Would you be upset if… (valentines question)

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@LoverFace2000:  I wouldn’t be mad…I know that if I left a gift out FI would assume it was to open then and there, not to wait. Otherwise, why put it out? It’s not like it’s Christmas where you display presents under the tree waiting for the day.  I guess maybe just explain to him that you meant for him to wait so there are no misunderstandings next time. But don’t ruin V-Day by getting cranky with each other over it 🙂

Post # 4
2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If I found it in the living room, I’d think it was left there for me to open. I’d call my husband before I opened it, but wouldn’t be mad if he did what your husband did. I’d think it was cute that he was so excited to open it.

Don’t let it ruin your evening or tomorrow. You also don’t have to get him anything else, he just opened his present early. 

Post # 5
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@LoverFace2000:  He may have thought you left it for him to open? I would have thought that, if it was set up in the living room. If it was tucked in a corner off to the side I would assume to wait. But if it was on a table or staged in anyway I wouldve assumed it was left to be opened as a romantic surprise. 

I could understand being disappointed, but I wouldnt be angry. Not to minimize your feelings, but there are so many worse things someone could do. 


Post # 6
1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Why did you set it out if you didn’t want him to open it? If my SO set out a present for me, I’d assume he wanted me to open it.

Post # 7
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

A) I would be disappointed, yes.  Especially if I really wanted to see his reaction.

B) Depends… But I would probably wait, or text if it was okay to open.  But men are different creatures.

C) I wouldn’t say that you’re crazy, but I wouldn’t be upset that he didn’t figure out it was for V-day.  He probably didn’t even think about tomorrow being Valentine’s Day.  He just came home, saw a gift and a card, and thought, “Wow, LoverFace sure is swell!” and opened his gift.

Don’t be upset with him.  It’s okay to be disappointed, but he didn’t do it to cause trouble. My fiance probably would have done the same thing, lol.

Post # 8
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@LoverFace2000:  If you didn’t want him to open it, you should have put it in the closet. If my husband left a gift out for me, I’d open it, too. You do have a v-day present for him, he’s just already opened it. I wouldn’t waste energy fighting over a hallmark holiday. 

Post # 9
6446 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Honestly, if I saw a present out in our living room I would assumed I was supposed to open it. I would likely call/text my husband first to make sure, but why put it out if it’s not meant to be opened?


Post # 11
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think he was unreasonable for opening it. How was he to know he was supposed to wait until you were there/tomorrow? I don’t understand why you put it out for him today if you wanted him to open it tomorrow! I’d be annoyed with you for being annoyed with me!

But really, it doesn’t have to ruin the day for the two of you. It’ll be a funny story looking back on it in a couple years!

Post # 12
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would be upset.  I would never open a gift without asking first.  

Post # 13
121 posts
Blushing bee

If you left it out why are you upset he opened it? You left it out.  I would open a gift left for me in my living room if I found it.


Post # 14
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If you didn’t want him to have it now, you shouldn’t have left it out for him.  You should’ve hid it and given it to him when you wanted him to have it. 

If I saw a gift left out for me, I would’ve opened it, too.  I would’ve figured you left it out as a surprise for me and, since it was out, it was mine to open.  Why would I have to ask to open something that was obviously left out for me to open?  And, why should I have to wait for you to open it?  If you wanted me to wait for you, you should’ve given it to me in person.  


Post # 15
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015


Honestly, I would figure a wrapped present left out in the open is meant to be opened.  If it was that important, I would have left a note (DO NOT OPEN UNTIL…) or something.

Post # 16
5432 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

If I saw that my FI had left a present out, I would think that it was supposed to be a sweet surprise that I was supposed to open right away.

I would be disappointed if I left a present out expecting that my FI would wait to open it, but I wouldn’t blame him for opening it since I was the one who left it out and it was just a misunderstanding of expectations.. not sure if that made sense?

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