(Closed) Would you be upset if bridesmaid wanted to wear this?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I just let her wear this dress?
    Yes, you're being unreasonable : (15 votes)
    6 %
    No, it's too casual : (92 votes)
    39 %
    No, it has too much white : (112 votes)
    48 %
    Other (see my note below) : (14 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I don’t think it would look good beside your ivory dress. It sounds like you need to tell her SOLID purple or just pick a dress for her if it’s that complicated.

    Post # 5
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m not really bothered by the white in the dress. But if the style isnt what you are looking for then why dont you narrow it down and give thems stricter guidelines. You just told them  “it needed to be purple and knee length or slightly above” and her dress kinda fits the bill. If you want it to be solid purple and you want a specific fabric or style so it looks less casual then you need to tell them. Perhaps you can send them pictures of purple knee length dresses that you like as a guideline

    Post # 6
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    6249 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Personally in my wedding if anyone would be wearing a pattern it would be the Maid of Honor, to make her stand out a bit while still carrying through the color scheme. 

    Would this bridesmaid be the only one in a pattern?  Would she be the only one in a dress that isn’t one, solid color?

    Post # 7
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    46141 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    She has to be a bit thick or she is doing this on purpose. This is not a purple dress. It is a purple and white print dress. Any moron would know that. Tell her you that she must have misunderstood- that you meant a solid purple dress.

    Post # 9
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    1099 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I voted for other. My reasoning is, is that since it is such a bold print and if all of the other girls are wearing a solid purple she will stick out. I would be afraid that with that pattern more of the focus would be on her rather than you, the bride. I would not let her wear it.

    Post # 11
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    12827 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If your dress isn’t white, no one in the bridal party should wear anything white, because you’ll look dingy.  Plus, its a loud pattern that will definitely take attention away from you.  I vote no on this one.

    Post # 12
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    6249 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    @Beckster329:  So the color is correct and you don’t mind a pattern — you’re just worried that this particular pattern doesn’t go with your dress?

    Seeings as how another bridesmaid already has a pattern and everyone is in a different dress, it might be neat to throw this dress into the mix. 

    I don’t really understand what you mean about comparing the geometric pattern dress to your wedding dress because, IMO, the bridesmaids dresses don’t really affect the bride’s dress.  Sure, they compliment it, but I don’t see how this geometric dress would take away from your gorgeous dress.  Plus she will blend with the other purple-clad bridesmaids and tie in with your purple flowers.

    Post # 13
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    6025 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I think it will not fit in with what I am imagining your look as a whole will be like. I dont think the dress is inappropriate in general. I do think that this is unreasonable though since it does not seem to fit what you asked for. And Im not big on the whole “no white” at a wedding, but if your dress is ivory and this is more white white, it wont go well. I would ask her to find another dress. Don’t feel bad about it. Its not as if she bougth the dress already.

    Post # 14
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    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If it was solid, I think it would be fine.  It’s the print that doesn’t work.  Will anyone else have prints?  If so, you can’t really demand solids (though the prints will clash).  Unless the MOH is in a print.  In that case standing out with a print isn’t a bad thing.  Target has a bunch of cute, inexpensive dresses, and I think there were several purple options.

    Post # 15
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    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it is both too casual and too much white in it.  Are the other bridesmaids wearing patterned dresses?

    If everyone hasn’t purchased a dress yet perhaps it would just be easier to pick one you like and have everyone wear the same so there is no room for interpretation

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