they choose, regardless of sex. If your guests are too bigoted to understand that, too bad.
Post # 4
Most younger people know at least one gay person or more. I don’t think people will be offended. It sucks that they won’t be able to show affection in public but as you said, it’s not like they are in a relationship. He’s travelling quite a ways to come for your wedding. I’m sure he will have fun. As per your qestion, I won’t have a problem with it.
Post # 5
of course i wouldnt mind.
i have a ton of gay friends and we will be having 3 gay couples attending our wedding. if someone has a problem with them, they can take it up with me—i will unleash my inner bridezilla on them, and then they can leave our wedding.
but thats just me 🙂
Post # 7
I wouldn’t be offended at all. I’m actually surprised you asked this 🙂
Post # 8
I definitely wouldn’t be offended or bothered!
Post # 9
I agree with Statutory Grape. I wouldn’t think twice about it. For me it’s a celebration and your day. Everyone should be able to a have a good time.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
No way would I be offended. I probably wouldn’t even notice, because it’s not a big deal.
I actually have a similar problem. One of my oldest friends is a gay man, and he and his husband will be attending our wedding. Some of the boy’s family members are fairly homophobic as well. I’m not worried that they’ll be offended (if they are, I don’t care), but I’m a tiny bit worried that they will do something to offend my friends. They’re polite people so I’m not worried that they’ll make a scene, but I’m hoping that they don’t make any remarks that my friends or anyone else will hear.
Post # 11
not in the absolute slightest. whatsoever.
Post # 12
I know that the guy who was invited was gay, but since this isn’t his partner you shouldn’t even mention that he’s gay. You should just leave it at there being two good guy friends.
And no, I don’t think most people care.
Post # 13
Not at all! I’d be perfectly ok even if they were involved!
Post # 14
It’s just 2 guys coming together, not a big deal at all. I don’t think anyone would be offended at all. If they are, who cares? Clearly they have their own issues if they feel the need to comment about other guests.
Don’t even worry yourself about this.
Post # 15
No, I wouldn’t be offended it all. And if there are people who are offended, then that’s their own ignorance.