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would you be upset if someone wore this to your wedding??

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    snake    September 18, 2010   richmond va

    A friend of mine wore the dress to the left to a weding not to long ago. She says its pink so its not like she broke the "dont wear white" rule... but i don't know, i'd be really upset if she wore this to mine. 

     

    What do you all think?

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    MandaMack    September 10, 2011   Pittsburgh, PA

    I think I'd be upset.  And my MOH would escort the culprit out of my reception...

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    I can't tell that that's pink at all, from the pic. I would most definitely be upset about that. What'd the Bride say?

     
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    PinkPinstripes    November 2011   Boston, MA

    I feel like there are better alternatives and that wasn't the best choice. It photographs like it is in the white family and the material/cut look almost bridal. No offense to your friend, but I think it was a bad decision.

     
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    LGenz    May 21, 2011   New Jersey, Wedding in Clearwater, FL

    I think I'd be more annoyed my guest wore a nightgown to my wedding haha

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    Ya I don't know what she was thinking!

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I can't tell it is pink either. I wouldn't normally get upset with the color of what someone else wears, but this is definately not wedding guest appropriate in my opinion.

     
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    snake    September 18, 2010   richmond va

    i have no idea what the bride said, i only know the girl to the left (the culprit)

     

    someone put on her fb "who is the bride.. i see two wearing white!"

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    @snake: LOL...wow bust out on FB

     
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    Goldilocks1107    September 2010   Madison, WI

    I personally think that fabric is almost more important than color with those light-colored dresses. Cotton? Okay - doesn't look bridal. Silk/satin AND a light color? Um, we're venturing into questionable territory at that point.

    Personally, I think I'd be more okay with someone coming to my wedding in a white cotton sundress than the dress in the photo above. But that's because my dress is no where near a white cotton sundress.

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    Yeah - that dress does not look pink in that photograph and it also is very bridal in style.  Not a good choice by your friend ...

     
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    cbee    July 26, 2010  

    Whoa!  Looks like a wedding gown!

     
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    October4040    October 8, 2010   West Virginia

    Yes, I'd be mad!

     
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    nmsoonerbride    March 19, 2011   Live in New Mexico, wedding in Oklahoma City

    I hope I'd be too busy having fun to notice....but yeah, I don't think it's an appropraite dress to wear to a wedding.

     
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    SuperShopper    June 25, 2011   Midwest

    Wow -- I'd be mad.. and she'd know it.  That even looks like a simple bridal gown.  Doesn't look pink to me!

     
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    Bailzoe    August 2010  

    She looks completely overdressed compared to the one on the right! I would probably be annoyed, that dress is silk, long, and cut like a bridal gown. If it were in any other color, I probably would have assumed bridesmaid too.

     
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    picturemeurs    February 2012  

    @Goldilocks1107: I agree but that dress definitely looks bridal

     
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    baldor1    May 7, 2012   Southern California

    That looks like a wedding gown to me and it doesn't photograph pink. If it not had been for the bling on the other dress I would've had a hard time guessing who the bride was. Definitely a faux pas. And like others have said, the material of the dress is another big culprit here. It looks very weddingy and could have passed for a destination gown. Tsk tsk... hopefully your friend learned her lesson especially with the public call out on Facebook.

     
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    Soon2beeMrsM    October 2010   NY

    Yeah that would burn my toast a bit! By looking at the picture it looks like 2 brides, not just one. Hopefully your friend doesn't wear it to another wedding!

     
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    animated_librarian    October 16, 2010   La Jolla, CA

    I don't know that I would be mad. That takes up too much energy and it is not that important, I mean no one should be mistaking her for the bride. That said, it is a very poor choice and I would think she is looking for attention. How sad.

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    Yeah, um, that's not OK. Like someone else said, if the bride wasn't blinged out I wouldn't have known who the bride was.

    LOL knowing my MOH that "pink" dress would have a nice big red wine stain on it by the end of the night. 

     
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    ritsi_bitsi    May 2011   Canada

    Personally, I wouldn't care if someone wore that to my wedding, but if I had a dress like that, I wouldn't wear it to anyone else's wedding because I know others may be offended by it.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I have to admit, I saw that dress and thought "oh that's the wedding gown! wait a minute....." it totally looks like something i'd sleep in. Pink has to actually be PINK in order for it to count. that's less pink than the bridal champagney pinks that are out there.

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    I stay away from anything that light, even champagne as a wedding guest. It's just not worth it.

     
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    Ryansgirl    October 22, 2011   Canada

    To be honest, I don't think this would be something that would upset me.  If her dress was more "glamorous" than mine, then yes it might be an issue.  "Issues" like this aren't important in the grand scheme of things.

     
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    Arachna       nyc

    eh, its obvious who the bride is and is probably more pink in person.

     
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    bakerysensei    November 11, 2011   Chicago, IL

    would i care?  probably not.  doesn't seem worth the energy.

    do i still think it's bad taste to wear something like that?  totally.

     
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    jaglynn17    July 2, 2011   Westlake, CA

    What is wrong w people  She pretty much wore a long white satin dress to a wedding....yea id be a little annoyed but she looks like the idiot. Just enjoy your day.

     
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    camrie    September 5, 2010   Louisville

    I don't think I would be mad. I don't think it was the best choice for her. Was it short? Cause that makes a difference as well.

    Not defending her but pale pink is VERY popular right now in fashion (with the whole vintage lace thing going on) so it's not totally crazy that she'd pick something pale pink - plus I don't think it would be that light in person but might reflect a lot of light in pictures.

     
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    NatDawn    July 2012  

    I wouldn't be super happy about it. It almost looks like a casual wedding dress. Why on earth someone would wear THAT to a wedding, is beyond me. Pink? Really? It completely looks white to me.

     
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    sloth    May 14, 2011   Philadelphia, PA

    It defintely looks like a wedding gown, but I wouldn't be mad. If someone else wants to wear white to my wedding, I probably won't even notice, let alone care.

     
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    Mrs.MedinaJr    November 11, 2011   Houston

    I am having anyone wearing white to my wedding kicked out... seriously its been discussed with my Fi and security guards HA HA

     
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    jaylovessteez    September 19, 2010   CA

    I would kick her out!!! Oh heck no!

     
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    @Ryansgirl: Thank you. In the grand scheme of things, that's just a lil' ol' grieviance.

     
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    In the media    June 29, 2013   Indiana, but wedding in St. Louis

    The girl own other dresses surely, so she should have picked something else. I'd be pissed.

     
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    Pilotsgirl09    April 2011  

    I think it looks too close to white for my comfort, and I would be super peaved!!!! If she's having to justify it, then it means she shouldn't wear it to the wedding. Period. I'm worried about this happening at my wedding, which is weird because I never thought I would actually care that much. But after reading stories in the hive about all the brides this happens to, now I do worry!!! Yikes!!

     
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    mogget    June 11, 2011   TX

    Ahhh!

    I'll admit it, I would probably be pretty annoyed and/or upset if someone wore something like that. It's not just the fact that its white (something like a white sundress or whatever I could deal with), but the fact that it looks a lot like a wedding dress.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    It looks more like lingerie to me than a dress, plus it looks too white. i would be pissed!! But then, my MIL wore white to our wedding...Undecided

     
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    Vitsippa    October 10, 2010  

    Hahah! I love the comment on FB! It totally called her out!

     
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    newbiecici    September 18, 2010   Louisiana

    I would be kind of upset, but then realize that everyone else is probably talking s*** about her behind her back.  Like, "Did you see what she was wearing?!"  And I know my sister would be all over that one! 

     

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