(Closed) Would you delay a gift to your parents if you needed the money?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yep! We didn’t give gifts to our parents–they knew we were paying for it ourselves and that was a lot of money! I think a raincheck is fine =]. We’re making a photo album for them for Christmas, too!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t give gifts to our parents. They didn’t expect it; I don’t think they’ve ever heard of such a thing. We’re giving them albums later, but we haven’t told them in advance about them. Our parents paid for everything because we’re broke, and they’d be upset if they knew we’d turned around and spent a lot of money on them.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

We’re giving them some nice frames (like $50 each) and then are going to tell them to pick their favorite photo from the wedding… so we’re buying the gifts half up front and half later.

 I doubt your parents would mind – I’m sure they understand it’s a tough situation! 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

We did that.  Not only did we not have the money but we did not have the time to get them a gift before the wedding.  We will be giving them their gift this month and they have no problem with it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I honestly don’t know if we’re gifting our parents. I think if we have the time/money to get something we will. Odds are we’ll do what another poster suggested and get them a frame and tell them we’ll purchase their favorite shot from the wedding.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think we’re going to buy our parents gifts, it sounds mean, but I know they won’t expect it and they might even think it’s strange since it’s our wedding (just our custom).

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think the best gift you may be able to give them is a heartfult not or card from the both of you.  It will mean more thean anything to them and won’t take a penny out of your budget.  Then at Christmas, you can do the photo book or frame as planned.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

We are "delaying" the gift–we’re getting them nice photo albums after the wedding, and that’s it. We have three sets of parents between us, and there really isn’t much we could buy them that would be meaningful, anyway.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Money was a little tight for us, too.  We wanted to get them SOMETHING, so I found custom embroidered handkercheifs at Etsy.com for the Mom’s.  My mom’s said, "Today a Bride,  Tomorrow a Wife, Always Your Daughter" and his Mom’s said, "Thank You For Raising the Man of My Dreams".  Both were "signed" with my name and our wedding date, and embroidered in green, (our wedding color).  They cost less than $20 each, and are a nice keepsake.  For the dads, we got socks that said "Father of the Bride" and "Father of the Groom"…they have them at Oriental Trading Co. or theknot.com (The Knot’s are a little more expensive but nicer…we bought "Usher" socks from them because OTC didn’t carry usher socks).  Those were under $10 each.  We are then going to surprise them with photobooks.  We didn’t plan to wait until Christmas, but we’ve had so much going on that it might be Christmas before we get them done!  🙂

But yeah, the point of my rambling was to say, if you want to, get them something SMALL, (I also like the idea of a note or card), and get them something a little nicer when you can afford it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

we only bought a nice bottle of wine for our parents as gifts and spend less than $50.  I don’t think it’s a big deal at all.  Lots of friends of ours didn’t even gift their parents a gift.  I’m not saying it’s not a good idea, I just don’t think it’s necessary or expected (at least in my circles)

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