Post # 1
My grandma (who lives across the country) told my mom that she bought us a cake topper and will bring it with them when they come down for the wedding. So the earliest i would see it is maybe the day before the wedding. Would you be okay with this? Do you think i should buy a back up just in case, or just use whatever she brings, regardless of its appearance?
Post # 3
First, do you have a theme and does she know it? If not buy a backup. Ask her to email a pic
Post # 4
@FutureMrsLarson: my grandma has no clue how to email, lol. And yes we have a theme but it understated and has no connection to the cake. the topper we had planned to use were wood letters of our first initials and new last initial, painted in our colors and attached to wooden dowels
Post # 5
I would ask her to describe it and buy a back up if you’re worried.
If she’s anything like my grandma it’s probably a traditional porcelain couple like this –
Are you into that?
Post # 6
@MrsWinTraining2014: Ask her to try to explain it to you or guide you to where it is online. Then always bring the backup. Who knows hers might get broken en route and you need to keep yourself prepared.
Post # 7
Awww- I think if my grandma bought me something- I’d probably use it regardless- but I don’t care much about the cake topper and am likely having a raunchy one.
If you have a specific idea about what you’d like, and it doesn’t sound like what grandma got (assuming she can describe it, even if you can’t see a pic) then get a new one. If you hate hers- just use yours and say that the caterers mixed them up and you had given them yours as a backup
Post # 8
@MrsWinTraining2014: I wouldn’t worry about it, and let grandma do her thing. The reality is, in the grand scheme of things, it’s just the cake topper. 🙂 She wants to do something special for you. At worst, it won’t be your style, but won’t be offensive. Let go, and let her feel like she’s helping. 🙂
Post # 9
@MrsWinTraining2014: Can she take a photo with a film camera, print it and mail it to you? Otherwise, as other PPs have suggested, maybe she can at least describe it to you and you could buy a back up.
Post # 10
knowing my grandma, itll look more like this
or like this
which i dont mind, its a little too traditional but i wouldnt mind it. It just bugs me not knowing what it looks like, and according to my mom its supposed to double as a wedding gift, so i cant ask grandma. i could ask my mom to ask her for me, though
Post # 11
Well, if it doubles as a gift and you know about it ahead of time, how could you not use it? So, don’t buy a backup. There’s no way not to use the one she got and not hurt her feelings. It’s not like you’ll use it another time in the future.
Post # 12
You should try to get a picture of it from her and be ready to have a nice response if you hate it, and suggest something else for her to pick out for you so that she still has a say. If she’s tech savvy, maybe have a nice Skype session so that she feels good and loved and less offended if you say no! Then again, only you know your grandma – I have a family that tells each other when we hate gifts, so I wouldn’t worry too much about being sensitive, but maybe yours isn’t like that…
Post # 13
I wouldn’t mind it and would use it even if it ended up not being my taste at all. It’s obviously important to your grandmother but it’s not a huge wedding item like your dress or venue so I think you could afford to just “close one eye” if you don’t like it and do something that will make your grandma happy.