Would you be upset?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes, I would tell her if she can’t make the fitting she’s no longer a bridesmaid. 

I would be upset. If she wants to be involved get her dress is a big part of being a bridesmaid.

Post # 4
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yep, I’d politely tell her that if she can’t get to the fitting, she can’t have a dress, so by making that decision she is making a decision to not be a bridesmaid.  And let her know that you’ll respect her decision either way but you need to know.

Post # 5
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I wouldn’t hesitate to replace her.


Well, I say that, but if in the position I’d probably try talking to her. If she refuses to cooperate, I would kindly let her know that she can no longer be in the wedding.


Post # 6
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Yes! I would be upset but i guess you saw this coming no? If i were you i wouldnt start an argument about it but explain your reasons for why she can no long be in your wedding #1 on the list being that she doesnt live in the state and cannot fulfill here duties as a BM.

Post # 7
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

@chanara:  Yes if she cannot make the fitting, grab one of your friends that the dress can be altered for. That is really unfair of her to have YOU pay for everything for her. I am so sorry! This situation really sucks. I hope you stick to your guns and let her know! Good luck and please give us an update 🙂

Post # 8
7207 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh yeah screw her she has been, as you expected, unreliable. She missed the fitiing, shes dropped.

Post # 9
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Normally I’m in the camp of “you can’t un-ask someone” but in this case- I’m with PPs who say she’s gotta go.  She has made it clear she really wants nothing to do with celebrating your wedding.  She also seems very self centered.  I also don’t think you need to feel like your sisters have to be in your BP.  My only sister isn’t a bridesmaid- we don’t get along and I’m not going to pretend we do just because it’s what “tradition” dictates.  I hope this all works out!

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