- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I keep thinking about something that happened with my Fiances bestfriend and his GF yesterday and looking to see what you think.
Back story my FI Bestfriend is dating my friend, neither FI or let’s call him T are very sociable , for example they are quite a few years older then me and I accept the fact that my FI had nothing in common with my friends and therefore I do not care if he is not interested in coming to my friends parties etc as I know he would be uncomfortable and I don’t want that , however T’s girlfriend M does not feel the same as me she gets cranky about it and in a way I can understand that her situation he has not met any of her friends at all or made an effort , she has a lot of male friends and I seriously cannot see T trying to make friends with them. However yesterday when she was testeknown it by a friend she got very defensive.
So the situation is that she is MOH in her friends wedding , she is friends with both the male and female that are getting married , so yesterday her and the male were texting and she said she had to get up early to take T to work (he doesn’t drive) and he responded saying F that get him to catch a bus so he can meet some strangers, M took this as an attack at T and basically told him to shut up and the friend responded with ” he’s got fucking problems, remember the conversation we had 7 months ago because I didn’t want a random dude at my wedding and you said fair enough but I don’t think he would come… I thought how rude is the prick , but it go and thought maybe I would meet the guy in a few weeks and he would see we aren’t bad people and want to come, I still haven’t met him and aren’t I right in saying he is anti-social”
I think M was expecting me to rant about it to when she told me, however although I disagree with how her friend went about telling feel his feelings I don’t think he was wrong in what he said I think it’s very rude that they werto going to invite T to their wedding and he couldn’t even be bothered meeting them. FI is no where near that rude, he has met all my friends we have hard dinners with my friends Etc .
so I guess I am just asking would you find this rude if you were the friend, if you were M would you defend your partner or would you be embarrassed and feel he was being rude?