(Closed) Would you divorce your DH if…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you divorce over hoarding?
    Yes : (95 votes)
    34 %
    No : (103 votes)
    37 %
    Undecided : (78 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I am Catholic and do not really believe in divorce except for extreme cases (i.e. domestic violence). I have a relative who is a hoarder and it can get very hard to deal with, but I don’t think it would be cause to give up on a marriage.

    Post # 4
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If it was as bad as some of the stories I’ve seen on the actual show, then yes. I wouldn’t be able to handle it. If he’s unwilling to get help, I’m unwilling to compromise my sanity and safety for him. 

    Post # 5
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    It would depend on the situation: if children were involved, if it was affecting my health. I wouldn’t necessarily divorce, but I would leave an environment that wasn’t healthy for me and/or my children.

    Post # 6
    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    If it was clear that he refused to get help then yes.  I wouldn’t want to suffer and I wouldn’t be able to see him suffering with his disease while he refuses help.

    Post # 7
    414 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Thats a tough one. I guess it depends on how bad it was and what he was hoarding. If he was hoarding trash and whatnot and it went on for years and years and he refused to get help, I could see it taking it’s toll on our marriage.

    Post # 8
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Fiance & I have talked about this haha- we both said if the other decided to choose stuff over the other person then they can have their stuff and the other person will say adios.

    Post # 9
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have made it very clear that I would divorce FH if he ever

    • goes to jail


    • buys me a mini-van


    lol. I’m serious about the mini-van!


    Post # 10
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If he was unwilling to change? Yes. That would mean he was prioritizing his mental illness over our marriage, our health, our finances, and the interests of our children.

    Post # 12
    2386 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yes. If he was completely unwilling to get help and change. 

    Post # 13
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Hmm, if he began hoarding it would be a major character change for him and obviously something way bigger than hoarding would need to be addressed…if he was unwilling to get help or he was so unsanitary that child services were threating to take our children…I think I would leave!

    Post # 14
    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I don’t know, so I can’t be certain, but if he was 100% unwilling to compromise, then I’m inclined to say yes. I’m not sure it would ever get to that point though, I’d be working on our relationship and other potential psychological problems way before it ever got to that point.

    Post # 15
    365 posts
    Helper bee

    I broke up with a boyfriend once over hoarding tendencies I began to discover after several months. We tried talking about it, but it was not something I was willing to get further involved with.

    Now, had we been married, or had we been together much longer, maybe I would have tried harder to work it out… but when you get a red flag like that one so early on, I think it’s best just to run.

    Post # 16
    1407 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yes, because it is a fire and health hazard.  Ever notice how many people on that show have asthma?

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