Post # 1
My cousin announced her engagement today (just happened this morning). Everyone was so excited and happy for her. She was not shy in showing off her ring and being the bride obsessed person I am I quickly went in for a closer look. I knew right away it wasn’t a diamond (I used to work in a jewelry store and spent a good 6 months exploring “options” for an engagement ring), NBD it was gorgeous and I simply complimented her and sat starry-eyed listening to her plans. Then she caught me off guard and announced, “I never thought I’d have a diamond this big!” Hmmm. whatever I don’t care if she wants to pass it off as real…THEN she started in on my ring adding to her first comment, “I thought June’s was pretty but I just can’t stop staring at mine, it’s gorgeous!” Ummm…Did you just insult my ring? No, I’m sure I’m reading into nothing but then she added, “June, yours isn’t even a carat is it? Mine’s almost two…”
Now I have no problem with non-diamond engagement rings and honestly I don’t have much of a problem with people passing them off as diamonds but I DO have a problem with someone insulting the size of MY diamond ring. My only response to her comment was. “no, it’s not a carat but it sure is sparkly!” I really wanted to call her out, I know the ring is a white sapphire, I would bet my life.
Question is would you have called her out? Would you call anyone on it?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t call her out on it… but me personally, I might sneakily ask her FI. hahaha 🙂
ETA: If I was in this situation, I would only ask as a retaliation of sorts, because it sounded like she insulted your ring, and I’m kind of catty like that. But if she hadn’t made that remark, I would stay out of it.
Post # 4
Nope. Does it really even matter?
Post # 5
Its quite possible that she wasnt aware that it wasnt a diamond? I personally wouldnt know the difference between a white sapphire, diamond or to be honest cubic zirconia?
I dont know why her FI wouldnt have said something but maybe he wasnt sure? Im not sure of their situation?
Post # 6
Wow… I would not have said anything just in case her FI hadn’t told her it wasn’t a diamond and she really thinks it is.
However, if she knew it wasn’t a diamond, and I knew it wasn’t a diamond and she had gone off the way she did about my ring, I would have said something.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t say anything usually…but in this case I surely would have been tempted to “bust her bubble” since she wanted to be all insulting and competitive about the size. I probably would have said something like…”Your ring is gorgeous…white sapphires are SOOOOO nice but I preferred a diamond for my e-ring”…..catty I know but she earned it.
Post # 8
No I wouldn’t personally. Its weird though. I got engaged to today as well (YAY). But I didn’t even tell anyone or show anyone until asked about it, because I’m super shy like that. Anyways, I noticed my diamond ( Great quality) sparkles in uch different light, and the brilliance settles in others, so perhaps it is a real diamond but it just lacks the sparkle due to lighting conditions?
Post # 9
@lynzlu077 – Does what matter? If its real or not? No, like I said I don’t care if someone wants to pass off their ring as a diamond and under any other situation I wouldn’t say anything, but she insulted my ring and the b*tchy part in me wanted to be mean right back so thats what brought up my curiosity.
@Miss Sydney – I thought the same thing but she mentioned that she helped pick it out and that it came from Zales so she HAS to know…right?
Post # 10
I would not call anyone out on the authenticity of their ring. It really isn’t my business. Maybe she really doesn’t know it isn’t a real diamond, and you never know, it could be a real diamond, but just not a very good one. I also don’t think she meant anything by her comment about your ring. I think she was just caught up in the excitement of her engagement.
Post # 11
Wow, most of the PPs (and the OP) are better people than I am, it seems! I would absolutely have gotten caught up in the moment and said something like what JamaicaBride said: “Your ring is gorgeous…white sapphires are SOOOOO nice but I preferred a diamond for my e-ring! and then of course I would have regretted it after. Not worth the drama!
I agree that there’s nothing wrong with non-diamond e-rings, but the catty remarks would have bugged me for sure.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t. Why cause drama. It may be a diamond and you just don’t know it. I’ve seen stones that I thought were CZ, but they were just low quality diamonds. I have a moissanite and I don’t try to pass it off as a diamond, but just for fun we went to go have it tested at several places and it passed the diamond sensor test at Jared, Kays, Zales, a local spot called LD, and Helzberg (even though they sell moissanite) Even looking it at it under a loop and microscope, those experts couldn’t tell. The guy at Jared and a woman at LD said the stone was at least worth $15k. The other places wouldn’t give it a price.
Her FI may have lied to her and told her it was a diamond and it really wasn’t. I’ve seen asha, moissanite, and diamonds side by side and you can’t even tell the difference in photos without for real starring at it for 20 minutes.
Post # 13
Normally no, I would think it rude and not my business to comment on someone’s ring, but in your case, yeah it would’ve bugged me enough to say something. I hate it when people lie about something blatant and assume everyone else is stupid enough not to know the difference. Then on top of it trying to insult your ring while bragging about hers? Totally not cool.
Post # 14
No I wouldn’t call her out. It wouldn’t be my place to tell her that it’s not real.
I wouldn’t take offense to her response about how it’s nicer than yours. Of course, you’re going to think your ring is going to be nicer than anyone elses. She said your ring was nice, at least. And honestly, anyone who has a bigger diamond than me is going to think there’s is better. Some people think size trumps everything. Personally, not me. The only thing I know is that I wouldn’t want anything bigger than what I have. My ring and diamond is perfect for me.
Also, your cousin probably doesn’t know it’s real. She probably doesn’t have an eye like you do. I wouldn’t want to ruin her happiness and I don’t really want to. I hope she finds out on her own or maybe her FI will tell her later. Like I said, it wouldn’t be my place to tell her.
Post # 15
Oh wow – she has to know its not a diamond – thats just rude! Maybe say something in private if she says something again? You dont want her bad mouthing your ring for no good reason!
Post # 16
Ditto, meliss! That’s exactly how I feel.
In this situation I would want to find out for sure. Ask her to see it up close. I still wouldn’t say anything in front of people, but then at least you’d know. What I would do, however, is say “Wow, rude” in response to the way she was very obviously flaunting her “big rock” and trying to make you look bad. Bleh. I hate people like that.