Would you drive to a wedding that's 2 hours away? Or stay at a hotel?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Wedding starts at 10AM, you live 2 hours away, what would you do?
    I'd drive, which means leaving my house around 7:30AM : (172 votes)
    38 %
    I'd stay overnight at a nearby hotel, so I can sleep in more : (141 votes)
    31 %
    If I don't have a close relationship w/ the bride & groom, I'd only go to the reception : (47 votes)
    10 %
    If I don't have a close realtionship w/ the bride & groom, I wouldn't go at all : (85 votes)
    19 %
    Other (please explain below) : (4 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I would probably just go to the reception.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @fzesguer:  I would get up early to get there. Come on people! I get up way earlier than that for work. A wedding is a special day and I would do whatever I needed to do to be there. If I was family of the bride or groom, I might use that as a reason to treat myself to the hotel the night before. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    This is probably not helpful, but if there is someplace I want to stay, apart from the wedding (like it’s a resort town or family is around there) or if the hotel prices are really good, I would stay over.  Otherwise I would drive the day of and not think twice, especially since it won’t go late, which is my bigger concern.

    I live in SoCal, so 2 hours…that’s a one-way daily commute for many people, lol.

    Post # 6
    Member
    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Depending on my relationship with the bride or groom and where the wedding is located, I would drive in the morning of or stay in a hotel the night before. I wouldn’t skip a wedding because its in the morning.

    Post # 7
    Member
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @fzesguer:  Honestly? I normally HATE when people skip the ceremony but if I wasn’t close to the bride/groom, I’d probably just hit the reception in this case. Leaving the house at 7:30am in wedding appropriate hair/makeup/clothes would mean waking up at around 6 for me and yeah… I sleep in on weekends. I would probably have every intention of going to the ceremony and realize somewhere around 8 that I was too late.

    Post # 8
    Member
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @2BeeMrsE:  Oh ditto the “if I want to stay there” idea. I’m in LA too so I was thinking “OK… if I was invited to a wedding in San Diego….” Even then, though, I would only stay the night before if I was tight with the couple. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’d definitely stay somewhere if there were cheap lodging in the area. If not I might just go to the reception, if we weren’t close. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Morning weddings aren’t very common in my circle but I think if we were friends, we would be willing to get up at 7:30 a.m. We probably wouldn’t bother with a hotel unless the area is a resort area and we can make it a mini vacation. I don’t like to skip ceremonies and only go to the reception so for us, it would be all or nothing.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’d drive, no biggie. Of course I would have some delicious coffee, some tunes, and my handsome escort.

    The biggest reason is I like to get all dolled up with my usual bathroom set up. I usually prefer to have all my different makeup at my disposal, and the option to switch up outfit or accessories.

    Plus I’m cheap.

    Post # 12
    Member
    480 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    2 hours isn’t that far.

    I would probably stay in a hotel the night before but then I’m in England and we’re wimpy with long distances as it’s not a very big island.  However, if I couldn’t afford a hotel I would not concider it a big deal to drive there on the day.  I certainly wouldn’t miss the ceremony

    Post # 13
    Member
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @MexiPino:  Lol, I was thinking “Well, if the wedding was in LA…”

    Post # 14
    Member
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    It depends…my college town is 2 hours south of me, so I would get a hotel if it were there, b/c I know the area and could make a real trip out of it. Otherwise, I’d just get up early and drive. I have no problem giving up some sleep for a friend!

    Post # 15
    Member
    1788 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would definitely splurge to avoid having to wake up at 6 am to be out of the house by 7:30. Also, I would hate myself for it, but I would skip the ceremony if we weren’t close at all. Just out of curiosity, since you’re having a 10 am ceremony and lunch reception, is the ceremony a couple hours long or is there a gap?

     

    Post # 16
    Member
    2474 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’d drive. I’d absolutely HATE getting up so freaking early for a wedding (they’re a later in the day sort of thing, imo), because that means waking up at like 6 to make sure I can do my hair/makeup and grab some coffee.

    BUT I would absoutely do this for a friend. 🙂 

    Leave a comment


    Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

    Find Amazing Vendors