Would you be okay if your husband married someone else if you passed away?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
3077 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Mrsgurzakovic:  we’d be fine with it. Both of us. I would HATE to think my SO couldn’t be happy and I was part of the reason (or the main reason)

Post # 4
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

After seeing my uncle lose his wife to brain cancer far, far too young, and then re-marrying an amazing woman, going to to have children and a wonderful life, I absolutely, 100% would want my husband to marry someone else if I passed away. Grieving a spouse is so terrible, I think it’s important to have a partner to help you re-build your life. It would be the greatest tribute to me if I passed away and my husband found happiness and peace again. I would not want him to be alone. 

Post # 5
1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

ugh. i hate that thought… but if god forbid one of us dies early, then i would want him to remarry. no reason to be lonely forever.

Post # 6
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

As long as it doesn’t happen when we are both very elderly, then Yes I want him to re-marry or at least find someone.  It would break my heart to think of him alone all those years, since he is such a loving person.

Post # 7
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Of course I would be okay if he remarried if I passed before him.  I’d want him to be happy and with the right person.  He feels the same way about it.  Love like that isn’t going to be the same kind of love the two of us had, and it won’t take away from how much we loved each other when we were together.

Post # 8
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ofcourse! I would want him to be happy no matter what. His life and happiness shouldnt stop bc my life ended for whatever reason.

Post # 9
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Of course! I wouldn’t want him to go through the rest of life alone 🙁

Post # 10
4043 posts
Honey bee

Yes, vows are the “til death do you part,” though we didn’t actually include that in our personal vows. We are both fine with the other having a relationship/getting married in the event of death. 

Post # 11
3353 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I want nothing more than for my husband to be happy, so to NOT want him to move on and find love and marry again is contradictory.

So, yes, I would like him to remarry if I died.

Post # 12
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Well, it is “until death us do part”.

If I die and that is that, there will be no “me” to feel sad if my husband remarries. If I die and go to the afterlife, I will probably be a different sort of being there, so I won’t be upset by it then, either.

Either way, I don’t see the problem. It seems so sad for people to be alone for many years after they are widowed.

Post # 13
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

haha yes if one of us dies young..but we both agreed if we were older in life and kids were involved we would not.

Post # 14
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrsgurzakovic:  No.I want the man I love to be miserable the rest of his life if I am no longer around………………………..NOT.

Why would I want to wish him a lonely existence? I firmly believe there is more than one person to love for all of us.

Even if there are kids involved, I would still hope that he would find someone else to love. It would be a good life lesson for the kids that life goes on.

Post # 15
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I won’t exist anymore, so therefore I won’t care.

I don’t believe in souls or soulmates. I think resigning your spouse to a life of loneliness if you die is kind of selfish. Just because they marry someone else doesn’t mean they didn’t also love you – it just means that they are moving on and finding a healthy balance in their life.

Post # 16
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

we just discussed this the other day. 

we have both been married before and are not young.  i told him that if something happened to me that i wouldn’t mind if he got married again and he said that he didn’t think he could or would.  i assured him that it was fine.  i just want him to be happy. 

just because i was gone, and he got married again, doesn’t mean that he stopped loving me. 

“i won’t love you until the day you die; i will love you until the day i die.”

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