Would you be turned off as a guest if there were no favors at a wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be turned off by no favors?
    Yes : (15 votes)
    8 %
    No : (170 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 2
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wouldn’t care, but family and traditionalists might.  We went with edible favours (macarons), mostly because we personally don’t enjoy favours (i.e. a spoon, candle holder …) some various household item that may or may not be personalized that is the 4th spoon or olive oil jar we have and simply, just don’t need but feel obigated to keep.

    I don’t think they’ll be missed by most, but there may be a certain crowd that will notice/comment.

    Post # 3
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

    Not at all! I never expect to receive something when I attend someone’s party. And if the couple wants to use the money from favors and put it into more food or alcohol (as I’ve seen some do), that’s even better than a favor to me!

    Post # 4
    17 posts

    We cut out favors and put more money toward the meal and cupcakes!  We have close to 350 guests, so it would have been pretty expensive!!

    Post # 5
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I forget to take a favor 75% of the time anyway, so I wouldn’t care in the least if there were no favors at all.

    Post # 6
    6697 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Since favors  are neither necessary nor required  I’m not sure how anyone can justify feeling “turned off.” I’ll repost from the similar thread a couple of days ago:

    Miss Manners on favors: “Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention.” 

    If they are something a person wants to do, then by all means, but it’s not an obligation. 

    Post # 7
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

    freshflowers:  its not against etiquette to not have favours.

    I couldn’t care less if there was favours or not, so long as the event was properly hosted.  I will remember poor hosting above anything else.

    Post # 8
    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    It depends, I think photo booths where you get a photo strip are favors, and candy tables or cookie tables are good enough as favors.

    I normally don’t take notice, especially if there is an open bar! If I did notice I would not make a deal out of it. If I was having a traditional wedding I’d do favors but we’re having a small intimate church wedding and taking those 20 guests out to dinner after. So no favors or cake cutting or dancing or anything like that.

    Post # 9
    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I can’t even remember if there were favors or not at the last 3 weddings I went to if that tells you anything….

    Post # 10
    518 posts
    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t notice. 9 times out of 10 I leave it on the table.

    Post # 11
    2197 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I wouldn’t mind at all. Like PPs, I don’t usually even take them. 

    Post # 12
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think that they are often one of the greatest wastes of money ever. I almost never remember to take the favours home and to be honest, I’d much rather have more cake than I would yet another little gauze bag with a sugared almond or two in it!

    Post # 13
    2918 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    No way! Every time I get a favor (unless it’s really really really cool) I think…I wonder how much this cost them. It’s such a waste!

    Post # 14
    4965 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    freshflowers:  We aren’t doing favors at all. Your favor is a free meal + 5 hour open bar 🙂 

    Post # 15
    2367 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’ve never noticed a lack of favors, but I remember the really good ones. 

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