Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
Rant time, here I go….
FI & I are still having quite a difficult time deciding on a venue. We love the idea of a semi-destination wedding weekend in the Lake Tahoe Area. We both fell in LOVE with the The Ritz-Carlton, Lake Tahoe. If our 300+ person guest list was smaller or our budget was larger, it would have been easy to say our search was over. No question that it would be a perfect spot for us. However, with the number of guests we would have attend, the cost of the reception will likely put us over budget. And yes, it MAY be possible to do it there we would have to cut costs as much as possible on EVERYTHING else, from photographer to flowers, etc.
There is a venue in S Lake Tahoe with beautiful lakeside views that is still in the construction phase, due to open the late this year (http://www.thelandingresortandspa.com/ the website is basically concept info at this point.) My dad’s company is doing the construction so when the owner heard I was getting married he said, “what do we need to do to get your daughter to have her wedding here?” They are wooing us and we would get HUGE cost by choosing them. We’d have the majority of our budget to use for upgrades & extras. As my dad put it, “At the Ritz we will have to worry about the included 3 hour open bar, vs the cost of the upgraded 6 hr bar… at The Landing we could have open bar for the weekend.” We could have a hotel buy out for the weekend. And although it is smaller & not all of our guests would be able to stay there (there will be close to 80 rooms), we’d be able to reserve blocks at other nearby hotels.
My FI is having a VERY difficult with the concept of choosing a venue with no proven track record. He is concerned by the way the venue will be run and doesn’t trust they will operate in a way that would ensure our guests a good weekend. We “discussed” about this for over an hour on Friday night, which led to me tearful and him frustrated & us not communicating well. Him: “fine, whatever, do what you want, I don’t have a say since your dad’s the one paying…”
I hate the idea of planning a wedding in a place that he hates and would not want to do that to him. But, I believe it will end up being a fantastic venue. I just think he’s stuck unable to vision the outcome I can vision and I don’t know how to get him to be more open-minded. On one hand he says I don’t care where we get married, I just wantto marry you and for our guests to have a great time… then he basically says if we can’t have The Ritz, screw the big wedding, why bother, let’s elope.
We had out of town guests and a very busy weekend, so haven’t talked about this since Friday night. I know we need to get the elephant out of the room, talk it out, and come to a decision. Argh, what to do?
Post # 3
For a wedding this would be SO stressful. I get stressed out about just 1 vendor.
But for a place not done what happens if they don’t finish? oh man its giving me anxiety for you!
Post # 4
Like PP mentioned, I would be VERY nervous about them finishing on time. These things get pushed back ALL the time, and just because your dad’s company is heading up the construction doesn’t mean it will all unfold as planned… the venue might need to halt construction for some reason or another or funding might fall through and it might not end up being quite the gorgeous facility it was planned to be, you know?
Post # 5
@KDOS: That would prove to be too much for me to handle but, if you have faith then maybe push the date back to garentee that they finish beforehand. Also understand they probably won’t have a work system down and therefore things may come across as amateur. However, there is a chance they will put a lot of extra effort into your wedding just so they can start their reputation on a good note. I would go with your gut on this one!
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
Just to clarify, the venue is set to open November of this year & our wedding wouldn’t be unti October of next year. I’m told they already have a few weddings booked for spring. I don’t want to be anyone’s first wedding!
Also, I am hiring an outside wedding coordinator from a well respected company.
Post # 7
@KDOS: Honestly, I was going to say….if you were going to be the first wedding, HELL NO don’t do it…but since your wedding is a year after it opens…maybe you guys can wait until they get some reviews first, and then decide. I’ve worked in new restaurants where things were so hectic and unorganized that customers were pissed off all the time.
I think its great that you could save on the cost of the venue and have more money to put towards other things. You shouldn’t have to spend all your money on the venue itself. As for having guests stay at nearby hotels, as long as the other hotels are pretty close nobody will have a problem with it.
Suggest to your guy that you guys wait a little bit to see how the hotel does when it opens.
Post # 8
Personally I would be nervous – sometimes things happen and things don;t go according to plan therefore delaying the opening.
However you did say your Dad’s company is in charge of construction so you would first hand know the updates of the place.
To ease your FI I would make a list of pros and cons. I can see what his saying about SERVICE. I’m sure that the amenities would be impeccable since it is NEW – but there has been no other weddings there. I would look at other venues in the area as well – that fits better within your budget.
Post # 9
@KDOS: I would say go for it since it is opening within the next few months and your wedding is over a year away.
ETA……but I am cheap so I love a deal.
Post # 10
@KDOS: have you seen the progress of this new venue? your dad wouldn’t want it if it wasn’t going to be complete. i can understand how you and your fi feel about this new place but your wedding is a year after they open. surely they will have all of the bugs ironed out by then. it sounds like a great deal.
Post # 11
nope, i wouldn’t. i wanted a place that had a ton of experience doing weddings
Post # 12
@KDOS: no don’t do it. A lot of times they dnt finish when they r supposed to. it will cause undue stress
Post # 13
I think since your date isnt until October next year when they open in November you still have a bit of time. And since other people have already booked that might help him be more open minded. I think I would do it if it meant being in budget and my guests having a good time with the open bar/ hotel buyout thing.
Post # 15
We went with a venue that was under new management. They had only 1 wedding review on YELP. But the review was raving.
Well, our wedding was about 2 years out. And over the course of time they began to develop their policies and procedures etc. They changed or eliminated things from our original contract numerous times. We called them on various things and each time they’d say well we changed this policy in May or blah blah (and never told us) but agreed to do us a favor and go ahead with what we had originally agreed to…a favor?? Not an obligation to follow through with their contracted agreement. And then come the wedding, they did pull a bunch of crap and sucked big time.
One of the biggest things was that they changed their check-out time. The contract said 12pm and then for the next two years they’d repeatedly change our timelines etc to say 11am. And this was unacceptable since we had OOT guests staying at the venue and invitations and rsvps had gone out and come back.
It was a f******* nightmare.
BUT…going back to that first review. I do believe they had an excellent wedding. And I think it had much to do with the fact that they were new and willing to do anything to make it great and it souds like they did. For them.