Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m not asking if you’d be offended if someone told you that they didn’t like your dress.
What I mean is, if you had a mermaid dress and someone posted that they hated mermaid dresses, would you be offended? Or if you bought a Maggie Sottero dress and someone said that they weren’t a fan of Maggie dresses, would your feelings be hurt?
I find myself biting my tongue a lot on here about what kinds of dresses I prefer and which kinds I don’t, because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. But on my latest dress post, a lot of people said that they don’t like tea length dresses, and I wasn’t offended in the least. To each their own, right?
Still, I don’t want to offend anyone so I usually keep my mouth shut. Again, I’m not talking about SPECIFIC dresses, I’m talking about types of dresses (halter, pickups, drop waist, etc.)
Post # 3
I wasn’t really a fan of my type of dress before I tried it on, so I can’t blame anyone else for thinking the same 🙂 To each his/her own, for sure!
If someone told me they hated my dress, I might be pretty upset, but that’s a different story.
Post # 4
I think you want everyone to love your dress – but I think most people also realize that not everyone is going to love every dress. There are things about dresses we either love or hate. I think it’s helpful to point out what we personally don’t prefer. I think it could be said nicely (ie: I don’t think neckline is particularly flattering vs. OMG you look hideous with that neckline).
I guess that’s all to say – I’d prefer polite honesty 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I should have read the post before voting in the poll. In my mind, you said, “I bought a mermaid dress!” and then a friend said, “Oh, I *hate* mermaid dresses!”… and maybe followed up with “but I’m sure it looks great on *you*!” if they were being nice. 😉
Otherwise, no, I tend not to be offended if total strangers out of context say they don’t like a certain kind of dress. I assume they’re talking about on themselves, and if they’re talking about on everyone and being judgmental, I tend to think of it as their problem and not mine. 😉
Post # 5
My daughter had her heart set on a mermaid/trumpet dress, which I really don’t care for (or so I thought). However, the dress she found looks great on her and totally suits her personality. Sometimes people are coming from the perspective of what they like for themselves. Certain styles suit certain body types better than others. Mermaids/Trumpets are flattering on some and less flattering on others. If you feel good in your dress thats all that matters.
Post # 6
Everybody’s allowed to have different tastes. If you can’t acknowledge that, that’s the silliest thing ever! If everybody LOVED the same thing, we’d all have carbon copies of dresses
Post # 7
Totally agree with ejs.. people have different tastes, and that’s fine! I wouldn’t be offended in the slightest.
Post # 8
I honestly don’t care if anyone else but me, likes my dress. That said, I don’t really comment on or even look at many of the dress threads here because I’m just not that into it. I know what I like and I’m comfortable with that. But my dress is a very plain, linen summer dress – not a wedding dress by any means. So, to go and judge or offer suggestions to brides with super fancy, beaded, laced and what-have-you dresses, seems silly to me, because it’s just not my thing. That said – I did actually vote on your previous thread about the regular and tea-length, and because it fits my style more (which shouldn’t even be a factor to anyone but me!), I voted on the tea length. I just think it looked less traditional in your pics, and I’m all about keeping life interesting! I truly wonder how many people who ask for advice here actually need it. I think most of the wedding dress threads here are about being showy, more than sincerely seeking advice. (Not saying your’s was, just saying in general.) I think there can be a lot of “keeping up with the Joneses” mentality on here… so I just avoid the threads that appear to be that. (I did check out your dress thread, though, because I’ve dug your style in other posts here and was curious what you were choosing for a dress!)
Post # 9
I’m sure as brides we all know that each of our wedding dresses is perfect for the one wearing it…. Each wedding that I attend I think the dress is gorgeous, although it might not be something I would ever consider wearing at my own wedding. To me, that’s the coolest thing about finding your own perfect dress! 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
@VagabondGurl: I don’t reply on a lot of dress posts either, because to be perfectly honest, I’m not a fan of most wedding dresses in general. If I do comment on a dress that I don’t like, I will try to say something nice about the fit or something.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t be offended because honestly I am not a big fan of my dress style either lol I just happened to really like the one that I bought.
Post # 12
i know my type of dress (short and casual) isn’t everybody’s favorite, but i’m glad. i don’t want everybody to love it b/c then everybody would have it, and i wanted my dress to be different.
Post # 13
@danadelphia: I’m with you in that I usually try to shy away from posts where I don’t like the dress as to not to offend. Or…like you, I try to say that the length is nice or fits well. I’m the same with veils. I’m not a fan of a certain style of veil…and actually I cringe when I see them on someone, but I usually just don’t comment on those posts as to not hurt anyone’s feelings.
But, if someone said they didn’t like my style of anything, that’s fine…that’s why it’s my wedding and not theirs!
Post # 14
I would not be offended at all that a person does not like the type of dress I bought, as there are many styles I don’t like myself. Everyone has different tastes, to each their own. Now, if someone came up to me and said I don’t like X when they knew I was wearing that type…that would probably hurt my feelings. However, I would not it against that person.
Post # 15
I had to read the title carefully too, as well as your OP.
I wouldn’t care at all if someone said “I don’t like strapless dresses” because well…luckily they aren’t buying my dress.
That is nothing like someone actually saying that they don’t like your specific dress. I would never comment like that on someone else’s dress. I was hurt that after taking my friend wedding dress shopping, making the tough budget decision to buy a sample dress that I can have altered to look like my dream dress, and then actually BUYING THE DRESS, she said “I really liked the first dress you tried on better. If I had your body, that’s what I would have bought”. That hurt my feelings a lot….
Really, I wasn’t into the whole wedding dress, “THE ONE” mentality…but it did really irk me that she came dress shopping with me and after I buy the dress she said that. The first dress I tried on was LOVELY, but wasn’t me.
It just hurt my feelings that at that point she just couldn’t keep her opinions to herself. If I see a post about a dress where the dress just isn’t personally my style, I either say nothing or do like the OP and compliment the fit. We can’t all be the same.
PS: I think that tea- length dresses are lovely. Frankly, if someone gets offended because you post that you don’t like strapless dresses, or white dresses, or long dresses, or dresses with trains, then that says more about them.