(Closed) Would you donate your eggs?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Would you donate your eggs?
    Yes : (85 votes)
    42 %
    No : (106 votes)
    53 %
    Other (see below) : (10 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I havent been through it, but I would do this for a sister.  I’ve never heard of it having implications for your future fertility, and I think the only changes to your body will be due to the hormones used to stimulate ovulation, and those are short term.  Bees who have experience here feel free to correct me if I’m wrong. What a wonderful gift:)

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have donated my eggs 3 times and plan on doing it a 4th time. My body has not changed and I feel just fine. Basically you go on an OCP for a month to get your cycle in sync with the recipient. Then you start on a medication to put you into menopause, temporarily. You then go off the OCP and wait until you get your period. After getting your period you start on medications (shots)  that make you produce eggs. You continue to do this for about 2 weeks and get an ultrasound and lab done every other day. When you get to the point of  the procedure to remove the eggs you then give yourself the HCG injection. Two days after you go in for the procedure. You then go under conscious sedation the procedure takes about 15 minutes. I felt perfectly fine after all 3 procedures. I hope this helps you on your decision! If you have any questions you canmessage me! 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If it was to an annonymous couple, no I would not donate my eggs.  But in the special case that you explained, I would do it.  I think it is very noble to want to help your sister.

    In order to do it, I believe you need to be on hormones for some time.  It should not negatively effect your chance of having children in the future. Your body may or may not change, I have heard of people gaining or losing some weight during the process.

    Two things I think you should be prepared for is one, that your sister may prefer to go with an annonymous donor and not with a family donor.  You might also feel emotionally tied to the child because you will be his/her biological mother.  You may feel totally okay with this or you made need to talk with a therapist about your feelings.  Just try to be ready for those types of things.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Theoretically to my sister, yeah. But from knowing them it would never happen because if they have issues having their own bio kids, they wouldn’t do expensive fertility treatsment and would adopt. But I wouldn’t even consider it for a random stranger. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I would see it as someone else raising my child (right or wrong, just my POV), and I don’t want that to happen.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    For a sibling I would consider it if my FI was ok with it.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I thought, but I could be mistaken, that medicine long ago turned away from using sperm and egg donation from family members. I heard somehting about it recently on NPR in fact. Maybe this is a preference and not a rule?

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee

    Personally I would not do it for my sister.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would for family, but not for a stranger.  I’ve done some research in the past on it, (it was about 5 years ago so things may have changed since then) and found some concerns about it.  Mainly you are put on a bunch of hormones, which some people do fine with and others experience a lot of issues.  When they actually retrieve the eggs, some women experience a lot of pain, and the possibility of future fertility issues.  Again others go through it with no problems at all.  We are still wanting kids of our own (I’m 13 weeks pregnant with our first child right now) so it would have to be someone pretty special for me to take the risk of donation.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Family yes. stranger no.

    Post # 14
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    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @serenitea:  I was an anonymous donor so I never found out. I would imagine that they worked since I did it 3 times lol

    Post # 15
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    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    One of my best friends did three cycles of egg donation, and I’m sure she’d be happy to give you some more information if you’d like. 

    From what I recall, the side effects she experienced as a result of the process were pretty minimal. Definitely some increased emotional volatility and I believe a little weight gain while she was on the hormones, but it was manageable; and the procedure itself I recall being very straightforward and no biggie for her. PM me if you’d like me to put you in touch with her.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Also, mentally–my friend was in a somewhat different position as you as re: possible future kids, because she knows for a fact that she never wants them. So she never had to consider the issue of feeling weird that her own children would have unknown biological siblings out there in the world… she actually joked, “I think my genes are pretty good, so it’s gotta be good to get them out there in the world!” Although obviously those biological kids of yours would not be unknown… but definitely a serious thing to consider.

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