- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Inlaws flying to America from Tokyo to the US will cost us all $1,500 each and that will be for a total of 6 people. Thats $9,000. Stay in Moms house (gotta love big country sized houses)
My family coming here, just Mom and Dad, $1,000 each plus hotels.About $2,000 each. (Mom flys free though so only the hotel.) ** divorced
There is this never ending cycle of expense that goes with planning an event where people are long distance. I feel a lot of stress trying to put everyone together. My divorced parents won’t enjoy a trip in the middle and there won’t be anyone else to distract them.
His sisters are going to be there no matter where we have this event.
I swear I thought having a wedding and having family close together would be easier but its not. After the earthquake in Japan we started considering my home instead of Japan.
My Dad said, “Why don’t you wait?” “I said because we had to cancel something we had planned for over 6 months. An event We have been working towards for 8 years.” Its kinda hard.*side note* We aren’t super close or anything anyway but getting better in my adult years***
This hurts to not make it work for everyone. It hurts to realize that only I want this.
Mom said, ” I can’t wait for you to finally wear your dress.” (sarcastic and on the verge of I don’t give a flying f**k)”** Love this lady but she gets stressed out easy and isn’t really enjoying this like Most mothers of the brides.***
Mind you I had prepared for two events. I have two dresses. Yeah I am a girl that wants to wear her dress. Yeah I always dreamed of having a nice wedding, yet not over the top.
I considered two but his family seemed intent on traveling to my hometown because they wanted to join the familys together. ** I really love his family. They always take care of me and show love to one another.**
Girls, I don’t even know what to do anymore. There is just a lot going on.
Could your really, I mean really live with canceling your wedding 3 weeks prior after a large earthquake? Then could you be ok with rescheduling everything a year from now? Lets not forget that nothing will ever be perfect for a wedding and that well, I have been together with this man for 8 years. We legally married back in January.
*I know that might seem important to some of you. If not the most important aspect. But it was so silly. We just signed a paper at the office and the dude took it to the back and put it on a file. We weren’t claimed anything official, it wasn’t special. We just went to work afterward and ate curry for dinner.**
I haven’t been home in over 2 years. I almost had everything ready for my home wedding and scheduled for June but now I feel lost. Its like I basically have to let go of the dream.