Would you bring a plus one (if you were single)?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: IF YOU WERE SINGLE, what would you do if invited with a plus one?
    Bring someone! Anyone! That guy I met last night in a bar! : (15 votes)
    7 %
    Bring someone if we've been dating, even if it isn't serious at all : (39 votes)
    18 %
    Bring someone only if I won't know anyone else there : (117 votes)
    54 %
    Go alone and hang out with my friends or make some new ones : (44 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    906 posts
    Busy bee

    I would honestly limit plus ones to married, engage, living together, or if your friends with their signfancant other. If they don’t fit this group then ppl don’t need to be extended a plus one. The only exception in my book to extend random plus ones would be for family. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @MaryRachel:  If you can afford it, do it.  It’s nice and the singles that want to bring plus 1’s will appreciate it whether they bring an SO or friend along with them.  If it’s not in the budget, then draw the line somewhere specific and stick to it.

    Post # 5
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We allowed a plus one for ALL of our guests. I was MOH in a wedding last year and I had to go alone. My husband was deployed at the time. It was awful. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It depends on who the wedding is for. 

    Before I was dating FI and was single, I was invited to a work wedding without a +1, and I was fine with it because it was just work people and whoever I brought would not have known anyone.

    If it was a DW, I definitely would allow for +1s.  That is a very heated topic on this forum.

    My and FI’s family is really big on inviting +1s even if they don’t have a serious significant other, but that’s just us.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3514 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    The only person who is allowed a plus one is my MOH because she doesn’t know anyone but me and my FI. I think that’s the only reasonable explaination for having a plus one.

    Post # 8
    Member
    8701 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I allowed everybody I invited to bring a plus one. I don’t care if they’re dating or just met or some hobo off the street.

    If I was single and offered a plus one, I’d bring someone I knew. Maybe not a boyfriend, maybe just a friend (Male or female.)

    Post # 9
    Member
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MaryRachel:  No. If I knew the people I would be seated with, I would not bring a plus one. I personally don’t want random people at my wedding either.

    Post # 10
    Member
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Depends on who the rest of the guests were. I went alone to one friend’s wedding when my fiancé couldn’t make it. And it was fun, because I was still with my friends. But if I didn’t know many people or thought I might feel lonely then I would try to bring a friend, sister, etc. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MaryRachel:  I’m giving all singles a +1. I know how horrid it can be to go stag if you don’t know anyone aside from the B&G.

    Post # 12
    Member
    6503 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think of you can afford it, it’s nice to do.

    If I wasn’t in a relationship and I was invited with a +1 it would really depend on the situation. If I had to travel or didn’t know anyone I would probably bring someone. If it was local and/or I knew tons is people, I would just go alone.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m giving everyone a plus one and letting them use their judgement.  Personally if I was single I would only bring someone if I wouldn’t know anyone many people at the wedding.  Otherwise I would prefer to enjoy catching up with those people I knew.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2720 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’ve been to weddings alone and with dates. Attending a wedding with a date is always better even if you’re part of the bridal party. Everyone is paired up and you’re left all alone 🙁

    Post # 15
    Hostess
    22134 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would only if I didn’t know anyone else there.

    We gave a bunch of our single friends +1s and most didn’t choose to bring anyone, largely because they had plenty of other friends at the wedding anyway.

    Post # 16
    Member
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I would bring someone only if I wouldn’t know anyone at all. I’ve gone to weddings before and only known one friend and then ended up hanging out with other people. If there is an open bar, I find that everyone gets a lot friendlier!

    For our wedding, we are giving +1s to serious relationships and then to people who won’t know anyone else – we’re going to tell them they can bring a friend if they don’t have a date and don’t feel comfortable making new friends.

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