Post # 1
My mom is interested in hosting either a rehearsal dinner or day-after brunch at her home, which is about 30-45 minutes away from our venue. I’m excited that she wants to do this, but am worried that it is too far for most guests. My thinking is that, if they’ve already spent Friday traveling to get to the area, they won’t want to check into their hotel then get back in the car for 30-45 min drive to a rehearsal dinner, and, if they have to hit the road on Sunday AM, they won’t want to first drive 30-45 mins for brunch.
The plus side is that we could afford to include a lot more people if we do something low key at home as opposed to a restaurant rehearsal dinner. I was thinking it might make a difference if we provided transportation for the dinner so people wouldn’t have to drive.
So, as a guest, would you want to drive that far for a rehearsal dinner or a brunch?
Post # 3
I would for a dinner – I doubt I would for a brunch! Unless it was a late (lunch time) brunch!
Post # 4
If I had just traveled by air and waited for my bags, then the rental car, then checked into the hotel – I wouldn’t be interested in driving to the rehearsal dinner if it were far away. But – if I lived nearby, or had transportation, or a decent carpool etc, I’d be fine with it. I think transportation would be $$ – why not work with your mom and friends maybe to set up a carpool situation? It could be fun! And people could mingle a little.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t mind driving at all to either one or both. Having it low key and at home means someone will have to prepare everything and also do the clean up. I wouldn’t want to put that on anyone. And I sure wouldn’t want to do it myself. It is nothing for most people to drive 30 to 45 minutes to get somewhere. Transportation for the dinner people would be great, especially if there will be alchohol.
Post # 6
Yes for dinner, less so for brunch (hangover….)
If the brunch were later and kind of a real event, as in a full meal, I would probably go. My after wedding brunch is just muffins and a slice of cold quiche, so if you are doing what I’m doing, I would have her host the rehearsal. If it is a full on brunch, I adore brunch and would drive that distance to be there.
Post # 7
Thanks for the input ladies!
Post # 8
People drive 30-45 mins all the time, no matter what the event. I wouldn’t have any problem with it.
Post # 9
I would be more likely for the rehersal dinner but probably wouldn’t for the brunch. The rehersal dinner you’re excited to see people and you’re already there so it’s not like other plans would get in the way. For the brunch you already hung out with people for the past two days and are kinda antsy to just get back home so I’d probably be a lot more likely to just eat something close by and leave.
Post # 10
I’ll be honest – I wouldn’t want to drive that far for either event – especially if I’d just travelled in from out of town. After flying, renting cars, finding the hotel, etc, the last thing I want to do is go travel far away (whether transport is provided or not).
I’ve been told that as a guideline, you shouldn’t ask guests to travel more than 15-20 minutes tops between the ceremony and reception (obviously sometimes this doesn’t work out). With that said, it seems a little much to ask them to drive 2x-3x that far for a rehearsal dinner or brunch, especially when there are a ton of places closer where you could hold the events.
Oh – and I rarely have to travel more than 20-25 minutes to go anywhere, Ember78, so I wouldn’t say that 30-45 minutes are common travel times for most people.
Post # 11
I would do the drive for either – but would rather do it for the dinner than the brunch on Sunday.
Post # 12
I agree with the other posters who said they’d probably do it for the dinner, but not the brunch. Unless my travel day was extremely taxing and exhausting, I think I’d be jazzed enough about the weekend that I’d be willing to drive that far for a rehearsal dinner. The morning after, however, I think I’d be too tired to get up early, especially with a long travel day (possibly) ahead of me. So I wouldn’t be very willing for a morning-after brunch.
Post # 13
I agree with the posters who said they would be more likely to drive for a reherseal dinner than a brunch. I guess it also depends on what my role was in the wedding party. For example, if I’m IN the wedding then I’m most likely going no matter what.
Post # 14
Sure. I drive 30-45 minutes to get to work every day. I wouldn’t bat an eye at it.
Post # 15
30-45 minutes is nothing where I grew up (Western Kansas where you have to drive at least that far just to a convience store, movie, etc.; Walmart is over an hour away); nor is it that far where I live now (Kansas City, which is quite spread out).
I personally don’t think many people will be upset or put off by a 30 minute drive.
Post # 16
Wow, i’m surprised people think that a half hour is such a big deal! Where i’m from (Texas) you can’t get anywhere in less than that. And where I live now (Boston) you’re lucky if traffic allows you to get places that quickly….and that’s if you can find parking. I think that’s perfectly acceptable!