Would you change the date?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Would you change it?
    Yes : (4 votes)
    9 %
    No : (35 votes)
    81 %
    Maybe, I'll explain : (4 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would only change it if it were a big anniversary (such as their 50th or maybe even their 25th) and they would have their own party or be gone to celebrate.  Otherwise I wouldn’t worry about it.  There are only so many days in the year and odds are whatever one you pick will have special meaning to someone (birthday, anniversary, etc.).

     

     

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @RunsWithBears:  I agree only if it was a big anniversary other then that don’t worry about it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Laurenplusalex:  Very true once the date is almost set in stone so to speak discuss it with them chances are they probably won’t mind.

    Post # 8
    Member
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wouldn’t change the date nor do I think it’s necessary to ask if they mind. They don’t own the date just because they got married then.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    If June works for you all, then change it to June. No one “has” a wedding date until things are booked, so it’s all theorhetical for now anyways.

    Post # 10
    Member
    855 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would ask the family members in question and get their take on this. My grandparents used to celebrate every 5-year anniversary, but my parents wouldn’t care at all. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t think they will mind. if it really is a big deal to them and they want to celebrate they can do it the night/week before or after. And you could always make a mention of it in your speech to acknowledge it.

    Post # 12
    Member
    3500 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t think it’s a big deal. Just ask if it’s an issuefor them. We got married 1 day before my parents’ anniversary and never thought about it as a problem. We wished them a happy anniversary at breakfast the next morning.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1634 posts
    Bumble bee

    I wouldnt change it, but i would ask if they minded. If they were planning a big celebration I would consider changing it, but otherwise i would keep it. I’d probably ask them to come up and have the DJ play their wedding song so they could have a special dance at the reception! 35 years is a huge accomplishment, and I would love to honor lasting marriages at my wedding 🙂

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    9907 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @RunsWithBears:  ditto.

     

    I personally didn’t want to get attached to a date in case I fell in love with a venue that wasn’t available on said date.  If you’re set on the 2nd, then ask the couple, as long as it’s not a milestone anniversary I wouldn’t worry.  It’s possible they’ll decline to attend or cut the evening short for their own private celebration but if you’re okay with that possiblity then I don’t see it as a problem.  No date is going to work for everyone, you have to do what’s best for you and (IMO) the largest number of people

    Post # 15
    Member
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Nope, I wouldn’t change it. That was “their day” years ago – they don’t get to keep it every year since then too. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    855 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2008

    @Laurenplusalex:  The notion that you shouldn’t have a wedding on someone else’s birthday, anniversary, date of death or whatever comes from young people. A couple married 35 years is likely not to care what day you get married on. It doesn’t change the fact that they already got married on that day and they likely don’t feel like they can’t share that date with anyone else. It’s the younger, it’s all about me, let me be special generation that feels like no one can do anything on any day that ends in Y within 9 months of them getting married, having a baby, experiencing their first kiss or buying a new yellow blouse.

    Have your wedding on whatever day you choose.

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