Post # 1
Hi Bees! 🙂
So we recently got the diamond we ordered in the mail and although it is absolutely gorgeous, I have to admit that I expected it to be bigger. When I thought of a 3 carat diamond on my 5.5 finger, I expected it to look pretty big. I am not in any way a brat, or into materialistic things, but I don’t ever wear any jewelry and I figured if I was going to wear one piece I wanted it to just be a “WOW” piece. Now with that being said, we can afford to go a little bit bigger, since neither of us want a big wedding and we already own a home and new cars and all of the things that most people our age are saving for (I’m 23 and he’s 28). We are also using his grandmother’s setting so we only have to pay for the diamond. To go from a 3 carat to a 4 carat (which is what I really want) is a very big price jump. My current diamond is a 3.11 carat, F color, VS1. My friends who I have shown the diamond to have told me to keep it rather than possibly compromise the color or clarity to get a bigger diamond and stay within a reasonable price range.
So, in my situation or just in general, would you keep what you have because of the color/clarity or opt for something bigger in size even if it isn’t as great quality.
Again I didn’t start this thread to sound like a brat or to have negative feedback, I’m just asking an opinion. Some bees prefer smaller rings, some prefer bigger. I happen to love bigger diamonds and have always had my heart set on something really big even if that meant giving up a gigantic wedding. I don’t see the point in spending $20,000+ on a wedding reception that will last 4 hours, as opposed to putting it into a diamond that will sit on my finger forever. I am not in any way bashing couples who choose to have extravagant weddings, it is a matter of taste, I am only pointing out how I feel and wouldn’t want any negative comments toward my choices because they are, in fact, mine. I think rings of all sizes are gorgeous, and it is the sentiment behind them. With all of this said, if my SO could only afford a half carat diamond that would be fine. But knowing we can afford to go bigger makes me think that that’s what I should do. Any (positive/helpful) feedback is appreciated!
I posted a previous thread with a picture of the diamond. It’s not a great picture because I’m new to this whole thing and don’t know how to get a great shot yet lol
My boyfriend said he was convinced it would look bigger once it was in the setting so I took some fun tack (blue sticky stuff used like tape or thumb tacks) to stick it to a band I had at home just to get an idea. lol Makes the stone look ugly but it gets the job done.
Post # 3
I also thought of maybe adding a halo instead but I’m not sure how I feel about halos with a plain band? Any pictures of that would be helpful!
Post # 4
@amanda1221: I think it looks fairly substantial as is. Personally, I would “sacrifice” color, but not clarity for size. A large, cloudy, included stone is not beautiful to me. Color can suffer, but not clarity.
Post # 5
I must say I would have thought it would have looked bigger too. Is it a very deep stone or something? At any rate, I would go down to eye clean clarity and as low as you are comfortable with in color. I don’t like “high” colored diamonds, so an F would be too “White” for me.. Depends on your color sensitivity/preference. Maybe go to some stores and check out the colors..
Post # 6
I wouldn’t. I think that stone is plently big.
Post # 7
If I had to I would sacrifice color but not clairty. Lucky for me my husband got me a high quality diamond thats a 1 carat, so I’m happy! 🙂
Post # 8
@amanda1221: Wow! your diamond is amazing! I think it’s huge! I Wouldn’t sacrifice any of the four C’s to go up a carat. Your diamond looks so white and sparkly!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion
Nope. I have an Ideal/F/VS1 stone myself and prefer its quality to something larger, particularly given that your stone is already large. I think what you have is gorgeous!
Post # 10
I’m going to ignore the size of the stone because its putting mine to shame….now that that’s aside…
It depends on what your definition of ‘sacrifice’ is and what the cost difference is going to be. My diamond is a G. I am color sensitive and was OK with it because its still white to the majority of people. It was also in budget to get a larger carat. My Future Sister-In-Law is a F and my SIL is a D. With the 3 of our rings next to each other, you really can’t tell the difference unless you look at it from the side. As an aside, your stone reflects white light. As long as the cut is superb, it will nearly always be white.
As a PP stated, I would be careful about lowering the clarity. It depends on the types of inclusions and where they are located within the stone.
FWIW I think the stone you have right now is amazing. I wish I could have such a large stone and the age we share…
Post # 11
I probably wouldn’t go much lower in clarity in a pear, and I would prefer to stick with true colorless (DEF). Is it very sparkly? The pictures make it look a tad cloudy but I’m assuming it’s got to be just the picture. I think it looks huge as is! I’m not an expert on fancy shapes but you could go down to VS2 or maybe SI1 to get more carat, and maybe G in color.
Post # 12
I think there’s some wiggle room for the quality. I’d go down to VS2 and G/H and see what that buys in terms of size if that’s what you really want, butI wouldn’t go lower than that.
Post # 13
@BlondeMissMolly: It is very sparkly! It looks so cloudy in that picture because I have the sticky blue stuff holding it to the band.
@jpalm13: I am also very color sensitive and thats why I was worried about going down to even a G.
@blingbling: I expected it to be so much bigger. Granted we didn’t shop around much before getting this one so I’m not really sure what I expected. But when he took it out of the shipping box he said my excitement kinda dropped when I saw it. It broke my heart when he said that because I didn’t want to upset him in any way I guess I just expected something else?
Post # 14
@amanda1221: I would not go for the bigger stone, unless you can keep it in the D-E-F color range and have a very good cut (since fancy shapes don’t come in “ideal”) and a high clarity grade. The larger the stone, the more obvious flaws will be. The color will show warmer, the cut won’t sparkle the same. And to be honest, I would look at and know you spend more money on size than quality.
However, if size matters more to you personally, then go for it. I wouldn’t make the same decision, especially since the one you have right now is very, very pretty.
Post # 15
Honestly, i think anything bigger will look really tacky.
Post # 16
@amanda1221: ok that’s what I figured. I dont know–it does look pretty big, but I’ve also seen pictures of large pears that seem bigger. Is it well cut (ie not cut deep)?
Edit: what I would do is go over to pricescope and ask the experts there. Post in rocky talk and you will have responses in no time. They can help you decide before your return period is up.