Post # 1
FI and I went on vacation to meet up with his family from CA in FL, where his extended family is, and they are throwing us an engagement party. We got engaged a few months ago, but this was the first time seeing everyone since. FI’s sister (also from CA) got engaged right before this vacation while on vacation in Europe, and it was her first time seeing the family since the engagement too. (She had let everyone know as soon as it happened by email before coming back). Would you be upset that she sort of announced her engagment at your engagement party?
Post # 3
need a little clarification sorry. It sounds like she announced it before the party right? she didn’t announce it at the actual party
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I’m not quite sure I understand. You said she let everyone know by email as soon as it happened, so she technically didn’t announce anything at your party. She can’t really help it if it was the first time she had seen the family since she got engaged.
Post # 5
I can see where it might “steal your thunder” but given the timing, there wasn’t much else she could do… I mean, I assume that her FI thought this would be a great trip (europe) to propose and probably didn’t even consider that you and your FI hadn’t officially been “celebrated” yet.
It not as if she got engaged AT your engagement party. Plus, since she’d sent the email, and I assume had called her parents/close relatives, it really wasn’t a true announcement.
Post # 5
I would not be upset. It’s a family get-together; and she didn’t announce it at your party, you said yourself she had already let everyone know earlier. It just happened that this get-together was the first get-together after she got engaged too.
My fiance and I announced our engagement to his extended family the same day as his cousin’s bridal shower. (After the shower was over, we also waited until the bride-to-be had left.) That same day was also another [younger] cousin’s birthday party. Everyone was together, so it just made sense for it to be a multi-tasking day.
Post # 6
Ditto what cardigan said. I’m sure if she had any other way to see her family before the party she would have preferred that too.
Post # 7
I agree with the others. It would have been hard for her to completely hide it until later (and I don’t know if she lives near these family members or not). Congrats to you both!
Post # 8
yeah, it was announced over email first… so not reallly an announcement. I’m not bothered at all by it. I actually didnt even think anything of it at all, until a friend of mine mentioned “stealing thunder” to me. But I’m usually really easy going about everything so I wanted to know what a “normal” reaction would be.
Post # 9
I think not being upset is a normal reaction. It’s hard with families these days all over the place and not getting together that often. It’s not like she could or should hide it until after the trip is over, and then have to wait however long to see everybody again.
In my family we don’t even get our own birthdays. We have one day a month that everybody who has a birthday that month is celebrated. Sometimes you just have to get used to sharing the spot light. I think she handled it perfectly graciously.
Post # 10
haha, no way – I’d be so excited for her!
I’m a more laid back bride though, and we’ve been goading one of our groomsmen trying to convince him to propose to his girlfriend at our wedding (they’ve been together 5 years and he finally decided he’s ready to get married, and made the mistake of telling us he is thinking of proposing).
Post # 11
haha.. thanks guys. I;ll take it as normal to not be bothered at all. Guess my friend just dramatized things a bit.