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just curious what others were thinking about it. my dress is different as it's more ballgown - am i being a bit sensitive? 
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oh there it is... and um is that YOUR dress? because if it is, great bridal gown. if thats your MIL's dress.... um... no.
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OMFG. that is ridiculous. I would be LIVID if my FMIL wanted to wear that! Tell her to find a new dress, STAT.
here's the problem...i can't. she's had it made. i had to pretend i thought it was amazing. said it was beige with a peach tint?
Uh YA!
EDIT: Your wedding is 5 years away and your MIL had a dress made now?
no that's a lie...was worried she'd somehow find this. man...i thought it was bad but now i know. bummer...
at least my dress is much more bride-y. what can ya do? it doesn't help that she's stunning, haha.
I wouldn't want my FMIL to wear that gown either. It looks too much like a wedding gown. You are not being too sensitive at all. I would send her a link to this post, so she knows that other brides feel the same way.
no, i can't - i told her i thought it was great because i knew she couldn't go back on it. i totally lied. i mean waht was i supposed to do? seem like a bridezilla? her friend's aspiring designer girlfriend is MAKING it for her... i mean, it's beautiful, but it should be a different color in my opinion. too close too bride's color. my dress is champagne, too!
or get your FH to talk to her. if showing her this post doesnt work. thats insane. really not nice to wear something like that. very monster-in-law-ish....
basically, i didn't want to cause drama so i lied and said it was perfect. oh well...
it just sucks that she is as tiny as i am even at 57 and really gorgeous. more annoying than anything.
Maybe she'll change her mind, she has 5 years to think about it. I can't believe she had a dress made already!!
what about some sort of colorful jacket with it?
Ummmm....thats a wedding gown lol. Try and talk her out of it, better yet, get FI to
Oh my gosh, my mom almost did that to me! Fortunately, my aunt, cousin and dad all talked her out of it, but boy! That would have made me mad. She hates when attention is not on her, especially when it's on me, but the least she could do was suck it up for my wedding.
Usually when I click on threads like this, I end up not commenting because I think people are being too sensitive and overreacting. In your case, however, I am totally with you. That is astonishing.
But yeah, if she's having it made you need to just go with it. But wow....
maybe i should suggest she chop it off and make it a short dress? originally i told her to go long, but now i am thinking no. she thought if she chopped it off it would be too "cocktail" and not black tie. who knows, maybe it's actually a real true peach color and it photographed more champagne, which wouldn't be a big deal.
i've got an idea - say i showed the pic to my mom and other older members of the family and they thought it was MY dress! i can make it a joke and ask that they shorten it. sound good???
Wow... yeah I would have put my foot down on that one. You kinda did yourself in though when you lied and said you loved it. Maybe you can bring it back up with her that after thinking about it you feel it is too bridal and that you would feel better if her friend made her something else. I would offer to pay for it since you already told her the dress was ok and are now going back saying that it isn't ok. Good luck!!!!
Starting feeding her treats and goodies and maybe she won't be able to fit into it in 5 years!! Can you hijack the dress? Maybe tell her that you will keep it and then make up some lame story that you were robbed and they took the dress?
Ya..thats a wedding dress. I would tell her thats a "great dress...go wear it on a cruise or cocktail party or fundraiser. Thanks."
do you like my idea for what to say? heck, i'm sure once i show my mom and others they will say it looks like a bridal gown, so it probably won't even be an untruth!
Yep, do that. But cut the shortening thing. See if she can dye it. You srsly can not have her wear that to your wedding.
and, like everyone else, I'm confused as to why she has a dress already made for a 5 yr away wedding. Maybe convince her to wear it to some kind of event between here and there.
It's a gorgeous dress, but unless the flash REALLY washed the color out, it's definitely too bride-y. Is there any chance it's more peach than it looks? It seems insane to me that two grown women would think it was appropriate to wear an almost white/ivory dress to someone else's wedding.
i'm getting married in two months...just paranoid she would find this! i know...crazy! i just feel so bad about the whole thing!!
i just don't know whether this is all worth the drama. what a pain...
WOW! does she think she is the bride? I dont understand why she thinks that would even be ok to wear to someone elses wedding!
I will be really upset, I mean is like commun knowledge that the bride is the only one allowed to wear white in a wedding, I mean if is not one f those weddings in whit the bp is wearing white or something. Besides of the fact that is champagne, is that it looks like a wedding dress, a simple one but still! I´ll be furious.
However if you still have some time, maybe you can like spill cofee on it? jk. Maybe she can have it dye or something?? But try to find the way to tell her, cuz this may cause more drama that the one you were trying to avoid. Maybe tell her that the bridal party will be using blue (or whatever) and thet you will be pleased to see her in that color. I don´t know.
Okay can I just point out that the 5 year wedding date is FAKE. She made it up because she thought her mother in law would find the thread.
I wonder if you can get a picture of it in better lighting to see the true color of it?
I dont know if its worth starting a fight over, especially if your gown is a ballgown. honestly no one is going to think she looks better then you - people always look at the bride. your day is about so much more than that!
i wish i could - next time i speak with her about the dress i can ask her what the real color is in real light. she said it had a flesh/peach tone to it. i mean...i'm not sure, maybe it's totally fine. but if it is pretty close to my color i won't be pleased.
Aaaah, now I get it about the date thing. silly me. Still, I'd go with the 'my mom& friends thought it was my dress' thing. It's your best shot. And maybe get your man to row in on it as well. Is she skint? I mean, will she be able to afford a new outfit?
The color in that pic is really bad. Have you seen it in person? Maybe the color is more obvious in daylight. But yeah it's an awesome dress but if the color is too light I'd be annoyed if I were you.
i have to keep in mind she could just be naive about all this. it probably wasn't a blatant disregard for my status as bride - i mean, come on, who does that? we get along great!
Yea, it's definitely not great. Does it look more peachy & beige in real life than it does in the pictures? I kind of like your idea of telling her that you showed it to some co-workers or something & they thought it was your dress & see her reaction to it.
But hey, regardless of what happens, no one is going to confuse her with the bride. It's your day & everyone there knows that. Her wearing that dress doesn't make her anymore of a star and will not overshadow you at all. If anything, the guests will be whispering about her faux pas!
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