(Closed) Would you be peeved?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah…that is not good.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Of course it’s normal to be bummed. I’m sorry. 

I don’t have advice, just want to reassure you that I’d feel bummed too. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d be a little bummed, too, but she can do what feels right to her. Taking time off work can be tricky. As long as she shows up for the photos, you’re all good. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes, the least she can do is have the day off work for your wedding. I would be peeved

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I would definitely be bummed too!  Hugs!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lealorali:  How experienced is she with weddings in general?  Does she not know that getting ready/taking pictures can be an all day affair?  That you just can’t pop into the wedding?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d be a little annoyed but at least you know she doesn’t have bad intentions or anything.  I would just tell her that you are concerned for her in being able to really enjoy the day/night and mention that you are bummed at missing the opportunity of bonding with her earlier in the day.  

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d be bummed too. Plus, it adds extra stress to your plate on YOUR day. Not cool. Talk to her about it. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I could see how she would assume she could work half day for an evening wedding.  She’s off 4 or 5 hours before the wedding, and at least an hour before pictures.  I think she’ll be fine.

There are many folks who wouldnt be able to relax all morning knowing they could have gotten work in that morning.  Sitting around watching others get their hair done might feel more like she’s wasting time and money. If you want a happy and enthusiastic bridesmaid, I’d trust she knows what she has to do to attend to her needs and meet your schedule.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’d be bummed and pissed.  She agreed to be a bridesmaid, so book the darn day off in advance. I’m sorry, but where I live I haven’t heard of this behaviour. You book the day off and you are there for the bride ALL day.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

@lealorali:  I’m going to go against the grain here and say that yes, you are being a teeny bit irrational. Some people don’t have as much flexibility as they’d like in their jobs… and with the economy the way it’s been people are very cautious about taking time off. She’s going to see if she can get off early, that’s great! If not, she’ll still be there for pictures, the ceremony, the reception… that doesn’t sound like ‘popping in’ to me.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@NC Girl:  +1

I’ve been working straight nights 6 nights a week for almost 3 years now. My work rarely gives days off and when they do you generally do not get confirmation until the week before. That is just the way it is…there’s nothing that I can do to change that. Knowing when a wedding is for the year before would do nothing to help this situation.

Maybe this is as much time as your friend is able to book off. You don’t know what she has tried to arrange and maybe she’s lucky to get half the day.

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