Post # 1
I’m just trying to gather a few opinions but here’s the back story. My fiance’s sister is getting married in the summer and her fiance is having a stag. The stag is the same day as an out of town wedding we planned to attend. I happened to mention to her that her brother(my fiance) wouldn’t be able to make it to stag and now she’s upset….really upset. Personally I think that she’s out of line for getting upset about this, its not like he chose one over the other but we have already RSVP’d to go to this wedding when we only found out about the stag a week ago . What are your opinions? Do you think she’s right for getting mad about this?
Post # 3
my brother didnt attend my FI’s bucks night and i couldnt care in the least
i have more important things to worry about so i think your FSIL is suffering from tunnel syndrome and obsessing about the wrong stuff
Post # 4
It wouldn’t bother me either!
It’s not like your FH is snubbing his FBIL, he’s attending another wedding! He’ll be there on their wedding day to support both of them! How would she like it if one of her friends ditched her wedding to go to a stag? She’s just being a little bit crazy.
Post # 5
Thanks! I think she’s a little crazy too 🙂 She tried saying it would be like if she didn’t show up to my stagette..I could care less. It bugs me when people try to make drama out of nothing.
Post # 6
I was at teh bachelorette of my brothers (now) wife, and my brothers were a part (and major planners) of my husbands bachelor party, but I always thought that was because we were all friends and he’s basically been a part of the family for years. So as a general rule, I dont think brothers are required – in my case – I would have been pissed because they are good friends.
Post # 7
she’s making something outta nothing
you already RSVP’ed to the other wedding. It’s not like he’s not going cuz he doesn’t feel like it!
Post # 8
It’s not like he’s skipping the wedding! I would tell her to RELAX. Neither of my brother’s will be at my fiance’s stag because they live out of state, and though I’d like for them to get more bonding time I wouldn’t ask them to fly out for it.
Post # 9
My brother couldn’t afford it and had to work, so he couldn’t go. No one was upset, and everything was just fine.
Post # 10
Honestly, I’ve heard some ugly stories about brothers-of-the-bride attending bachelor parties anyway. Probably best he can’t make it.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t be upset at all, in fact I don’t think my brothers should be at my fiance’s stag. That is his time to hang out with his friends, not worry about my brothers reporting back to me (not that they would). It’s very self-centered of her to assume that his stag party is more important than a wedding!
Post # 12
Exactly Nathalietanya…I always thought it sounded awkward. Although I did have my FSIL come to my bachelorette party since she’s a bridesmaid. Nonetheless, you already RSVP’D…it’s not like it’s the actualy wedding!
Post # 13
I would ask her how she would feel if someone who had already RSVPed yes to her wedding backed out to go to a bachelor party. It sounds like she just needs a little perspective.
Post # 14
Thanks for the feedback ladies. Unfortunatly my fiance doesn’t want to have to deal with family drama over this so he’s going to the stag. Now I get to tell a friend, whose wedding I have already RSVP’d to, that we can’t make it. I so want to kick my FSIL in the face.
Post # 15
I assume your fiance isn’t a groomsman for his sister’s FH? If he’s not, then while I understand why she might be a LITTLE upset, being crushed is a wee bit overreacting. Maybe she was hoping her brother would keep her groom in line in case they went to a strip bar?
Post # 16
He’s not a groomsmen but I don’t think she’s worried about her fiance, my FFIL will be attending the stag as well..as well as some strippers…AWKWARD!