Post # 1
My fiance and I are paying for our wedding ourselves and after our meeting at the venue the other day and crunching numbers we realized that we were a little short. Mainly because the venue increased their prices since we signed. We were prepared in our budget plan but that was based on the old prices a year prior. Apparently I misinterpreted the language in the contract – I thought we were locked into prices when we signed…apparently you aren’t locked in unless you’ve chosen your menu before the prices go up. Anyways, we had set aside $150 for parent gifts. I had no idea what we were going to get them and I don’t like the idea of giving them an empty picture frame. It will probably be good timing when we get our photos back that we will be able to create photo books for them for Christmas. I know $150 doesn’t sound like much but it will help close the gap we have but I’m having a hard time convincing myself to take that money. Time is running out, our wedding is at the end of August so there isn’t really time to scrounge up money anywhere. Also, we’re not having a bridal party so it’s not like I’m handing out gifts to others.
Would you do this and make it up to your parents later?
Post # 3
Yep! We didn’t give gifts to our parents–they knew we were paying for it ourselves and that was a lot of money! I think a raincheck is fine =]. We’re making a photo album for them for Christmas, too!
Post # 4
We didn’t give gifts to our parents. They didn’t expect it; I don’t think they’ve ever heard of such a thing. We’re giving them albums later, but we haven’t told them in advance about them. Our parents paid for everything because we’re broke, and they’d be upset if they knew we’d turned around and spent a lot of money on them.
Post # 5
We’re giving them some nice frames (like $50 each) and then are going to tell them to pick their favorite photo from the wedding… so we’re buying the gifts half up front and half later.
I doubt your parents would mind – I’m sure they understand it’s a tough situation!
Post # 6
We did that. Not only did we not have the money but we did not have the time to get them a gift before the wedding. We will be giving them their gift this month and they have no problem with it.
Post # 7
I honestly don’t know if we’re gifting our parents. I think if we have the time/money to get something we will. Odds are we’ll do what another poster suggested and get them a frame and tell them we’ll purchase their favorite shot from the wedding.
Post # 8
I don’t think we’re going to buy our parents gifts, it sounds mean, but I know they won’t expect it and they might even think it’s strange since it’s our wedding (just our custom).
Post # 9
I think the best gift you may be able to give them is a heartfult not or card from the both of you. It will mean more thean anything to them and won’t take a penny out of your budget. Then at Christmas, you can do the photo book or frame as planned.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
We are "delaying" the gift–we’re getting them nice photo albums after the wedding, and that’s it. We have three sets of parents between us, and there really isn’t much we could buy them that would be meaningful, anyway.
Post # 11
Money was a little tight for us, too. We wanted to get them SOMETHING, so I found custom embroidered handkercheifs at Etsy.com for the Mom’s. My mom’s said, "Today a Bride, Tomorrow a Wife, Always Your Daughter" and his Mom’s said, "Thank You For Raising the Man of My Dreams". Both were "signed" with my name and our wedding date, and embroidered in green, (our wedding color). They cost less than $20 each, and are a nice keepsake. For the dads, we got socks that said "Father of the Bride" and "Father of the Groom"…they have them at Oriental Trading Co. or theknot.com (The Knot’s are a little more expensive but nicer…we bought "Usher" socks from them because OTC didn’t carry usher socks). Those were under $10 each. We are then going to surprise them with photobooks. We didn’t plan to wait until Christmas, but we’ve had so much going on that it might be Christmas before we get them done! 🙂
But yeah, the point of my rambling was to say, if you want to, get them something SMALL, (I also like the idea of a note or card), and get them something a little nicer when you can afford it.
Post # 12
we only bought a nice bottle of wine for our parents as gifts and spend less than $50. I don’t think it’s a big deal at all. Lots of friends of ours didn’t even gift their parents a gift. I’m not saying it’s not a good idea, I just don’t think it’s necessary or expected (at least in my circles)