Post # 1
Hi Bees, I just got engaged a week ago and started thinking about wedding dates and venues. Ideally, I’d like to have a winter wedding, meaning in the months of December to March, for the following reasons.
1. At this point, all the prime dates in 2014 are unavailable, e.g. June to September, because either the venue would already be booked or our engaged friends have already set their dates. Considering the latter, logistically it would be difficult because we have to attend their weddings or one of our potential BMs or GMs have to be in another wedding already at that time.
2. I’m turning 32 in a few mos. and I don’t want a long engagement. If I wait until say April to June of 2015, it will have been a 1.5 yr engagement and I’ll be 33, ack. Not that it’s a big deal but I want to conceive my first kid before age 35 and have at least a yr or two of “alone” time before TTC.
Would you be turned off by an invite to a winter wedding? I’m just concerned that guests might think we’re being cheap for having the wedding in winter when it’s not peak season. Or inconsiderate for having them travel in cold weather (FYI wedding will be in NYC area and majority of guests will be local). We still plan on having the wedding on a Saturday and avoiding holiday weekends. Your input would be much appreciated, thank you!!
Post # 3
Nope! I’m having a January wedding. 🙂
Post # 4
@Jewelieee: Wait… I’m confused… Do people really judge for having a wedding during the winter? I WISH that we could have a true winter wedding! Unfortunately, Winter isn’t a real season in Florida. : (
Post # 5
I am having a January wedding (although I live in Los Angeles). Plenty of people choose teh winter wonderland theme of a wedding, so I really don’t think anyone will assume you are doing winter because you are cheap. I think it can be quite beautiful!
Post # 6
Not at all! The only time I would be turned off by it is if you had it outside and made everyone sit out there for a 30 minute ceremony. I hate the cold- HATE it, so I would decline that in a heartbeat lol.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Jewelieee: It’s something we considered … I’m not really sure why people would be turned off by it. Just be warned if you are having anything outdoors that your guests might be wearing ski jackets or parkas, so not the best for photos haha. Ooh, sorry, scratch that if it is in NYC -I don’t think it gets quite cold enough!
Post # 8
I’m pretty sure you can get married any time of the year you damn well please lol
Post # 9
@howsweetitis: Congrats! And I see we’re in the same area. 🙂
@smv22114: Haha I don’t know! It seems like people get offended over everything these days so that’s why I’m checking. One of my friends told me that it’s “cheap” to have a Sunday wedding so yeah.
Post # 10
I’m very similar to you (although I got engaged in April and will have a long-ish engagement because I want to get married in the summer–I’m a teacher).
The biggest reason I didn’t want to go with a winter wedding (aside from being a teacher, and having 2/3 of the BMs teachers) was that my entire family except my parents has to travel. I was too concerned about possible travel concerns getting to Chicago. But if most of your guests are local, I would think your reasoning was probably exactly what it is–that you just wanted to get married but needed enough time to plan and a date that was feasible for everyone involved. And winter weddings can be so pretty!
Post # 11
Only if you’re going to have it outside!
Then I would have to send my regrets.
But if it’s inside, no big deal!
Post # 12
@adoc86: No way, it would be indoors, well-heated, and plenty of booze for people to keep warm. 🙂
Post # 13
I highly doubt that any guests will be concerned with your wedding not being during the peak season. If there are, it really doesn’t matter. If the majority of the guests are local, a winter wedding shouldn’t be much of an issue. I would not be turned off by a winter wedding. I like winter weddings, though.
Your plans sound very nice and considerate of your guests.
Post # 14
Nope, I’ve always wanted to go to a winter wedding actually! As long as it’s not on christmas day!
I’m down with weddings any time of year.
Post # 15
@Jewelieee: I don’t think it should be a problem. Winter weather could make it tricky, but if most guests are local then that shouldn’t really be a big problem.
Post # 16
Not at all! As a guest I’m not turned off at all by weddings being held in the winter.