Would you consider this to be rude ?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How would you feel ?
    I would me embarrassed that my BF did not want to meet my friend. : (17 votes)
    68 %
    I would defend him , how is it anyone's business who he does and doesn't want to meet. : (3 votes)
    12 %
    If I was the friend I would feel exactly the same way. : (2 votes)
    8 %
    The friend is over reacting : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Other (explain) : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    11722 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Sorry, I had a hard time following this.  However, from what I understood, here are my thoughts:

    I think the friend was rude and out of line.  While it is annoying to have people at your wedding that you don’t know, it’s expected.  She was invited as the MOH with a guest, and with guests, you sometimes get people you just don’t know.  We certainly had people at our wedding that we didn’t know, and it didn’t bother me in the slightest. 

    I would have defended my partner and explained the situation.  I would have apologized for the discomfort on all sides, but in the end, my loyalty is always to my partner.

    Post # 4
    Member
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think that her fiance is rude. There is no way that I could date a “man” like that.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3223 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MissAtoMrsV2014:  I think they are both rude.  The friend should not be making desparaging remarks about her boyfriend (even if they are true, which it sound like), but the boyfriend is also kind of a jerk for taking no interest in his girlfriends friends who are also clearly important to her.

    I am very, very, very different then my husbands friends and we really have almost nothing in common.  But you know what we do have in common?  Our love for hubby.  That alone is enough to make me want to spend time with them.  I just listen and try to learn about their interests. 

     

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    920 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    It’s almost like everything is wrong in this situation.  Personally I see no issue with someone bringing their plus one and it’s someone I don’t know.  Now I believe T should be atleast polite and meet them once if given the chance.  Frankly it sounds like M has been complaining about T to her friends.  I could be wrong but it just sounds like her friend said the exact same thing she’s been saying only M was no longer upset at T.

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