Would you be offended if there was no wine at a wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you care if there isn't any wine?
    Yes, I care! Give me some NOW! : (61 votes)
    19 %
    Yes, I care, but I could get over it easily with other alcohol. : (87 votes)
    27 %
    Eh.. I don't care enough to make a fuss about it. : (60 votes)
    18 %
    I wouldn't care at all. : (88 votes)
    27 %
    Ew! I wouldn't care.. keep it away from me! : (26 votes)
    8 %
    ZOMBIES LIKE BRAINS! : (3 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Pretty sure most people are going to tell you to have some.

    It wouldnt bother me though.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Offended is a strong word but I would wish you offered some wine. Even if it’s not your taste, as long as you don’t have some reason to oppose serving wine (budget, moral reasons) I would put some at the bar. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    8706 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Nope.

    I had a dry wedding. People got over it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    918 posts
    Busy bee

    Provided that the bar didn’t make me pay for iced water, then no, I wouldn’t be offended.  I’d be very mildly disappointed because I do enjoy a glass of wine with dinner, but it definitely wouldn’t offend me.

    Post # 9
    Member
    53 posts
    Worker bee

    I probably wouldn’t even notice, to be honest. With so many drink choices plus a bar, you’re being very generous anyway, no need to spend money on wine you’ll be stuck with.

    Post # 10
    Member
    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wouldn’t be offended, but I would be disappointed.

    You don’t have to drink wine even if you serve it. It sounds to me that the only reason you wouldn’t have wine is that you don’t like it, so there is no reason to not to serve it to your guests. I hate beer and my husband hates wine, we served both at our wedding. I didn’t drink beer, he didn’t drink wine, guests drank whatever they wanted, everybody was happy.

    Post # 13
    Member
    808 posts
    Busy bee

    @jenilynevette:  I wouldn’t be offended, but definitely would appreciate a glass of wine with dinner. Maybe just put a couple of bottles out per table? Most people do drink wine so I imagine with such a small amount you won’t have lots left over. If you do have any left over, you can bring them as gifts when you go to people’s houses for dinner, or do a lot of cooking involving wine!

    Post # 14
    Member
    918 posts
    Busy bee

    @jenilynevette:  “I’m just not sure how many people ACTUALLY go out of their way to look for wine”

    I would probably wander up to the bar to see if it were possible to get a glass of dry red wine, as most of the other drinks sound quite sweet (cider, sparkling grape, sweet tea, iced tea), however if it weren’t available then I would just shrug it off and stick to the water.  I wouldn’t think badly of you for not providing wine, and I’m probably in the minority for not liking sugary drinks.  I’m sure most people will be very happy with what you’re planning to offer.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    It wouldn’t bother me, since I hate wine, but you should probably have some at the bar or a bottle at each table since its something that most people would want. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Being that I’m not paying for your wedding, have exactly what you want at your event. Alcohol or no alcohol doesn’t annoy me enough to complain about it.

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