Post # 1
This morning I woke up to a text from my sister of a screen shot of my SO’s profile on Tinder. My mouth dropped because I had no idea he had a Tinder profile.. On his profile it said that he was active 10 hours ago so if I did my math correctly then he would have been on it while I was at his apartment sleeping in his bed. MY SO, his friend, and I all went out last night and i decided to go to sleep earlier than them. I confronted him about it and he explained that he was with his friend and they were curious as to how it worked. He ensured me that he wasn’t trying to be sketchy and he apologized many times. Now my SO is at work and I am at home and thinking about this and its really starting to bother me. I feel embarrassed, hurt, and betrayed. I am going across the country for 11 days next Friday and now I feel uneasy about it. I can’t even trust him when I am laying in his bed so I’m feeling anxious as to what he’s capable of doing when I am across the country. Ugh this kind of ruined my day. Should I believe his story of being curious or is there something sketchy going on here? Any input is appreciated!
Post # 3
has he given you any previous indication that you can’t trust him?
how long have you been together?
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Post # 5
@daisylover: There’s just not enough information at this point….if he’s really just goofing around, and hey, I’ve totally done that just to see what the deal is because a single friend was too scared…ask him for the password to it and see what you can find out…people who have nothing to hide…hide nothing.
Post # 6
I’ve never heard of Tinder… what is it?
Post # 8
It sounds legit to me. He was with his friend in his apartment with you also there. If there are no other indications of sketchiness, then I think he’s telling the truth. I understand feeling weird about it, but it sounds like he was actually just with his friend being drunk and curious about the app.
Post # 9
I’m skeptical- if they were so curious why didnt your SO’s friend make the Tinder account instead of your SO?
Post # 10
@colorofmyheart: We have been together for over 2 years now. In the beginning of our relationship, I came across a few conversations that were on the line of being a little too friendly for my taste. However, in the past year and a half I’ve had no reason not to trust him.
@housebee @adoc86: Its an app where you put up your profile and where you are and it matches you up with people that are close in proximity to you. You can either say that you like them or don’t like them based on their pictures when they pop up. If you do like them and they like you back then its considered a match and then you can chat.
@Nona99: You’re right. When he gets back from work, I’ll ask him if I can see it to see if he’s actually chatting with people.
Post # 11
@BeeLoveHeart: My thoughts exactly.
@daisylover: I think this is something you need to discuss more with him before jumping to any conclusions but I would be suspicious for sure. I’ve never used Tinder before, is there any way to tell how long ago he created it?
Post # 12
It’s pretty much only for hook ups…less of a “dating” app/site and more of a “one night stand” kind of app/site.
Post # 13
@daisylover: I’d ask him to show me his profile/give me his password. Try not to be angry and stuff when you say it, just let him know that it’s been urking you all day and you’d just like the reassurance. It’s very likely that his story is true but if it isn’t he will start gaslighting you and/or being defensive.
Post # 14
@daisylover: That sounds fishy, since there’s really no reason for him to be curious about how it works. Even if he was, I would think that he would tell you on his own, rather than having to be confronted by you.
Post # 15
@juliana192: this is what I initially thought and I am hoping that’s the case.
@BeeLoveHeart: That is what I asked… his friend is single so its kind of weird that my SO made one instead of him. His profile photo is a photo that he cropped me out of which really kind of rubs me the wrong way.
@Sassyfras27: I am going to look into that
Post # 16
@daisylover: Please either change your title of the post, or your question in the poll. When your title and poll are different, it really throws lots of Bees off, since we tend to answer the Title question, without reading the Poll question, then answer wrong. Just trying to help solve confusion!
As for the situation, I would just definitely keep my eyes open. Without much more information on his character, I can’t really give you much insight.