Post # 1
So in my planning for my wedding I have come across a few venues I love. Problem is is they are an hour from where I live and up to 2 or three hours away from some family. It is kindof in the middle of where all of my family is located so it shortens some drives but lengthens others. Also for all my out of state people it’s right by a major airport.
There are no good locations I know of near my town (I live in a small crappy town) and even if their were that makes some people’s drive up to 5 hours. So would you drive two hours to a wedding or should I just expect people not to want to come that otherwise would? The people I’m worried about are close family not distant relatives. I am thinking these locations because it’s in the middle so everyone would have to drive a little.
Post # 3
Our venue is in between mine and FI’s home town. Guests from my side have to drive 1.5 hours and guests from his side have to drive about 2.5 hours.
Post # 4
I sure would. I routinely travel 2hrs one way to see family on the weekends so it’s nothing to do that for something special like a wedding.
The earlier in the day the wedding is, the more likely that people are going to drive the 2hrs. But then you have to take into consideration that people may be drinking. (If you are serving alcohol)
Post # 5
@Corilee13: Are there hotels available near by?
I’d probably come, but I’d want to stay in a hotel rather than drive home that night.
I’d make sure hotels are available as you don’t want people having too much to drink or staying out too late and then trying to drive 2 hours home.
Post # 6
Of course. I think most people might get a hotel room, etc.
Post # 7
Yes I would, and have on several occasions.
Post # 8
Some of our friends (agroup that all came together) drove over TWENTY hours, about 1200 miles, to get to our wedding so obviously, yes, some people will. Others flew and then had to deal with a 3 hour ride (we drove them) to get to the location.
My spouse’s friends lived in the state where we married but they still had to drive anywhere between 2 and 4 hours, and these were people she had not seen since high school but they still made the effort and the drive.
So yes, I would, if it was someone I was close to and assuming I had proper notice (make sure people are aware of the distance as soon as you can).
Post # 9
I would definately. Just make sure you block off a set of rooms at a hotel so guests have somewhere to stay if they don’t feel like driving back at night 🙂
Post # 10
2 hours is minimal. I’d say 50% of my guest list lives OOT, but within 2 hours driving time. I’m hoping they think it’s minimal too!
Post # 11
I once drove 6 hrs to a wedding. The people who care about you will make the effort. Just make sure there are hotels nearby.
Post # 12
I don’t think 2 hours is unreasonable at all……but just be prepared because some people may.
If you are worried about people not coming because of the distance perhaps you could look at hotels in the area and get a cheaper rate for family members. It would mean extra work for you, but it would be worth it to have your family there. Also, a friend of mine was having her ceremony/reception basically in the middle of nowhere. She was also worried about people not coming, so she rented a school bus that picked people off at a central point and dropped them off there later. At first people were (very) skeptical and thought it was a bit tacky, but everyone on the bus had a great time, and were so thankful in the end. Maybe that’s an idea???
Post # 13
I was freaking out about people driving far and my wedding planner told me something that really helped- “If the people really care about you they will drive wherever on whatever day you want. If they are complaining then maybe they shouldn’t be invited” It made me realize that even if our wedding was far away I knew that our closest fam/friends would be there! Also, you can secure a cheap room rate/block and turn it into an almost detination wedding!
Post # 14
Oh yeah there are hotels near by. It’s in Portland Oregon so there are hotels and the airport and the venue all right there. Thank you all you all made me feel more comfortable about this. My mom was saying it would be too much of a drive for her but it’s the most fair location because everyone has about the same drive.
Post # 15
I am in three weeks! We’re staying for the weekend at a nice resort and getting pampered a bit. I’m SO looking forward to it!
Post # 16
i’d def come! especially if there are hotels available – who doesnt love to get away for a weekend especially for a wedding. i love staying in hotels so i would totally be up for it.
even if there are weddings locally, say at a hotel, i usually get a room so i dont have to drive home.