(Closed) Would you do it again?

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 4
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Bump! We are pretty set on eloping (just the two of us), but some friends and family are already turning on the pressure and hinting that eloping is selfish and/or that we’ll regret it.

Post # 5
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are eloping some time this year.  I don’t want to wait until October, but it’s his call as well. We are doing it mostly because of money.  We won’t be inviting anyone.  His family is another reason as to why we’re eloping.  I don’t feel as if we’ll miss anything, but it does kind of bum me out at times.  We plan to do a five year vow renewal though where we can invite people and have a celebration.

Post # 7
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We didn’t elope. However, if I could get married all over again I WOULD elope! The stress alone of planning our wedding (a wedding in general) was overwhelming and not worth it to me. Our wedding was a blast, but the 2 years of stress prior to that ONE evening of awesome? not worth it.

Post # 8
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I eloped and would do it again in a heartbeat. Our reasons were a combination of financial and the fact that neither of us REALLY wanted a huge affair. After getting engaged I started the planning process thinking I wanted a big wedding, but the more I planned the more I realized it just wasn’t for me. We also set our sights on buying a house and that became more important to us.

Telling our friends and family and dealing with some of the aftermath was the hardest part. It seems that the expectation of women is that we are all dying to spend a lot of money and have amazing, huge weddings. I love parties as much as anyone else, I just couldn’t justify spending so much money when I wasn’t loving the idea of a huge wedding.

We ended up having an extremely small wedding (under 15 people total, just parents, siblings, and one friend each). We had a short ceremony followed by a great dinner. The next day I told my husband that I wouldn’t have changed a thing, and the whole night was perfect.

My advice would be if you are thinking about eloping you will be happy in the end that you did it, although the part leading up to it might be just as stressful as if you were having a larger wedding. Everyone has opinions and many people will wonder to you why you aren’t having a “real” wedding. I had to remind many people that it was in fact a real wedding, it just happened to be significantly smaller then they were used to.

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