Post # 1
I was on Facebook & i happen to notice a post where a woman sent in her rant. pretty much saying she has been engaged since sept & how her & her FI looked at rings in Oct & Now its Dec & she still has NO RING! she was really upset about it. the ring she fell inlove with was 150$.. she got SO MUCH negative feedback. people called her petty & materialistic. i was engaged for a little over 3yrs without a ring. we started planning our wedding without one. but i can see where this woman is coming from. its a nice symbol, it shows he’s serous & lets face it.. what girl wouldnt want to show off her ering?! so my question is would you care if you didnt have an ering?
Post # 3
FH didn’t consider us engaged until I had a ring, so it was obviously a big deal for him.
For me… Yeah. I’d probably be upset if I didn’t have one. Even if it was CZ and sterling silver or a band or something… I want a ring.
Post # 4
I would care because I love the symbolism behind it… However I would NEVER EVER post on facebook if I didn’t have one and wanted one! That’s just–I hate to use the word but I’m gonna–tacky!! And rude! I would quietly mention that having a ring as a symbol is important to me…. But that’s not to say I would need an expensive ring… Any ring that would last the years would do 🙂
Post # 5
honestly it would upset me
Post # 6
@Ms.GoodEarth: Definitely! Posting it on Facebook is where she went wrong, not for wanting the ring to begin with.
Post # 7
Would I REALLY care? No, it is just a symbol.
It is a damn nice symbol. It is a very clear message, and it is nice looking down and seeing it on my finger. My e-ring is a second hand cluster ring (.2ct). I love it. Should she be shamed for wanting $150 worth of ring? NO FREAKING WAY!!
But ranting on FB isn’t a good move.
Post # 9
I didn’t feel engaged until I had a ring, though I agree that you don’t need a ring to be engaged. I love having it, and looking at it, and thinking about my husband asking me to marry him. I don’t much care about the cost of the ring (I had a $20 promise ring once, and treasured it), but I really enjoy having a ring. On the other hand, I wouldn’t rant about it on Facebook. I maintain that Facebook is not the place in my life for those types of things.
Post # 10
I know my SO thinks the ring is a big deal, and I think it’s romantic and thoughtful of course, but if he didn’t give me one I definitely wouldn’t go ranting about it on Facebook. To me, that’s rude and embarrassing for her FI. It’s supposed to be a sweet gesture; publically complaining until you get one (especially on Facebook, not some anonymous site, but a site where all your friends and his friends can see) really does come off as kind of petty.
Post # 11
Absolutely not. I don’t put monetary things on my love. If he had said, “Hey, lets get married some day.” my response would have been the same.
Post # 12
It’s a symbol, token of his love. Nevemrind it helps mark that you are off the market (or taken).
My FH got me a ring that he tried to go expensive (got jipped) and isn’t my style at all (He realized this before I did). He wants to get me a new one (I’ve told him not to bother) but the fact he’s actually trying to set things right – because he wants me to know he cares and its a symbol of his love for me he wants me to wear for a lifetime.
Post # 13
I would be disappointed but wouldn’t show it if he proposed without one, but completely hurt if I didn’t give one to me within a month or so.
Post # 14
i would not consider it an engagement without the ring. That’s just my view.
Post # 15
I’m gonna write-in “other.” First of all, I agree that it was majorly tacky of her to spout off on Facebook about it. I don’t understand people airing dirty laundry (of sorts) on FB. Secondly, during my first engagement, I told him that I didn’t need a ring and for him to take the money he would have spent on the ring and start a savings account specifically for the down payment on our first house. I also insisted on a blingy, phat-ass wedding ring, but that’s another topic. However, since he didn’t have to get me a ring, he also felt he didn’t need to go through the process of a proposal.
Did I miss it? Honestly, a little, but at the time I really really wanted that house, and I was willing to do whatever I could to make it happen. Good intentions and all of that…
FFWD to today. When FI and I started talking about marriage, I said that I wanted a proposal for sure and that the event was a much bigger deal to me than a ring. I left it up to him whether to get me one, but I put the same condition on it that I’d want a faboo wedding ring if I didn’t have an e-ring. Well he got me a beautiful, well thought-out e-ring AND got the proposal right. Well, the second time around, haha, but that’s another story for another time. Would I be missing a ring now if I didn’t get one? I don’t think so, but I have to admit I look at my ring all throughout the day and smile.
Post # 16
We didn’t actually plan on getting one at all. But then right before we got officially engaged, my mom gave me the diamond my dad gave her. And since I was going to get it set into a RHR anyways, we figured we could just have it set and I’d wear it on my left hand.
So, no, I wouldn’t care. I did notice, however, that vendors etc. started taking me more seriously when I had the ring. I would have found it annoying having people be suspicious about whether I’m engaged the whole way through.