Post # 1
Convo with boyfriend right before he left for guy’s night at the Tilted Kilt to watch the UFC fights:
Me: You know it’ll be a year this December, since we’ve looked at rings.
Him: Well, who says I’m going by the first time we went and looked…
Me: That’s not fair, you better not be going by the date last weekend, when we went and looked again! I don’t want to wait another year from now! (We’ve dated for 9 years!) I don’t want to wait past this December.
Him: So you going to leave?
Me: No, but I’m going to give an ultimatum (in a playful voice)
Him: Well, I think Decemeber is acceptable time to wait til.
Does this sound like a hint?!!?!?!?!? Freakin’ out!!!!!
Post # 3
I guess it does? I would have thought he’d get upset at you even proposing an ultimatum, even a long-term one lol But I guess he knows your tone of voice and that you don’t really mean it. In which case, yes! To me it sounds like a major hint lol Yay!!
Post # 4
Hmm. I’m not sure, he could have been playing right back at you. Then again, he could be throwing you off his scent. The surprise factor is kinda lost after 9 years (we’re at 8 and it’s definitely gone, but he’s still trying to do it). Maybe he wants you to THINK you have to wait until December?
Regardless, I’d say you’re in the home stretch if you guys have been looking at rings for so long! Good luck and keep us posted!!!!
Post # 5
Thanks for responding!! He definitely is TRYING to throw me off so bad!!! He doesn’t give me a straight answer and if he does, he’s like, what…I didn’t say that. Trying to confuse me..ugh lol
He totally knew I was kidding with the ultimatum.
Why do men try to confuse us during this process?! It’s awful!!!
Post # 6
Oh man! Don’t even get me started. Whenever the engagement conversation comes up, my SO acts like he doesn’t even know what the word “engagement” means. He’s all “what?! we’re talking about what now?!!?”.
One time I was talking to my SO and sister about a crazy friend of mine (long story short, she basically has my entire wedding planned out and is more impatient than me) and my SO was all “WHat?!?! us? no way”.
I’m like nice try buddy. I know you have a ring. Bah!!! It’s sweet in a way, but I’m getting a wee bit tired.
Post # 7
@BadaBingBling: I read on one of your other posts you’ve been with your boyfriend for 8 years and started dated in your teens, correct?
My boyfriend and I will have been dating 9 years in October, and we’re 24 (you do the math 🙂
It’s been a long time coming, but I’m SO ready!
My boyfriend says the EXACT thing yours does! Drives me nuts!! Won’t give me a straight answer worth nothing!! I know he doesn’t have the ring though 🙁
Not sure when he’s going to get it. He leaves for an intern in Florida (we’re in GA) in 2 weeks. He’ll be gone until January 4th. Maybe while he is gone??
I love that we’re pretty much in the same boat!
Post # 8
Haha! Yep, we started dating when we were in high school. He’s 24, I’ll be 23 in a couple weeks. Definitely the same boat. 😀 It’s nice to know I’m not alone!
And my goodness!! That’s quite a long time to be apart! We went to different colleges and I studied abroad in Spain for 5 months, so I understand the whole long distance thing. It’s pretty lame, but does have its benefits. At least you can focus more on yourself for a bit 🙂
We’ve been living together for a year and a couple months. Seems like we’re kinda stuck in a limbo land and I hate it!
Post # 9
We’ve been living together for almost 3 years when he leaves. He’ll be gone for 5 months too, and everyday that it gets closer, I get more upset. I know it’s going to be so difficult.
I guess I sorta understand the ‘focus on me’ thing, but I’ve gotten so comfortable at taking care of ‘us’ that it’s going to be really different.
I’ll be able to see him once in Sept and once in November. We will miss our 9 year Anniversary in October, maybe he will surprise me? And he’ll be up for my graduation in December (hopefully). We will miss Christmas and New Years as well as both our Birthdays. It’s going to suck.
We went and looked at rings for the first time in December, then again in January and then a LOOONG break from looking and randomly looked last weekend, just at one place.
He knows exactly what I like. The only difficult part is both him and I like yellow sapphires (light yellow), so that I can imagine will take time to find.
He drops hints (if you read my other post) but then says I’m just looking for them lol. What a booger!
I have no idea when he will propose, I just hope it’s before the end of the year. It’d sure make his time gone go by faster! With work full-time, last semester of school and planning a wedding…that’d be heaven!!!
Post # 10
I could definitely see a surprise in there at some point 🙂
But wow, sounds like you’re going to miss some monumental days. Those could also be surpise opportunities too!
That really does suck. I don’t envy you there. 🙁 Hopefully it flies by!!! And hopefully there WILL be some wedding planning to do during the 5 months. When does he leave again? How far will he be? Can you drive?
And I LOVE sapphires!!!!!! I’m a white sapphire girl — thought about getting one for the e-ring, but apparently he already has one. He told me not to expect to get one though? Weird.
Post # 11
He leaves August 5th and will be home January 4th. He’ll be in Florida, I’m in Georgia. About 9 hour drive time. We’re planning two trips for me down there (flying). Once in Sept and once in Nov. We’ve never been apart longer than a week in the 9 years together.
Planning a wedding would make it go by so much faster! Anytime I bring up engagment lately, he’s been SO quiet about it. Not saying a darn word…
I want to ask him to give me something (something said) like before he leaves just to give me alittle hope and to keep my spirits up. But I don’t think he’ll tell me anything.
Yes, we both LOVE yellow sapphires. They are similar to yellow diamond, but more ‘green’ and unique. We always says we are you unique and we think it defines us well. I just don’t know how he would get a ring made, or set with a stone while down in Florida…I would think he would do it up here at his jeweler that he knows and trusts.
He has a ring of mine that’s worth about $2k and hasn’t sold it yet…
So basically he has 12 days to sell it or trade up at his jewelers…I don’t know what he’s going to do or when.