Post # 1
My Fiance is out of town right now, and yesterday I told him how I was so bored with nothing to do without him, I spent all night on Weddingbee and ended up on the little “Leaders” board on the right of the screen. I was just talking to him again now, and he says, “I see you’re not a “Leader” yet today.”
Don’t know how I feel about that…. On one hand, I’ve never said anything about him that I wouldn’t want him to read or hear. On the other hand, I have talked about past boyfriends and relationships in detail I don’t think he needs to know. Nothing I wouldn’t tell him if he asked, but I doubt he would enjoy reading it any more than I would enjoy reading about his past relationships. I just feel a little like he was listening in on my conversations without me knowing, but I’m not legitimately upset. A little on guard, I guess.
I’m wondering where other bees fall. Think about everything you’ve posted. Would you be totally fine with your Fiance reading it? Does he already know your ID? Waiting bees, would your boyfriends care if they knew? What about your BFFs? Your inlaws? Just curious 🙂
Post # 3
I would be A OK with anyone I know reading what I wrote. I tend to write how I would say it in person so that doesn’t bother me and I would also have a conversation with a person that I was having an issue/arguement with rather than posting about them on the internet but that is just me!
Post # 4
No thank you. This is my private little escape and I would find it weird if that’s how he is spending his time! I don’t say anything bad, but I’d like to keep weddingbee to myself.
Post # 5
SO reads my posts from time to time. It doesn’t bother me, but I wouldn’t want anyone else reading them because SO and I aren’t engaged yet and they would think I’m a total wackadoo for being on here!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t want anyone reading my posts because I feel like this is my private space. I’m pretty anonymous on here. It’s not that I’ve written horrible things, it’s just that I value my privacy and I don’t want everyone in my business. I come on here and post because I can get unbiased opinions, unlike the opinions I would get if I were asking friends/family/FH. I also get to vent about things that I wouldn’t really bring up with anyone in real life.
Post # 7
I would not want anyone at all to see what I post. This is my little get away from all those people.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t want anyone I know reading my posts. If I wanted them to know, I would’ve used my real name and picture! Throughout the planning process, I ranted a lot and I wouldn’t want these people to see how frustrated I got.
Post # 9
I was thinking about this today, actually!! I wouldn’t mind my fiance reading my posts – generally I post something to vent about it or get feedback, then discuss it with him after I’ve calmed down a bit, though I would prefer it if he didn’t.
I wouldn’t want my future-in-laws reading this at all, because a lot of my posts are about frustrations I have organising the wedding with them involved (though I’m pretty close to them generally).
Luckily my future-in-laws have no idea how to use a computer, and my fiance knows that I do go to forums where I talk about stuff that he either doesn’t need to know, or that I’ll share with him down the track. I’ve been a member of a sexual violence forum in the past and, while he was initially concerned about me posting stuff, he had a read of some of it and realised it’s just a place for me to vent, not a place for me to keep secrets from him.
Post # 10
Not that I have anything to hide but i like that this is my private place to talk about things I feel and share my opinions with other bees. I don’t wanna share! That being said of he snooped it wouldn’t beeee the end of the world
Post # 11
i doubt anyone i know even knows i have this Board and if they do know and they read it i dont think they would care what i post about i dont really vent much about anything just need a lot of advice on head pieces and hair styles lately LOL
Post # 12
@MsJ2theZ: haha I see what you did there 😉
I agree with you ladies, for me it’s just a great place to speak freely, not necessarily to keep secrets. I wonder though whether any SOs or family that found out would just let it go, or if they would come here first just to check up on us and make sure we’re not up to no good….
Post # 13
My Darling Husband does read some of them! Lol! Other than that, I would like to keep it private because I see the WB as my personal get away from the real world. lol. But if other’s did read, oh well!
Post # 14
I’m not hiding any dark secrets or anything but I would feel weird if real life people found my posts… As other PPs have said, it’s like our own little escape.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
I know one of my relatives does. *waves*
Post # 16
There’s no privacy online! If you don’t want other people reading stuff, then it shouldn’t get posted.