Post # 1
My husband will soon be deploying for a year. I have never lived alone before and am dreading being in a big, empty house by myself for such a long period of time. I know I’m capable of living alone, but part of me is kind of scared.
The idea of getting a roommate has crossed my mind a few times, but I know that could be such a hassle so I’m just not sure. But I have no family in the area and few close friends, and I just have this image in my head of me sitting alone in my empty house for…a year.
DH doesn’t think it’s a terrible idea–I almost think he would prefer me not being alone. But I do enjoy my privacy…
Would you consider getting a roommate in this situation? If so, what is the best way to go about finding one?
Post # 3
I have had some pretty terrible experiences with roommates so I would vote no. I also love my privacy and would feel really weird having someone else living in my home.
With that said, Ive never lived alone for a whole year (I think 4 months was the longest i went) so I’m not sure how I would feel.
Post # 4
@Miss Sorbet: It depends for me: 1)If the house was large enough that I wasn’t tripping over a roommate, 2) we each had our own space (separate bedroom and bathroom), and 3) there was a really good candidate, I might be inclined to do it. However, I always worry what if they were secretly a psycho or klepto. =/
Post # 5
i will NEVER have roommates again. i had an extremely bad experience with roommates so i voted no.
if you decide to do it, the only site i really know of is craigslist and that’s a crapshoot.
Post # 6
It really depends. Having a roommate can be the WORST experience. I swore off living with women forever. (I have lived with LOTS!) I think it really depends if you can find the right person. It depends who you are and who they are… living with anyone is difficult, so it helps when you are loved and commited (like with your SO) and I find- short of that it can be very rough.
My sister still lives with roommates and honestly I don’t know HOW she does it (in her 30s, in NYC). Can you consider a pet? That will help you get out of the house a lot!
Post # 7
@Miss Sorbet: I would not. I’ve only had 2 roomates my whole adult life – my 2 best friends from junior high and we’ve all lived with each other for so long (almost 7 years) we know each other’s quirks and habits. I personally would not be roomates with someone that wasn’t a dear friend because things completely change once you life together! I’ve heard too many horror stories from other people.
Post # 8
No Way!! Living alone is awesome! Can you get a pet? They’re way better than roommates.
Post # 9
I would probably only get a roommate if I knew the person or know the people well who could vouch for the person. A stranger? no way.
Post # 10
I would probably get a pet. I like my privacy…and don’t mind being a long. But then again I’ve never had this happen to me. So I might think differently if it were me. i don’t know. Roommates can be a pain in my opinion. I’ve lived with others before. Bu the only person I don’t have a problem living with is my FI. I think thats because he is anal about certain things too. lol
Post # 11
I had two roommates in college, and I never want one again. I would love living alone.
Post # 12
Roommate situations just never worked out that great for me. I love love love having the house to myself, and I loved living alone when I did, so i’d probably not get a roommate unless I really needed one financially.
Post # 13
I have had a variety of roommates and honestly, I would rather get a dog and have to care for one than to deal with a roommate ever again. I get the whole being scared at night and whatnot but it’s really tough to find a good, reliable roommate nowadays. The only times I’ve seen it really work out would be when the people are already practically best friends and move in together.
What SIL used to do when she lived alone (no SO back then) was her BFFs took turns crashing at her house and vice versa. It worked out well for them and it was never a permanent situation, unlike roommates who do “permanently” live there.
Post # 14
I don’t mind living with roomates, and it is actually fun for me.
However, in your situation it is difficult, becuase it would be a stranger. Plus, how long is husband deployed? How will the lease situation look like?
What would happen if you husband came home months early? Would he be okay with your roomate finishing the lease? There are many components to think about….
Post # 15
I lived alone for 8 months, didnt have the option to find a roomate because I had to move ASAP away from my ex. It’s nice having the weekend mornings alone, but unless you’re going to get out with friends or something it can be pretty lonely. Ive also had awful roomates from college, etc. and I would honestly rather have awful roomates then spend the whole year alone! Everyon is different though, it all depends on your personality!
Post # 16
My last two roommates ganged up on me and emotionally abused me until the lease was up. It was absolutely miserable, I didn’t even have my own room. I’m usually a stress eater, it takes an extreme situation to make me stop eating. I lost 17 pounds while living with them in about 6 months.
The first roommate I ever had kept me so sleep deprived I was sick for 2 months straight, also horrible.
I would not get a roommate if it can possibly be avoided. I think pets are a way better way to go.