Post # 1
I’ve been contemplating requesting that our guests not take photos/use flash during our ceremony and important parts of the reception (cake cutting, father/daughter/mother/groom first dances) because our photographer is a ‘natural light’ photographer which means she doesn’t use a flash or bring in big obtrusive equipment (http://krayephotography.blogspot.com/ her website just in case you’re like ummm.. no flash? Her photos are gorgeous.) I really loved her style and her photos come out beautifully so I’d be sick if someone messed it up with flash. Not to mention that I’m paying for someone to take those pictures. I don’t mind photos during the main part of the reception and would actually encourage people to take photos I just don’t want all her hard work and the money I spent to produce just a handful of photos.
I’ve seen lots of posts about people thinking about doing this but there haven’t been any from people who have actually done it. If you’ve done this how did it go? Were people upset or did they understand?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t be offended, in fact I really think you should tell your guests to please refrain from taking photos during the ceremony altogether. My mom suggested I have our officiant make an announcement to that effect, and I forgot to have her do so. I was completely distracted the entire ceremony by a guest taking photos with flash the whole time! It didn’t affect our photographer at all – who was so inobtrusive I never noticed him taking pictures at all – and he doesn’t use flash like yours, but I really regret not asking our guests not to take pictures during the ceremony. Just have your officiant make an annoucement right before the ceremony starts asking guests to sit back and enjoy the ceremony and please not take any pictures.
Post # 4
It’s fairly common to do this for the ceremony. I think you might be pushing it a little bit for the reception though.
If there is decent lighting during the reception, requesting no flash for certain things wouldn’t be a biggie.
Post # 5
@chouette: She has shots on her website where she uses flash. Even with the very best top of the line pro camera bodies, as a wedding photographer you have to use flash. That being said, forward fired flashes from guests can ruin photos, and it would be great if guests understood that and refrained from using it at key moments. Good luck with that! Wedding guests have a big sense of entitlement when it comes to their photos.
Post # 6
She would definitly need to use flash for some photos, especially indoor ones. Inside even using a tripod it’s hard to get perfectly sharp photos without a flash/extra lighting.
Having said that, it’s perfectly reasonable to request guests not use flashes during those key points. Maybe announce it at the start of the ceremony/reception and/or put it in the programs if you’re having them.
Post # 7
I would not be offended at all. I wasn’t in my friend’s wedding either. I actually wish we’d banned flash in ours actually…
Post # 8
She does use flash when she needs to but at least she knows how to use it to make them look naturally lit.
That said it’s not only the flash that will ruin the photos but I’ve been having an issue with the orange focusing light some point and shoots have I feel like they are becoming more common too. Orange light + white dress= orange spotted dress Or if they are on the other side then a bright orange light in the background where someones face is supposed to be. A lot of the newer cameras you can actually just hold the light on until you have the shot you want in focus. It’s equivalent to someone holding a bright orange flash light on you.
Post # 9
I don’t see why anyone should be offended by this honestly….
Post # 10
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. As a guest, I’d want to do as the bride and groom wants and wouldn’t want to do anything that would bother them.
Post # 11
We asked everyone to refrain from using their cameras during our ceremony (not just to not use flash) and no one complained. We made our photographs freely available as soon as we should and it meant people were focusing on the ceremony instead of staring down a lens.
I’m especially glad of it for my walk down the aisle as it makes the pictures so much more attractive not having other people’s cameras in the way.
Post # 12
I’d leave my request to “no flash photography” and stick to just the ceremony; it’s a little harder to control what guests do after the ceremony, and if your “no flash” times are all spread apart (daddy/daughter dance more towards the early parts of the reception, cake cutting towards the end) then your guests will get tired of hearing the announcements about the flash.
For the reception itself, your photographer is a pro and she will know if she needs to re-shoot a pose or a scene so trust her to be able to get that one good daddy/daughter dance shot or whatever— the song is probably a good 3 minutes long which translates into a hundred shots, easily, on a professional camera. One of those is bound to come out good. Likewise for the cake; she will know when she’s gotten a good shot or when she needs to take a few more so hold your poses till she cues that she’s gotten what she needs.
Post # 13
Ack! I accidentally marked that I was offended but I SHOULD have marked that I have been to weddings that do this and was not offended. But I think the ceremony and reception are totally different. I think it’s pretty common to ask for no photography during the ceremony so I don’t think that’s a problem at all. It think it’s a little off to ask people not to take pictures during the reception. Have you talked to your photographer to see if this is necessary?
Post # 14
She didn’t say it was necessary but I started thinking about how it might affect photos. I remember in photography (high school, nearly 9 years ago with film cameras) that you have to set the camera for the amount of light you want to take in so that’s where I started thinking about it. I wouldn’t be offended or upset but I know people are weird about things like this, like continuumphotography was saying, people feel very sentimental and entitled to take photos at things like weddings and I’ve been to and seen many weddings where these special moments were ruined by people running in to take a picture. I think many people from my side of the family and my friends would have no problem with this rule but I can’t speak for FI’s and I really don’t want to start off upsetting people from the start.
I won’t post the link but there’s actually another (recent) thread going around where TONS of bees were upset by the prospect of having to turn off their cameras/asking guests to do so…
Post # 15
i would be offended by anyone who was offended by such a request 🙂
Post # 16
I actually hate flash photography, so I wouldn’t be offended. But that’s because I know why you wouldn’t want guests using their flash. But to people like my mom who doesn’t understand that a flash can ruin a photo, she would be confused and just not listen because she still wants to get HER photos.