(Closed) Would you disclose your mental illness to an employer?

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It depends. I had to disclose pretty much everything about my personal life to my employer, so in my case yes since it wasn’t an option. If I didn’t have to then it would depend on my boss – how well I knew them, if I could gauge how they’d respond and how much I trusted them to keep the info between the two of us. I would have completely felt comfortable telling my previous boss any type of mental issue I might have, but my current boss? Hmm probably not, though like I said he already knows everything about his employee’s lives so it wouldn’t matter if I wanted him to know or not Undecided

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@tmsing:  No way. I used to work in HR, I could tell you horror stories. I give them as little information about myself as humanly possible.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I wouldn’t.  Technically you can’t be discriminated against based on mental illness, but it’s such a gray zone and employers can get away with a lot.  

Just say that you weren’t feeling well, and if you things like this keep happening and you HAVE to explain, say you have a chronic but very manageable illness?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Definitely not. Always give as little info as possible. Trust me, I’m in HR and those things unfortunately do label you.

I don’t know where you live but in Canada it’s against Human Rights laws for an employer to ask about your health in any way, all they need to know is that you were sick.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Can you get your doctor to write you a note explaining that you had a medical reason for your absence Friday, without mentioning your mental illness?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

@lolot:  Agreed. Chronic but managable sounds good… they won’t be allowed to ask for any further information and you don’t have to provide any.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@adoc86:  How come he knows everything?! Sounds like a nosy boss.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Not unless I were asking for an ADA accommodation would I reveal that kind of info. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsPanda99:  LOL. Well he is kind of nosy, but I work on federal investigations so us invesigators have been thoroughly vetted ourselves 🙂 If we don’t disclose it they find out anyway.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Absolutely not.  Never disclose that kind of information, unless it is absolutely required for the job itself.  If you think you can’t get fired for it, you’re dead wrong.  They’ll just claim it’s for a different reason, and you’ll never be able to prove otherwise. 

There IS an advantage to being female.  All you have to say is that you felt terribly ill on Friday, but it’s since passed.  Your boss will assume stomach flu (no one wants details), or your period sucked (again, no one wants details).  Also, you generally do not need a doctor’s note for being absent for a single day.  Standard is 3+ days.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@tmsing:  I think it really depends on your boss! My last boss I would never have told about something like this, but I’ve had to tell my current boss because I’ve gotten a psychiatric service dog since then. I rarely need to bring him to work, but it’s made it soooo much easier to handle my anxiety by being open with her!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

No way. I worked in a mental health setting and even there people were judgmental of mental illness. Go figure

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@tmsing:  I definitely would not disclose it. As other have said, even though it is illiegal to discriminate/lay off for this reason, doesn’t mean they won’t.

About your medication, this type of medication can lead to terrible withdrawal symptoms which it sounds like you were going through (nausea, anxiety, headaches, hot flashes, and all sorts of other nervous system issues). You really should not skip doses and definitely not for several days. Next time, try to get your script filled/transfered elsewhere. It is not good for your brain to go through withdrawal like this. The pharmacist know that as well, as these medications are labeled with warnings against discontinuing suddenly. I cannot believe they just sent you away.

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